In this week’s Ask the Cyber Dating Expert column, we heard from Jennifer…or was it Valerie?
What’s in a name you might ask?
USA Today reported this week that the top baby names for girls were Sophia and Isabella.
So when Valerie contacted me to critique her online dating profile, I questioned why her user name was “MeetJennifer.”
According to Valerie, she believed that 47% of men liked the name Jennifer. She truly believed that she’d get more views of her online dating profile, with the result of meeting more men.
Apparently this trick didn’t work. In the top 20 list of most popular baby names for girls, Jennifer didn’t appear anywhere. It was all in her head.
You see, men don’t want to be tricked. They’ll view a large bouquet of profiles and decide which thumbnail photos appeal to them. Then, if intrigued by what they see, they’ll try to remember your screen name and will read a few sentences of your profile, which would hopefully lead to a short introduction email to get the digital ball rolling.
Although men are used to women lying about their weight and age, they would prefer that women would be honest about it. They’ll even go to great lengths and look at a potential date’s Facebook or Linkedin page to see if the photos match up. Once you start with a trick or a lie, they’ll always wonder what else you might be hiding.
While it might seem innocent to change your name on your profile, it isn’t wise. If you say your name is Jennifer, they’re hoping that Jennifer will answer the phone when they call. They’re happy to go on a date with Jennifer. But men are visual. It really doesn’t matter what your first name is, as long as you’re honest.
Valerie was going on coffee dates and explaining to guys that her real name wasn’t Valerie. This became confusing to men and took up a lot of time in the conversation. Many men wondered what else Valerie was making up if she’d change her first name to attract their attention. Valerie no longer became a top prospect to men, because of misleading advertising. She rarely went on second dates.
While you think I’m overreacting, I beg to differ. Valerie’s date card is empty and she’s still single.
The best advice I gave her was to change her profile name completely and not to include the first name of any woman, including herself. Have a catchy screen name that expresses what she’s passionate about. Let the real Valerie answer the phone, emails, and show up on a date.
A confident woman is what a man wants. It doesn’t matter what her name is. All that matters is that she’s real and he wants her to be his girlfriend.
My best advice is to toss out any insecurities or tricks to try to get the guy. If he’s interested, you’ll know it. When he’s lying in bed next to you at night, let him whisper your real name.
Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.
Julie Spira is an Online Dating Expert and was an early adopter of the Internet. She’s the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online and creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more online dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter.
Many thanks to ABC TV in Los Angeles for interviewing me on the subject of online dating and mobile dating in a recent segment on the news. They were kind enough to come up with this cute graphic of some of my Top mistakes you must avoid with Internet dating. Ready to fill your date card? I thought so.
With the holiday surge of singles joining online dating sites, here are some expert dating tips to help you stand out in the crowded digital playing field. In 20 years of online dating coaching, there is definitely a method to the madness.
Here are some Online Dating Dos and Don’ts.
1. Don’t include a list of turnoffs in your profile. We know you don’t like a guy who smokes, so rather than insisting on it in your essay portion, leave it for the multiple choice questions where you say you prefer dating a non-smoker. Once you start listing your dating don’ts, your potential date will view you as difficult and not being able to measure up to everything on your list. Stay positive and talk about things you’d like to do together as a couple instead.
2. Don’t say you want a drama-free woman. Unless you hated studying acting in college, saying you want a drama-free woman sends the message that your ex must have been emotionally draining. No one goes through life without “life lessons.” It gives people character. Guys who write about “drama-free” women are the one’s who have expectations that are too high. Besides, it’s a cliche that needs to be tossed out.
3. Don’t mention sex in your profile. Everyone knows that guys undress women with their eyes, so saying you’d like to meet someone sexy or having a profile user name with a few X’s in it isn’t going to score points. It’s the ultimate turn-off for a woman to read that in a man’s profile. She’ll assume you’ll want to sleep with everyone and anyone. Get it?
4. Don’t start instant messaging right away. Sure the squeaky wheel can get the deal, but being an eager beaver will backfire online. We know your digital crush is hot and you think no one else will get you the way he or she will. Stay out of the fantasy of feeling like you’re in an instant relationship. Sending an IM immediately after viewing his or her profile will send the message that you’re online all the time and could be IM’ing just about everyone. Don’t be that available. Send an email instead and ask if the person is comfortable with chatting online. Not everyone moves at the same digital pace.
