My friend Jennifer, who just launched Dress for the Date has some great suggestions on how to wear jeans on your next date.
I have two girlfriends who, at different points in my adult life, said they “would never wear jeans on a date”. Honestly, I never really understood that thinking, but figured they had their own fashion-faithful reasons.
Last year I was a cocktail party where one of these women, who happened to be with a handsome jean-clad date, was now wearing jeans. But, they were definitely not a date-appropriate pair.
The jeans were way too acid washed, over-the-top too tight, and had more manufactured holes than a wheel of Swiss cheese. That being said, let’s get down and dirty, and go over the best ways for men and women to wear jeans on a date.
At Dress for the Date think it’s always safe to go with a pair of dark blue or black denim jeans. Darker denim is continuously flattering, regardless of your size. Pair the jeans with a simple white or black shirt, which, depending on the date, is easy to dress up or down with accessories.
Ladies – Dressier Night Out
For a dressier night out, channel your inner J-Lo by glamming up your jeans outfit with some tasteful sparkly bangles and a great pair of sparkly hoops. Don’t forget to rock a pair of smoking hot black heels and a great hand clutch purse.
Let’s say you’re hitting happy hour at the local dive bar with a man you’ve just met on Match.com. You’ll want to keep your outfit street-stylish and rock n’ roll chic to balance a flirty look with some edge. Black jeans tucked into some well-worn boots and a scoop neck tank (another fashion staple) with a motorcycle jacket will get your date’s engine revving.
For men, we here at Dress for the Date say step – no, RUN — far, far away from any embellished denim. Ed Hardy sword and skull, or Dragon Vs. Mermaid embroidered jeans will send your date fleeing for higher ground.
We do suggest that you stick with the basics. Jeans by Ernest Sewn or the good ole’ Levis 501’s will never fail you. Stick with darker washes and no manmade holes.
Men – Dressier Night Out
For cocktail parties, the darker the jeans, the better. Pair them a solid basic-fit dress shirt, a loose tie, and a vest. Don’t forget the shoes! Us gals always notice a great pair of shoes. We suggest trying a pair of leather lace-up oxfords.
Men – Casual Date
Much to your surprise, the person you’ve been eyeing at the local Starbucks has asked you out for a coffee date over the weekend! Keep your outfit low-key for this type of date. Think Levi’s 501’s and a black V-neck T-shirt ala Simon Cowell. Match it with a great stainless steel watch and a pair of stylish high top sneakers. Your date will be glad that they made the first move.
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On Huffington Post Live, we spent time talking about online dating profile photos and how men respond more frequently to women wearing the color red.
The conversation was based on Adam Alter’s book, Red Tank Pink. Alter, professor of marketing and psychology at NYU’s Stern School of Business insists that the color red or having a red border around your online dating profile is an absolute must.
Joining us was Gabe Zichermann, Gamification expert, who met his boyfriend on mobile dating app, Scruff.com.
Sharing one of my favorite quotes from the late fashion designer Bill Blass, “When in doubt, wear red,” I concurred with Alter’s findings that red does indeed have an impact on the response to dates.
You can watch the video below.
Are you wearing red in your dating profiles?
Julie Spira ia a top online dating expert and author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice, sign up for the Weekly Flirt and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.
It’s true that women often dress for women instead of men, but our fashion and shoe expert, Hillary Gadsby tells us that despite having hangers filled with clothes, there’s truly nothing to wear out.
“I’m a big believer in the shoes make the girl, and possibly even the date.”
While agonizing over the right top or finding a dress that’s not too short, it’s easy to spend more time with the clothes and less on the shoes and wind up settling on a pair of simple flats instead of high heels. (oops we better toss out the ballet flats on date night).
When it comes to getting dressed, Hillary firmly believes that the look starts at your feet first – pick the shoes, then the rest of the outfit will follow. First dates should always include a pair of showstopping stilettos and never flats (save those for a beach date instead.) Whether you’re planning on wearing boots, wedges, or stilettos, here are her tips on how to wear each shoe while still looking fun, fab, and flirty!
If you’re wearing stilettos… aim for a pop of color.
