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Fashion Pick – The PurseCase: A Must for Online Daters

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Here’s a sneak peek of one of our favorite items that will be in this year’s Cyber-Dating Expert Holiday Gift Guide.

To add some spice to your iPhone’s look, we’re delighted to introduce the PurseCase. It looks like a purse on one side, and snuggly will fit your iPhone 4 or 5.  We love this accessory because you’ll look fun and flirty with your favorite color PurseCase, priced at only $29.99.

On one side, it opens up to reveal a mirror to check your lipstick and hair, with a pocket to store your drivers license, a credit card, a few calling cards and some cash. The other side will show your mobile phone safely protected in a rubber coating casing with your favorite color.

While speaking at Digital Hollywood recently, I spotted a friend sporting a pretty pink PurseCase and immediately ordered one of my own in pink. Ok, I’m hooked and my friends will be receiving one this holiday season.

Extra bonus: Our friends at PurseCase are offering Cyber-Dating Expert readers a sweet discount. Enter the promo code of cyberdating at check out to receive 20% off the full retail price of your purchase. This will make a terrific stocking stuffer, or you just might one in every color.

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Pucker Up – It’s International Kissing Day

Fotolia 738303 XSIf you’re still on a high from Fourth of July fireworks, there’s no need to let the flame sizzle. On the same holiday weekend, the world will be celebrating International Kissing Day.

Every year on July 6th, singles and couples will have a good excuse to become more romantic and flirty for this annual holiday. As it falls on a Saturday this year, it’s time to get creative, both on the lips and in the desired location of that memorable kiss.

In honor of International Kissing Day, our friends at online dating site Zoosk conducted a survey of 3500 singles in the United States to find out everything you need to know about kissing. From air kisses to French kisses, find out the most popular styles of kissing and the biggest turn-offs for a bad kiss.

Related: Kissable Lips

According to the survey, most singles have dated a bad kisser. With 73% of the singles polled claiming they’ve been stuck in a bad kissing situation, know that you’re not alone when you meet a kisser with the slobbering tongue, bad breath, or the one who kisses with his or her mouth closed.

Speaking of closed, the Zoosk survey showed that 83% of singles do prefer to kiss with their eyes closed as compared to wide-open.

Music and romance do go hand-in-hand, so it’s natural that those surveyed had some favorite make-out songs. The top selections included “Could I Have This Kiss Forever” by Whitney Houston & Enrique Iglesias, as well as “A Kiss From a Rose” by Seal and “Blow Me One Last Kiss” by Pink.

French kissing, surprisingly enough is more popular in the United States than in France. According to the survey, 46% of Americans prefer the French kiss as compared to 21% of those kissing in France.

Where do couples want to memorialize their kiss? The beach came in as the top choice with 30% of the votes, followed by kissing in the car, by a roaring fireplace, and on a carriage ride in Central Park in New York City.

If you’re away from your sweetheart, remember to send a few digital hugs and kisses XOXO’s via text on your mobile phone to celebrate International Kissing Day. Remember that a goodbye kiss can be more important than the hello kiss and leave a wonderful memory to the end of your date.

What’s your kissing style? Do you have your own kissing dos and don’ts? A dream spot for that first kiss?

Follow @JulieSpira on Twitter for online dating advice and sign up for the Cyber-Dating Expert Weekly Flirt.

 

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The Best Ways to Wear Jeans on a Date

jeansonadate1jpg 169x300Casual or dressy? What do you wear on a date?  Sometimes I believe a dress shows your femininity. Other times, jeans can show a carefree happy look on a date.

My friend Jennifer, who just launched Dress for the Date has some great suggestions on how to wear jeans on your next date.

I have two girlfriends who, at different points in my adult life, said they “would never wear jeans on a date”. Honestly, I never really understood that thinking, but figured they had their own fashion-faithful reasons.

Last year I was a cocktail party where one of these women, who happened to be with a handsome jean-clad date, was now wearing jeans. But, they were definitely not a date-appropriate pair.

The jeans were way too acid washed, over-the-top too tight, and had more manufactured holes than a wheel of Swiss cheese. That being said, let’s get down and dirty, and go over the best ways for men and women to wear jeans on a date.