5. Don’t tell a woman she is hot. Sending an email to a woman saying she’s “hot” is the equivalent of asking her to go to bed with you immediately. Don’t be surprised if she deletes your email and blocks you. Yes, ouch it hurts, but women want to be appreciated and loved, not looked at as a physical object. Think it, but don’t say it. Find another way to compliment her. Say you like her hot pink dress and that it looks amazing on her. She’ll feel flattered.
6. Don’t wait to long to ask her out. Most people don’t join online dating sites looking for a digital pen pal. Writing back-and-forth for a few weeks will make his or her feelings fizzle, not sizzle. If you feel there’s a connection online, graduate to a phone call and see if there’s any chemistry. If so, make a date to meet IRL. If you don’t someone else will.
If you practice some of these Internet dating tips, you’ll be filling your date card for the holidays. Who knows? You must just be kissing under the mistletoe this year.
What are some of your dating dos and don’ts?
Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam. xo.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and was an early adopter of Internet dating. She created her first dating profile 20 years ago and today, coaches singles on the dating scene who are looking for love online. For more online dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt.
Welcome to our Cyber Monday special at Cyber-Dating Expert.
This year, we’re making Cyber Monday so irresistible, that we’re providing 15 Magic Minutes of critiquing your dating profile, LIVE for FREE!.
That’s right. There’s no road rage, trampling on people in parking lots or getting out your credit card. We know the holidays are tough, so on Sunday, December 1st and Monday, December 2nd, sign up for our 15 Magic Minutes and schedule your free session to review your profile.
If you’re new to online dating, take that time to talk about your dating dilemmas for free. If you need some extra hand holding, we’re offering 15% off our popular packages including The Flirt, Going Steady, and Totally in Love.
To schedule your free session via phone or Skype, sign up below. This is limited to those who sign up on December 1st and 2nd, 2013 and sessions will take place during the month of December, 2013. Offer available to new clients only.
What are you waiting for? Sometimes the best things in life are free.
Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.
These inspirational quotes are worth sharing with your friends and loved ones.
1. “Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” –Oprah Winfrey
2. “When we focus on our gratitude, the tide of disappointment goes out and the tide of love rushes in.” –Kristin Armstrong
3. “Gratitude is a fruit of great cultivation; you do not find it among gross people.” –Samuel Johnson
4. “If you are really thankful, what do you do? You share.” ~W. Clement Stone
5. “An optimist is a person who starts a new diet on Thanksgiving Day.” –Irv Kupcinet
6. “Gratitude is when memory is stored in the heart and not in the mind.” –Lionel Hampton
7. “Friendships begin with liking or gratitude—roots that can be pulled up.” –George Eliot
8. “Thanksgiving dinners take eighteen hours to prepare. They are consumed in twelve minutes. Half-times take twelve minutes. This is not coincidence.” –Erma Bombeck
9. “Gratitude is the inward feeling of kindness received. Thankfulness is the natural impulse to express that feeling. Thanksgiving is the following of that impulse.” –Henry Van Dyke
10. “What soon grows old? Gratitude.” –Aristotle
11. “Gratitude is the inward feeling of kindness received. Thankfulness is the natural impulse to express that feeling. Thanksgiving is the following of that impulse.” –Henry Van Dyke
12. “I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought, and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.” –Gilbert K. Chesterton
13. “Gratitude is the fairest blossom which springs from the soul.” –Henry Ward Beecher
14. “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others.” –Marcus Tullius Cicero
15. “Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” –Melody Beattie
16. “Gratitude helps you to grow and expand; gratitude brings joy and laughter into your life and into the lives of all those around you.” –Eileen Caddy
17. “Gratitude changes the pangs of memory into a tranquil joy.” –Dietrich Bonhoeffer
18. “Happiness is itself a kind of gratitude.” –Joseph Wood Krutch
19. “Joy is the simplest form of gratitude.” –Karl Barth
20. “Gratitude is the most exquisite form of courtesy.” –Jacques Maritain
21. “Best of all is it to preserve everything in a pure, still heart, and let there be for every pulse a thanksgiving, and for every breath a song.” –Konrad von Gesner
22. “Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” –William Arthur Ward
23. “As long as thanks is possible, then joy is always possible.” –Ann Voskamp
24. “If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, “thank you,” that would suffice.” –Meister Eckhart
25. “The unthankful heart discovers no mercies; but the thankful heart will find, in every hour, some heavenly blessings.” ?Henry Ward Beecher
As always, we wish you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.