Wearing a classic little black dress to a dinner date? Pair ruby red or metallic gold stilettos with the dress to make it truly stand out! Everyone (including your date, most likely) will be expecting to see conservative shoes that match the dress and it’s always fun to shake it up and include a dash of bold, sexy color with your look.
If you’re wearing wedges… pair ‘em with dark wash denim.
Sometimes the first date involves a lot of walking around, like heading to a theme park or music festival, and you’ll want to be able to walk the distance without developing 101 blisters along the way. Sleek wedges are your best bet because the heel is often stacked instead of skinny and can range in size as well. Dark wash denim jeans, a nice blouse, blazer, and a statement necklace when paired with wedges make even the most casual first date also one of the most fashionable.
If you’re wearing boots… include a short skirt.
Find a pair of stiletto thigh-high boots and pair ‘em with a short skirt. The boots elongate your legs, giving you an extra boost of confidence. If you still feel self conscious, add a pair of tights which are also super sexy to wear with any of the shoes on my list!
Hillary Gadsby is the founder of Stilettogal.com, where she blogs about what a day in the life of a woman entrepreneur is like as told by her shoes. Find out more about Hillary and her signature pair of bright yellow python pumps at Stiletto Gal’s Facebook page and follow her on Twitter!
Julie Spira is a top online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more online dating advice follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.
For those of you who know me, you’ll know that more often-than-not, I’ll be wearing a red dress or sweater when out in public. Red is a signature color that defines both passion and love and is my favorite color for first date outfits and online dating profile photos. It also helps you stand out from the other women who can’t part with their signature little black dress, who don’t realize they’re blending in with the crowd, both online and offline.
This holiday season, you’ll have the chance to shine, both online and IRL, as I’ll go on record saying, “Let them wear red!” Even the late Fashion designer Bill Blass has a famous quote, “When in doubt, wear red.”
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In a recent article on Fashionista.com, Single All the Way? Expert Fashion Tips for Online Dating, I shared some of my holiday fashion, beauty, and hair tips for those looking for love online.
After all, your online profile photo is your love-life resume. The men you’ll be meeting will be delighted when you resemble the irresistible photos they’ve viewed.
Remember, that women spend too much time dressing for women. Men don’t care about the labels, and it’s rare that I’ll hear a guy ask, “Is that Chanel or Prada?” If you look good in an outfit that fits well and is appealing, they’ll like the package, regardless of the price tag of the item. If red isn’t your color, try pink or fuchsia, as men equate this with femininity. Both red and pink will help your profile stand out instead of wearing black, white, grey, or complicated patterns.
Remember that men undress you with your eyes, so avoid the extra-low cut tops and dresses, and please stay away from bathing suits. It’s no different than lingerie with a different fabric. You’re looking for a soul-mate, not an instant bed-mate.
Remember to wear a few different outfits to show that you’re diverse. This helps you avoid writing the cliché of saying you go from jeans to black-tie. Let the guys see that look instead.
If you’re getting ready for a hot online date or are prepping for your online dating photo shoot, invest $35 and go to a blow-dry bar to get your hair blown out nice and silky. However, don’t become a “hair chameleon,” as having too many different hair colors and styles could be off-putting to men who view your profile. Most men are simple and want truth-in-advertising, so they hope you’ll look like your online dating profile photos. Avoid the desire to have glamour shots taken. Guys will think everything about your profile is photo shopped, from your age to your laugh lines.
Decide which features you want to focus on for your online dating photo shoot. If you have luscious lips, add a bit of color and gloss to accentuate them. A guy will think about what it’s like to kiss you, but if you’re wearing bright red lipstick, he may not want it on his collar just yet. If your eyes are the most flattering, apply eyeliner, fabulous lengthening mascara, and a simple light colored lip-gloss. If you overdo it on the make-up, men will think you’re too high-maintenance and it will actually make you look older. Something we all dread when it comes to posting our age.
At the end of the digital day, a natural look is something most men would enjoy seeing. They won’t know all the effort you put in to creating your irresistible online dating profile. It’s our little secret.
Full article at Fashionista.com
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and Editor-in-Chief at CyberDatingExpert.com. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice sign up for the Weekly Flirt newsletter, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.