At Dress for the Date think it’s always safe to go with a pair of dark blue or black denim jeans. Darker denim is continuously flattering, regardless of your size. Pair the jeans with a simple white or black shirt, which, depending on the date, is easy to dress up or down with accessories.

Ladies – Dressier Night Out

For a dressier night out, channel your inner J-Lo by glamming up your jeans outfit with some tasteful sparkly bangles and a great pair of sparkly hoops. Don’t forget to rock a pair of smoking hot black heels and a great hand clutch purse.

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Let’s say you’re hitting happy hour at the local dive bar with a man you’ve just met on Match.com. You’ll want to keep your outfit street-stylish and rock n’ roll chic to balance a flirty look with some edge. Black jeans tucked into some well-worn boots and a scoop neck tank (another fashion staple) with a motorcycle jacket will get your date’s engine revving.

For men, we here at Dress for the Date say step – no, RUN — far, far away from any embellished denim. Ed Hardy sword and skull, or Dragon Vs. Mermaid embroidered jeans will send your date fleeing for higher ground.

We do suggest that you stick with the basics. Jeans by Ernest Sewn or the good ole’ Levis 501’s will never fail you. Stick with darker washes and no manmade holes.

Men – Dressier Night Out

jeansonadatemen 246x300For cocktail parties, the darker the jeans, the better. Pair them a solid basic-fit dress shirt, a loose tie, and a vest. Don’t forget the shoes! Us gals always notice a great pair of shoes. We suggest trying a pair of leather lace-up oxfords.

Men – Casual Date

Much to your surprise, the person you’ve been eyeing at the local Starbucks has asked you out for a coffee date over the weekend! Keep your outfit low-key for this type of date. Think Levi’s 501’s and a black V-neck T-shirt ala Simon Cowell. Match it with a great stainless steel watch and a pair of stylish high top sneakers. Your date will be glad that they made the first move.

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People eat with their eyes first, and first impressions are ultra-important when you go on a date. DressfortheDate.com provides fashion advice for daters, both men and women. From brief online consultations to lengthy in-person shopping trips and consultations, a DressfortheDate.com stylist helps you “discover a better-looking you, so you can step out the door with confidence.” Founded by dating guru Jennifer Kelton, DressfortheDate.com provides dating fashion advice for as little as $20, so anyone can afford to look their best. Review the options at DressfortheDate.com, including a free dating fashion advice blog.

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Online Dating Profile Photos – When in Doubt, Wear Red

huffpostlivered2 300x183On Huffington Post Live, we spent time talking about online dating profile photos and how men respond more frequently to women wearing the color red.

The conversation was based on Adam Alter’s book, Red Tank Pink. Alter, professor of marketing and psychology at NYU’s Stern School of Business insists that the color red or having a red border around your online dating profile is an absolute must.

Joining us was Gabe Zichermann, Gamification expert, who met his boyfriend on mobile dating app, Scruff.com.

Sharing one of my favorite quotes from the late fashion designer Bill Blass, “When in doubt, wear red,” I concurred with Alter’s findings that red does indeed have an impact on the response to dates.

You can watch the video below.

Are you wearing red in your dating profiles?

Julie Spira ia a top online dating expert and author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice, sign up for the Weekly Flirt and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.

 

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Dating Fashion – How to Rock Your High Heels on a Date

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It’s true that women often dress for women instead of men, but our fashion and shoe expert, Hillary Gadsby tells us that despite having hangers filled with clothes, there’s truly nothing to wear out.

“I’m a big believer in the shoes make the girl, and possibly even the date.”

While agonizing over the right top or finding a dress that’s not too short, it’s easy to spend more time with the clothes and less on the shoes and wind up settling on a pair of simple flats instead of high heels. (oops we better toss out the ballet flats on date night).

When it comes to getting dressed, Hillary firmly believes that the look starts at your feet first – pick the shoes, then the rest of the outfit will follow. First dates should always include a pair of showstopping stilettos and never flats (save those for a beach date instead.) Whether you’re planning on wearing boots, wedges, or stilettos, here are her tips on how to wear each shoe while still looking fun, fab, and flirty!

If you’re wearing stilettos… aim for a pop of color.