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As Tinder continues to take the world by storm, the feature included an interview with Tinder’s co-founder, Justin Mateen, as well as featured other mobile dating apps including eHarmony, JDate, Match, OkCupid, Grouper, Grindr, and Coffee Meets Bagel.
Mobile dating is now over a $200 million dollar industry. Are you wondering how it all works?
Watch the video below for highlights.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and mobile dating expert who was an early adopter of Internet dating. She created her first profile almost 20 years ago and coaches singles on the dating scene with her Irresistible Profiles programs and her Mobile Dating BootCamps. For more dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the Free Weekly Flirt newsletter.
Last Thanksgiving we featured Pecan Pumpkin Butter Pie, which is still one of my favorites.
This latest recipe comes from PecanPieRecipe.com and is a wonderful addition to our Love Potions.
This two-layer pie has a bottom layer of tender sweet potatoes, combined with cinnamon, ginger, nutmeg, cane syrup and vanilla. The pecan pie filling is spread over the top with a garnish of whipped cream and chocolate curls.
1 Prepared Sweet Pie Crust
1 pound Sweet Potatoes, baked until fork tender, peeled and mashed
1/2 cup Pure Cane Syrup
1 teaspoon Ground Cinnamon
1/2 teaspoon Ground Ginger
1/2 teaspoon freshly grated Nutmeg
5 Extra Large Eggs
1 1/2 teaspoons Pure Vanilla Extract
1 1/2 cups Pecan pieces
1/4 cup Light Corn Syrup
1/2 cup Granulated Sugar
1/2 cup firmly packed Light Brown Sugar
Sweetened Whipped Cream, accompaniment
1. Preheat oven to 375 F.
2. Combine sweet potatoes, cane syrup, cinnamon, ginger, nutmeg, 1 egg, and 1/2 teaspoon of the vanilla in a large mixing bowl.
3. Spoon sweet potato mixture into the unbaked pastry shell. Spread smooth.
4. Sprinkle pecan pieces onto the filling.
5. Beat 4 eggs in a large bowl. Add 1-teaspoon vanilla, corn syrup, sugar, brown sugar, and salt.
6. Pour egg mixture over pecans.
7. Bake 1 hour, or until pastry edges are golden brown, and filling is set.
8. Cool on wire rack. Allow 1 hour.
9. Remove from the oven and cool on a wire rack for 1 hour before serving.
10. Garnish with chocolate and sweetened whipped cream.
All of us at Cyber-Dating Expert wish you a very Happy Thanksgiving.
When there’s mutual chemistry with someone you’ve met online and you start texting daily, are you in a relationship just yet? A young woman asks the Cyber-Dating Expert for help on what to do when she sees his active profile online.
I signed up for eHarmony as a one month experiment and wasn’t sure what to expect. I got lucky and the first guy I met I felt instant chemistry with and he felt the same way!
We went on a second date the following week and also had a great time. We both work a lot so it was hard to schedule our third date before I left for an out-of-town trip, but he has been texting me everyday since I’ve been gone and today even sent me a message that he is kind of missing me : ) I have been missing him, which seems so weird for someone I have only hung out with twice, and my reply was that : You just made me smile.
I’ve been busy traveling and was trying to be focused on one person rather than adding 2-3 more guys to the mix.
My membership renewed automatically for a second mont, but I hadn’t logged on since I met this wonderful guy. Today, I logged on after receiving a renewal notice only to see that he had been “active” today on the site. I’m not sure what that means, but my stomach dropped. We aren’t exclusive, he isn’t my boyfriend, but it bothers me. Is this normal? Do I just let the chips fall as they may?