Same Sky was created as a trade-not-aid initiative to help women in the African countries of Rwanda and Zambia rebuild their lives. Their goal is to give women a hand-up instead of a handout. These women who survived the 1994 genocide are taught to create the most beautiful hand woven beaded jewelry.
Baubles have been seen on celebrities including Halle Berry, Goldie Hawn, Ann Curry, Lauren Bush, Sela Ward, Donna Karan, Fergie, Meryl Streep and more.
The stunning and affordable bracelets and necklaces were on display at Saks Fifth Avenue in Beverly Hills, where I picked up their Hope necklace in a light coral color. I wore it on a recent appearance on FOX news and received many compliments. The necklaces are so versatile that they can be worn as one long strand, double-stranded, or even wrapped around your wrist as a bracelet.
Same Sky Prosperity bracelets are priced at $65 – $85 and range in a variety of colors including red, pink, and purple. Their slogan is “Every woman, Every dream.” It’s something worth bragging about to your next online date.
Photo credit: SameSky.com.
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Wondering if you should wear red or pink this Valentine’s Day? I’m a firm believer that red the perfect color to wear year-round for your online dating profile, as well as on a first date. But don’t take my word for it. I reached out to Image Consultant Kimberly Seltzer, who agreed, it’s best to be the Lady in Red this Valentine’s Day. Kimberly compares Valentine’s outfits to Halloween for a little bit of fun.
“Both holidays give you a chance to dress up and perhaps wear something a little risqué that you perhaps wouldn’t normally wear,” says Kimberly. “No matter if you are celebrating with your man, going out with your girlfriends to attract a new one or just pampering yourself on Valentine’s Day, put on something that makes you feel special, alive and sexy.” Seltzer encourages singles and women in a relationship to put on their little black dress, throw on a pair of high heels and pile on the vanilla-flavored lip-gloss.
Here are Kimberly’s 5 easy red-hot tips that will surely shoot an arrow right into any man’s heart.
1. Feel Sexy—What men find sexy in a woman is when she herself feels sexy. Men notice your sexual confidence in the way you dress, walk, move your body and smile. Wear something that makes you feel sexy and sensual. So put on a dress that you feel confident and a little daring in. This doesn’t mean you have to show your mid-drift or fall out of your dress. Guys would much rather undress you with their eyes and leave things to the imagination than display it all right there. Part of being sexy is leaving them with a sense of intrigue and curiosity. If you give it all away to them, they may not have the desire to want more. For example, wear a fitted red dress that shows your curves and just teases the man with a low cut-out back. Or perhaps you want to go more casual and sport a leather jacket with a lacy cami peeking through.
Use fabrics that are great against your skin and touchable. Cashmere, silky satin, and buttery soft suedes are the real scene-stealers. Touchable fabrics not only invite another’s touch, they have the added bonus of feeling great against your skin so you feel pampered and sexy. Find fun and unique ways to express your sensuality!
2. Dress Feminine—Men absolutely love a soft womanly touch. A dress, skirt and heels can make any man’s heart skip a beat. Display your feminine sexuality with flowing hair or an attractive hairdo, nice nails, makeup and discreet displays of bare skin, plus colorful clothes and jewelry that are eye-catching signs of femininity. And ladies, no corporate blazers please! Your dress should be flirty, flowy and gorgeous. Perhaps it is romantic and completely easy like a soft silk in a red and off-white combination. Or maybe it is a tight fitted LBD worn with sleek patent red pumps. And while you are at it, remember to laugh, smile, create softness and be light and open on your date with your man. He’ll appreciate your receptive and delicate attitude and style.
3. Wear Heels—A man will love the way you move in a pair of high heels. There are three reasons why men’s jaw drop when you slip on the stilettos. They love the way the shoes make your legs look, how they make you walk and move your body and how it exudes femininity. Find the perfect footwear to go with that Valentine’s dress. Think sexy, strappy, sparkly and high! Feel a little unsteady in the skyscrapers? Try a pair of platforms with a thicker heel to give you more support.