Wearing a classic little black dress to a dinner date? Pair ruby red or metallic gold stilettos with the dress to make it truly stand out! Everyone (including your date, most likely) will be expecting to see conservative shoes that match the dress and it’s always fun to shake it up and include a dash of bold, sexy color with your look.

If you’re wearing wedges… pair ‘em with dark wash denim.

Sometimes the first date involves a lot of walking around, like heading to a theme park or music festival, and you’ll want to be able to walk the distance without developing 101 blisters along the way. Sleek wedges are your best bet because the heel is often stacked instead of skinny and can range in size as well. Dark wash denim jeans, a nice blouse, blazer, and a statement necklace when paired with wedges make even the most casual first date also one of the most fashionable.

If you’re wearing boots… include a short skirt.

Find a pair of stiletto thigh-high boots and pair ‘em with a short skirt. The boots elongate your legs, giving you an extra boost of confidence. If you still feel self conscious, add a pair of tights which are also super sexy to wear with any of the shoes on my list!

Click here for more first date fashion tips.

Hillary Gadsby is the founder of Stilettogal.com, where she blogs about what a day in the life of a woman entrepreneur is like as told by her shoes. Find out more about Hillary and her signature pair of bright yellow python pumps at Stiletto Gal’s Facebook page and follow her on Twitter!

Julie Spira is a top online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more online dating advice follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.

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Beauty – Red Velvet Facial Mask

RaspberresJust in time for Valentine’s Day, facialist-extraordinnaire Gia, from Gia Skin Care, shares her Red Velvet Mask. It looks and smells so good, you may find yourself nibbling on it while applying it to your face.

How do you enjoy this do-it-yourself process at home?

All you’ll need is a food processor or blender and the following ingredients:

1/4 Cup of Fresh Organic Raspberries
1 Tablespoon Manuka or Raw Local Honey
1 Teaspoon of powdered Cocoa
1-2 Tablespoons Organic Almond Milk

Blend all the ingredients until it becomes a smooth velvety consistency.

Apply your mask from a bowl with either an applicator or facial brush making sure you avoid the eye area.

Leave on 10 minutes and simply Breathe and Relax.

With the amazing power of antioxidants from the raspberries and the medicinal antibacterial healing qualities from the honey, this is the ideal indulging mask without any calories!

It’s a nice way to pamper yourself, while getting ready for your next cyber-date.

For more beauty ideas, visit GiaSkinCare.com and CyberDatingExpert.com/beauty

Julie Spira is leading online dating expert and founder of Cyber-Dating Expert. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene and is the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating. For online dating advice, sign up for the free Weekly Flirt, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.

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The Online Dating Expert’s Holiday Fashion and Beauty Tips

Cyberdatingtipsholidays 220x300For those of you who know me, you’ll know that more often-than-not, I’ll be wearing a red dress or sweater when out in public. Red is a signature color that defines both passion and love and is my favorite color for first date outfits and online dating profile photos. It also helps you stand out from the other women who can’t part with their signature little black dress, who don’t realize they’re blending in with the crowd, both online and offline.

This holiday season, you’ll have the chance to shine, both online and IRL, as I’ll go on record saying, “Let them wear red!”  Even the late Fashion designer Bill Blass has a famous quote, “When in doubt, wear red.”

Need more expert fashion advice for the holidays?

In a recent article on Fashionista.com,  Single All the Way? Expert Fashion Tips for Online Dating, I shared some of my holiday fashion, beauty, and hair tips for those looking for love online.

After all, your online profile photo is your love-life resume.  The men you’ll be meeting will be delighted when you resemble the irresistible photos they’ve viewed.

CLOTHES

Remember, that women spend too much time dressing for women. Men don’t care about the labels, and it’s rare that I’ll hear a guy ask, “Is that Chanel or Prada?” If you look good in an outfit that fits well and is appealing, they’ll like the package, regardless of the price tag of the item. If red isn’t your color, try pink or fuchsia, as men equate this with femininity. Both red and pink will help your profile stand out instead of wearing black, white, grey, or complicated patterns.

Remember that men undress you with your eyes, so avoid the extra-low cut tops and dresses, and please stay away from bathing suits. It’s no different than lingerie with a different fabric. You’re looking for a soul-mate, not an instant bed-mate.