He texted me again this morning and last night but I am totally freaked out now and want to protect myself from getting hurt.
Take a deep breath.
Your new guy who you had just two dates with is a member of a dating site and is receiving matches and emails from women who have written to him or would like to start the communication process. Out of curiosity, he’s probably reading them and may not be responding to them, especially since he’s now texting you at night and in the morning, and perhaps other times throughout the day.
You’ve had two dates with your dream guy. You have a major crush on each other. This is very exciting, but it was only your first online date. Enjoy staying in touch with your guy and respond to his text messages while you’re out of town. You’re definitely on his mind and men tend to miss women when they’re gone. I know of a man who logged onto his profile after six months of dating someone exclusively. He took one last peek and one week later, he proposed marriage.
Men are allowed to look at other women, online and offline. At some point, if you decide to become exclusive, you should talk about taking your profiles down together. Let’s get to the third date and see how it goes. This is a brand new dating experience for you, and as you said, he’s not your boyfriend yet.
Let him take the lead and yes, let’s see where the chips may fall. Don’t cancel your online dating membership just yet, but if in your heart you don’t want to log on, then just stay the busy happy person that you are.
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Hi. I’m Julie Spira. Every year my team and I curate a list of some of the best and newest mobile dating apps. It’s time to grab your SmartPhones as we’re proud to announce the 4th annual Cyber Dating Expert “Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps” list.
As online dating continues to be embraced by singles of all ages, mobile dating apps have taken the spotlight in 2013.
A recent Pew report on Online Dating & Relationships looked at the impact of social networking and mobile dating on singles looking for love.
Pew reported that 7 percent of mobile phone apps users (representing 3 percent of all adults) say that they have used a dating app on their cell phone. The convenience of dating from your mobile phone will not only results in meeting more people, but also speeds up the process from initial contact to meeting in person.
Mobile dating has truly become a social dating experience, with many apps considered social dating, social networking and social discovery experiences.
Without further digital ado, we’re proud to present the “Cyber Dating Expert Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps of 2013” for your viewing and downloading pleasure.
This year we’ve added three new mobile dating apps, which were featured in our Mobile Dating BootCamp.
As Tinder celebrates its 1-year Anniversary, we’re happy to list their mobile app as our top choice for 2013. Tinder is now the fastest growing location-based mobile dating app and is becoming a household name. While early adopters were found on college campuses, now everyone from Lindsey Lohan to the former Miss USA, along with your neighbors as well can be found flirting on the Tinder app. During this year’s Mobile Dating BootCamp, just about every participant requested to use Tinder while looking for love online. Tinder reports that 54 percent of their members are between 18-24 and 31.6 percent are between 25-34.
How it works. Users download the mobile app on their iPhone or Android phones and connect through Facebook to create a profile. You can anonymously scroll through potential matches nearby. If there’s a mutual match, then you can start chatting in text message style directly through their app.
Why we like it: It’s simple to use, free, anonymous, and is the fastest growing mobile dating app. Tinder has given credibility to mobile dating as the way to meet in a digital world. It’s also a fun way to make new friends. You can view a variety of potential dates in a “hot or not” style and anonymously decide whether you’re interested in or not. Tinder boasts 400 million matches to date with approximately 4 million new matches per day. Download Android Download iOs
Let’s Date call itself the “instagam’ of dating. Users sign and create their date card through Facebook connect. Once your profile is created, you’ll have the ability to edit your profile if you don’t want it to mirror your Facebook profile. Let’s Date reports that 55 percent of their users are between 18 to 24 years old and 40 percent are between 24 and 35 years old.
How it works: Let’s date uses science to help match you with someone compatible on their mobile dating app. Users can click on “Yes” or “No, Thanks” to profiles they’ve been matched with. If there’s a mutual match, users can be notified by email to let you know that it’s time to start chatting with your digital crush. You can also speed up the process by sending a flirt to the person you’ve selected for $.99 in the iTunes store.They also have a “wingman” feature, which allows non-daters to view profile and share them with their single friends through email, SMS, or Twitter.