Remember to wear a few different outfits to show that you’re diverse. This helps you avoid writing the cliché of saying you go from jeans to black-tie. Let the guys see that look instead.

HAIR

If you’re getting ready for a hot online date or are prepping for your online dating photo shoot, invest $35 and go to a blow-dry bar to get your hair blown out nice and silky. However, don’t become a “hair chameleon,” as having too many different hair colors and styles could be off-putting to men who view your profile. Most men are simple and want truth-in-advertising, so they hope you’ll look like your online dating profile photos. Avoid the desire to have glamour shots taken. Guys will think everything about your profile is photo shopped, from your age to your laugh lines.

MAKEUP

Decide which features you want to focus on for your online dating photo shoot. If you have luscious lips, add a bit of color and gloss to accentuate them. A guy will think about what it’s like to kiss you, but if you’re wearing bright red lipstick, he may not want it on his collar just yet. If your eyes are the most flattering, apply eyeliner, fabulous lengthening mascara, and a simple light colored lip-gloss. If you overdo it on the make-up, men will think you’re too high-maintenance and it will actually make you look older. Something we all dread when it comes to posting our age.

At the end of the digital day, a natural look is something most men would enjoy seeing. They won’t know all the effort you put in to creating your irresistible online dating profile. It’s our little secret.

Full article at Fashionista.com

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and Editor-in-Chief at CyberDatingExpert.com. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice sign up for the Weekly Flirt newsletter, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.

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Julie Spira Teams up with Bloomingdales for Beauty 101: Meet Your Match

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It’s with great enthusiasm to announce that I’m teaming up with Bloomingdales for an exciting event called, Beauty 101: Meet Your Match. The event will be held in their Los Angeles – Century City store on Saturday, October 20th from 1pm – 2pm and 4pm – 5pm.

We all know that getting ready for a date requires a bit of effort. With so many beauty lines to choose from, how do you know which is best for you? Should you lean in for the important first kiss wearing pink lipstick or red?

If you’ve heard of speed dating, the concept is similar. How it works is 30 participants will be seated at individual tables for each session. Every five minutes, you’ll switch tables and meet experts from Bloomingdales’ prestigious cosmetics lines who will show you the best products for you. I’ll be on hand providing dating and relationship advice for each participant, so get your questions ready.

Your $25 ticket will be redeemable for purchases in the Cosmetics department. We’ll have light refreshments, free samples, and the chance to win one of the many luxurious Cosmetics baskets. You’ll leave looking perfect for your date night.

Tickets are limited and are available in advance at any cosmetics counter at the Century City store or by calling 310-772-2144.

Julie Spira is an online dating and relationship expert. She’s the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online” and creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more datingadvice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.

 

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Spring Fashion – Same Sky, Jewelry with a Heart

PINK LEMONADE2 largeLooking fashionable this spring will make you feel better if you’re wearing a Same Sky bracelet or necklace as your accessory of choice.

Same Sky was created as a trade-not-aid initiative to help women in the African countries of Rwanda and Zambia rebuild their lives. Their goal is to give women a hand-up instead of a handout. These women who survived the 1994 genocide are taught to create the most beautiful hand woven beaded jewelry.

Baubles have been seen on celebrities including Halle Berry, Goldie Hawn, Ann Curry, Lauren Bush,  Sela Ward, Donna Karan, Fergie, Meryl Streep and more.

The stunning and affordable bracelets and necklaces were on display at Saks Fifth Avenue in Beverly Hills, where I picked up their  Hope necklace in a light coral color. I wore it on a recent appearance on FOX news and received many compliments. The necklaces are so versatile that they can be worn as one long strand, double-stranded, or even wrapped around your wrist as a bracelet.

Same Sky Prosperity bracelets are priced at $65 – $85 and range in a variety of colors including red, pink, and purple. Their slogan is “Every woman, Every dream.” It’s something worth bragging about to your next online date.

Photo credit: SameSky.com.

Click here for more fashion trends this spring.