Why we like it: Its easy to create a profile for free and scroll through those that are sent to you. If you’re traveling you can change your location to the city you’d like to start dating in and fill up your date card before your arrival. Plus, you can link to your Facebook or Twitter accounts to create a more robust profile. Download iOs
For the fourth year in a row, Zoosk has made it to our “Top 10 Favorite Mobile Dating Apps.” Zoosk is a top mobile dating app for iPhone users and a top 10 overall grossing app in the iTunes store. More members, 55 percent are using the Android app as compared to 45 percent on iOS.
How it works: Users sign up for free, but if you pay for a subscription to Zoosk you’ll get unlimited winks and messages, full access to the ZSMS feature, can see who has viewed your profile, and you can chat with the connections you make. The cost of subscriptions are: 1 month for $29.95, 3 months for $19.98 per month, or 6 months for $12.49 per month.
Badoo is a free dating app and was launched in 2006. They have over 197 million members worldwide in 180 countries with over 41 languages available. Over 100,000 new mobile app users added every day. It’s a fun way to meet new friends and dates in a game-like environment.
How it works: Users can sign in through Facebook and use the service on the web, as well as on their mobile dating apps. Users can find singles with similar interests nearby to chat with and their “Encounters” game helps connect you with possible matches. Their premium paid service includes a “Spotlight” and “Rise Up” feature to be able to be seen by more members. With “Spotlight,” the member’s photo and brief profile info appear at the top of every main Badoo page within their area or region. “Rise Up” instantly puts the member’s profile at the top of the search results within their region. The “Super Powers” feature is a monthly service fee which gives users more control.
Why we like it: The added bonus of uploading videos.
PlentyOfFish has made it to our “Top 10 Favorite Mobile Dating Apps” list for the third year in a row. POF is one of the largest free dating sites in the world with over 2 million Americans logging on to the site each day. POF reports that 80 percent of people who access POF from a mobile device do so from their mobile Apps.
According to comScore, PlentyOfFish has captured 67 percent of the market share among mobile dating apps in the U.S. The app is completely free and is available in five languages, including English, French, German, Spanish, and Portuguese.
How it works: Users sign up for free and can search for singles from their mobile app using new filters such as education, height, and body type. Their Android app has a “Places” feature to provides users with a list of potential date hot spots. PlentyOfFish has also created a premium feature called “View Interaction” which tells singles if they’ve already interacted with a user; messaged back and forth, added each other to their Favorites list and viewed each others’ profiles. This ensures you’re not wasting time messaging someone you’ve already reached out to Users can also search for singles from their mobile app using new filters such as education, height, and body type.
Why we like it: PlentyOfFish has always understood the importance of singles meeting face to face. Their new “Date Night” feature will tell other singles in your area that you’re available for a date this weekend. The feature resets itself every week. Download Android Download iOs
Meet Moi calls themselves the mobile matchmaker and states clearly that they are not an online dating service, and fall into the category of social discovery. Meet Moi does the searching for you and sends you a notification of a compatible date nearby to your mobile phone. They matches users with one another based on preferences and proximity by leveraging uniquely mobile capabilities like location awareness and push communication channels.
How it works: Users can sign up for free with features including creating a profile, sending winks, and replying to messages. Users receive a push notification when there’ s a match nearby. If you choose to accept the match, you can click on “Has Potential” to show interest. If your match likes you back, you can chat for up to 60-minutes before deciding if you want to meet in person. Premium users can chat with all users and see who’s viewed their profile.
Why we like it: Their “Wingman” feature encourages group dating and makes introductions for groups of people, so if you’re hanging out with your friends, you can meet a group of other people nearby. They’re also available on the mobile web. Facebook Connect allows users to see if they have any Facebook friends in common. Download Android Download iOs
Skout is one of the earliest mobile dating apps and their iPhone app was launched in 2008. Their mobile app is a global network for meeting new friends or dates in over 100 countries around the world.
How it works: Skout is free to download with features include chatting and exchanging photos or notes Users can see who has checked them out. The app identifies singles in your immediate vicinity and gives you the opportunity to flirt and meet up with them. Though the app is free to use, members have the option of purchasing virtual gifts, premium memberships, or sending “wink bombs” which reach up to 500 potential sweethearts in your area at once. Their premium model, Skout Pro is priced at $6.99.
Why we like it: Skout now has two separate and distinct communities for teens and adults, making it easy to safely make new friends. They’ve tackled the safety issue well. Download Android Download iOs
For the third year in a row, Grindr has made it to our “Top 10 Favorite Mobile Dating Apps.” Their mobile app launched in 2009 and they’ve been a leader in the mobile app only service. Grindr has 7 million male users in 192 countries around the world. The average user spends 2 hours a day on the app and logs in 8 times a day. Over 200 million photos are sent every day from guys to guys using their mobile apps.
How it works: Grindr is a location-based app where users can create a profile for free, upload photos, chat, and meet. Users can view 100 profiles of men in their area. Premium users of Grindr-Xtra have an advertising-free service and can receive push notifications even when the app is closed. Other benefits of Grindr-Xtra include the swipe feature to easily scan through profiles. The premium service costs between $12.99/mo. to $64.99/yr.
Why we like it: It’s been the most innovative and successful niche based mobile dating app in the world. With 1 billion chat messages being sent in a given month, need we say more? Download Android Download BlackBerry Download iOs
OkCupid is free and makes it easy to access the web version of their site on your mobile phone, as well as providing a mobile-only app that is location-based and simple to use.
How it Works: Users can sign in from Facebook or directly on the mobile app to find singles in your area. Accessing their “Locals” feature will show you people in your vicinity. The app allows you to swipe right to “like” a user or swipe to the left to “take a pass.” If it’s a mutual match, you’ll find out immediately and will receive an email. Users then can visit their profile or send a message. Other features you can access from your mobile phone include viewing the famous OkCupid questions, saving a profile as a favorite, viewing your visitors, and ranking your potential date from 1-5 stars. Each user’s profile will state your Match, friend, and enemy percentages similar to what you’ll find on the web-based site. Upgrading to A-List, which includes anonymous browsing is an additional fee.
Why we like it: Having the percentages on a profile photo makes it easy for those who are intrigued by the computer algorithms to take a second look at a potential date.
How About We now provides an online meet-and-greet with the goal of being an offline dating service for both singles and couples. Their mobile app lets you view full screen photos and dates of people in your area. Their premise is to connect online and meet offline at user created events.
How it works: Members can sign up for free and post ideas for dates. This helps speed up the process as often a member will have tickets for a specific concert or sporting event and will list the date/time of the potential date. You’ll also receive real-time notifications with recommended dates. To view your visitors, you can invite three friends for free to join the site, or upgrade to the premium membership. To send or read emails, you’ll need to pay for a membership which runs from $8.99/mo. to $34.99/mo.
Why we like it: How About We has partnered with AARP for the large number of single boomers over 50 who are looking for love online. AARP members can receive 50% off their membership. It makes members think about a fun actual date and creativity is the key. You’ll find more than just suggested beach walks from their busy and active members. Plus their blog, The Date Report really rocks!
Newcomer Coffee Meets Bagel (CMB) was created by three sisters Arun, Dawoon, and Soo Kang. CMB has won the hearts of many singles looking for love online. Originally a web-based service in a few cities in the U.S., Coffee Meets Bagel launched their iOs app in August of 2013.
How it Works: Every day at noon, you’ll receive one match from a friend-of-a friend, or one “bagel.” Users sign up through Facebook to create their profile and can “Like” or “Pass” on their bagels. If you missed one of your bagel dates, you can request to be rematched. Users can visit their bean shop to buy coffee beans for upgraded services at the cost of $4.99 to $99.99, but can also easily win free beans by recommending a bagel to a friend. Since the service is new, users might not get a bagel match every day, but we have our eyes on this site and hope that it continues to grow in membership.