 

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5 Ways to Look and Feel Red Hot on Valentine’s Day

Screen shot 2012 02 06 at 1.09.03 AM 300x219Wondering if you should wear red or pink this Valentine’s Day? I’m a firm believer that red the perfect color to wear year-round for your online dating profile, as well as on a first date. But don’t take my word for it. I reached out to Image Consultant Kimberly Seltzer, who agreed, it’s best to be the Lady in Red this Valentine’s Day. Kimberly compares Valentine’s outfits to Halloween for a little bit of fun.

“Both holidays give you a chance to dress up and perhaps wear something a little risqué that you perhaps wouldn’t normally wear,” says Kimberly.  “No matter if you are celebrating with your man, going out with your girlfriends to attract a new one or just pampering yourself on Valentine’s Day, put on something that makes you feel special, alive and sexy.” Seltzer encourages singles and women in a relationship to put on their little black dress, throw on a pair of high heels and pile on the vanilla-flavored lip-gloss.

Here are Kimberly’s 5 easy red-hot tips that will surely shoot an arrow right into any man’s heart.

1.     Feel Sexy—What men find sexy in a woman is when she herself feels sexy.   Men notice your sexual confidence in the way you dress, walk, move your body and smile.  Wear something that makes you feel sexy and sensual.   So put on a dress that you feel confident and a little daring in.  This doesn’t mean you have to show your mid-drift or fall out of your dress. Guys would much rather undress you with their eyes and leave things to the imagination than display it all right there.  Part of being sexy is leaving them with a sense of intrigue and curiosity.  If you give it all away to them, they may not have the desire to want more.  For example, wear a fitted red dress that shows your curves and just teases the man with a low cut-out back.  Or perhaps you want to go more casual and sport a leather jacket with a lacy cami peeking through.

Use fabrics that are great against your skin and touchable. Cashmere, silky satin, and buttery soft suedes are the real scene-stealers. Touchable fabrics not only invite another’s touch, they have the added bonus of feeling great against your skin so you feel pampered and sexy.  Find fun and unique ways to express your sensuality!

2.      Dress Feminine—Men absolutely love a soft womanly touch.  A dress, skirt and heels can make any man’s heart skip a beat.  Display your feminine sexuality with flowing hair or an attractive hairdo, nice nails, makeup and discreet displays of bare skin, plus colorful clothes and jewelry that are eye-catching signs of femininity.  And ladies, no corporate blazers please!  Your dress should be flirty, flowy and gorgeous.  Perhaps it is romantic and completely easy like a soft silk in a red and off-white combination.  Or maybe it is a tight fitted LBD worn with sleek patent red pumps.  And while you are at it, remember to laugh, smile, create softness and be light and open on your date with your man.  He’ll appreciate your receptive and delicate attitude and style.

3.     Wear Heels—A man will love the way you move in a pair of high heels.  There are three reasons why men’s jaw drop when you slip on the stilettos.  They love the way the shoes make your legs look, how they make you walk and move your body and how it exudes femininity.  Find the perfect footwear to go with that Valentine’s dress.  Think sexy, strappy, sparkly and high!  Feel a little unsteady in the skyscrapers?  Try a pair of platforms with a thicker heel to give you more support.

4.     Smell Amazing—Explore a new signature fragrance that captures your man’s attention.  Several studies show that vanilla-flavored perfumes can intoxicate his senses.  But perhaps he prefers something a little fresh and floral with a hint of citrus.  Notice those fragrances that get a reaction and go with it!  You might also want to try a new body lotion to put all over your body in unexpected places.

5.   Be Daring and Add A Surprise—If you have been with your beau for a while, most likely there is an element of monotony in your relationship and in the way you dress.  Even if you are going out with your girlfriends or you are with a new man, it’s important to infuse a little variety in your life which can help you give off new and exciting energy.  Spice things up by wearing something a little different for you.  Perhaps you secretly wear a new red lacy thong with a matching bra under your Valentine’s dress.  Or nothing attracts attention quite like a hat. First, it takes guts to wear one.  Second, it takes panache to carry it off.  Combine the two qualities and you get major sex appeal.

Whatever you decide to wear, enhancing and focusing on your Valentine attitude and your wardrobe will boost the way you feel about yourself, thus boosting your chances for love on this special day.

Visit Kimberly at www.eliteimagemakeovers.com for a complete dating image consultation.

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