Why we like it: Users look forward to receiving their daily “bagel” at lunch time. CMB believes your dating life, including name, birthday and email should be private, that your friends are the best conduits for your dates, and that meeting quality people doesn’t have to be so awkward or complicated. It’s also like a fun game to receive coffee beans when you respond to a match. Download on iOs
STILL OUR FAVORITES: These top web-based dating sites have terrific mobile apps that are worthy of downloading on your smartphones to speed up your search.
eHarmony is responsible for over 1 million people getting married since they launched in 2000. That’s a number to brag about. Their mobile app downloads surpassed the 5-million mark over the summer. eHarmony reports that users tend to access their mobile apps 5+ times throughout the day, compared to twice a day on the computer. Over 40 percent of their user registrations take place in the mobile environment. The app is free to download where you can sign up, fill out your profile and questionnaire, upload photos from Facebook, receive daily matches, and communicate for free on specialty weekends. Paid members have the same functionality as the subscriber’s web version, where you can view photos, go through guided communication, see when a match last logged in, and read/write emails. Download Android Download iOS Download iPad
Match.com was launched in 1995 and is available in 24 countries around the world and in 15 different languages. Their mobile app is a service for paid subscribers on more platforms than any other app. Match reports that more than 40 percent of user logins come from their mobile apps. Users can wink, create and view profiles, upload up to 24 photos, send and receive emails, add users to their “Favorites” and rate their “Daily Matches.” Other Premium features include the popular “Who’s Viewed Me” feature. Users can sign up on Facebook and also be notified of upcoming Stir Events on their mobile app. Download Android Download iOs Download BlackBerry
Previous Top 10 Mobile Dating apps lists can be viewed here.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and mobile dating expert. She was an early adopter of Internet dating, having created her first profile almost 20 years ago. Today, she coaches singles on the dating scene and is the host of Mobile Dating BootCamp: Dating in a Mobile World.
When our friends at YourTango asked me to chime in on the latest Brigham Young University survey, which shows that texting can harm romantic relationships, it was an honor to share the reasons that texting can both enhance your love life, as well as send you to the digital doghouse in a New York minute.
It’s true that I’ve never seen an argument via text have a happy ending. When the anger brews and escalates, usually a long-winded text message won’t resolve relationship conflicts. This reactionary behavior puts you in a digital war-zone. When you send text messages back and forth, you don’t hear the sound of someone’s voice. Therefore, you can’t know how upset they really are.
Here are 5 Text Messages that you should think about, before pushing the send button.
“We need to talk.” Men dread hearing those four words. Don’t be surprised if your guy or significant other disappears for a few days. Don’t start a conversation with this one-liner, as your relationship might go south fast. You’ll either receive a negative response, or none at all.
“I’m sorry.” Should you apologize over text? When someone says ‘I’m sorry’ over a text message, the recipient isn’t really sure how sorry they are. It can be taken as a way to end the uncomfortable text exchange, but how sincere is the apology? You really aren’t sure and they aren’t as valued as an in-person or on-the-phone apology where it can be a two-way dialog.
“It’s over.” Who breaks up in a text message? Apparently many do so. If you’re not feeling it for him or her anymore, don’t disappear and don’t send a text. who wants to go on record as the one who dumped their significant other in a text message? Pick up the phone if you think there’s trouble in paradise. Chances are you’ll be able to salvage your relationship.
Texts To Definitely Send
The Brigham Young University research team found that affectionate loving texts can result in a happier message. I tend to agree.
“Thinking of you … have a great day!” Who wouldn’t want to wake up to this good morning text? It starts both of your days off right: with love.
“Can’t wait to see you tonight. XO.” Receiving a text like this lets your sweetheart know that he or she is loved. It’s also great digital foreplay on date night to get both of you in the mood.
Remember, once you push the send button, you can’t take it back. You’re creating a permanent digital footprint and your temporary moment of digital insantiy might be shared with his or her friends to confirm that you are indeed crazy. If you must vent, send yourself an email describing exactly how angry you’re feeling, but do not, I repeat, do not send it. Try sleeping on it and revisiting it in the morning.
Relationships can be complicated and sometimes we catastrophize about our love lives. If your boyfriend or girlfriend misses calling you one night, he or she may have just fallen asleep on the sofa…..alone, and not in the arms of another.
Have you ever sent a text that you’ve regretted?
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and founder of Cyber Dating Expert. Julie was an early adopter of the Internet and writes about the marriage of love and technology. She’s the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating. Follow @JulieSpira for dating advice and sign up for our free Weekly Flirt and find out how our Irresistible Profiles will help you find your dream date.
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