4. Smell Amazing—Explore a new signature fragrance that captures your man’s attention. Several studies show that vanilla-flavored perfumes can intoxicate his senses. But perhaps he prefers something a little fresh and floral with a hint of citrus. Notice those fragrances that get a reaction and go with it! You might also want to try a new body lotion to put all over your body in unexpected places.
5. Be Daring and Add A Surprise—If you have been with your beau for a while, most likely there is an element of monotony in your relationship and in the way you dress. Even if you are going out with your girlfriends or you are with a new man, it’s important to infuse a little variety in your life which can help you give off new and exciting energy. Spice things up by wearing something a little different for you. Perhaps you secretly wear a new red lacy thong with a matching bra under your Valentine’s dress. Or nothing attracts attention quite like a hat. First, it takes guts to wear one. Second, it takes panache to carry it off. Combine the two qualities and you get major sex appeal.
Whatever you decide to wear, enhancing and focusing on your Valentine attitude and your wardrobe will boost the way you feel about yourself, thus boosting your chances for love on this special day.
Visit Kimberly at www.eliteimagemakeovers.com for a complete dating image consultation.
Wardrobe coach, Nicole Longstreath has offered her fashion advice on how to dress on a date to help you look your best, both online and offline.
A first date with a potential suitor can be a make-or-break affair. It’s important to be genuine so, much like a job interview, you want to be ready to chat about all the right things – and avoid the wrong things. More importantly, you also want your wardrobe to project the right image.
Putting together that perfect first-date outfit can mean the difference between making the best impression and never getting a call back. While getting ready for the date, here are a few things to remember:
Don’t rush. If you have to schedule a Friday-night-date, make sure you have enough time to get home from work with sufficient time to get date-ready. An 8:00 Friday night date is perfect. Otherwise, schedule something for Saturday.
Give yourself options. The day before, take a good look in your closet and pull together a selection of 2 to 3 outfit options. Consider what the date’s activities will be and plan accordingly.
Factor the conditions. Where I live, in Southern California, the evenings can get quite chilly even in Summer time. If you plan to be anywhere outdoors, make sure you bring a sweater or jacket which coordinates with your outfit. Conversely, dress in layers so you can remove something if the weather gets hot.
Keep it simple and sexy. When it comes to fashion, most men are out of the loop when it comes to trends. Your best bet is to avoid styles which are very trendy, even if your date is fashion-forward. Think classic styles – drapey skirts which hit at the knee, blouses which have v-neck and sweetheart necklines and styles which accentuate the waist. Skip the complicated stuff and save your trendier garments for future dates.
We’re in the middle of summer now, but some singles are just starting to date again. Finding the right outfit to make that terrific first impression in your online dating profile or on a first date is really important.
Our friends at Match.com polled some of their members to find out what they prefer seeing their date wearing and I’m tossing in some of my fashion favorites for both men and women for the season.
Do wear long hair in braids. It’s fun and flirty and not just for children anymore.
Don’t wear a low cut dress or top. There’s no need to show off your cleavage on a first date, unless you’re anxious to head to the bedroom.
Do wear white pants on a date. Take advantage of the clean feeling of bright white in the summer time.
Don’t wear flip flops. Men still like the look of a heel on a woman. Unless you’re taking a beach walk, wear a high-heeled open toe sandal.
Do wear a short skirt or dress. Short and sexy will never go out of style.
Do wear khaki’s. It’s simple and conservative. You can’t go wrong with this look combined with a polo shirt.
Don’t wear a Hawaiian shirt. Bright patterns are distracting and out-of-style.
Do wear aviator sunglasses. Women find this look sexy on an outdoor date. Remember when you go inside, take them off so she can glance at your eyes.
Don’t wear a Speedo. Never ever wear a Speedo or she’ll speed out of there faster than you can imagine. Try wearing conservative swimsuit or shorts if you’re headed to the beach.
Do wear a vee neck tee shirt or cardian sweater. This casual look for the summer may make her eyes melt.
Do you have a favorite summer fashion look? Your comments and suggestions are always welcome.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert, bestselling author, and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She creates irresistible online dating profiles for singles on the dating scene. Follow Julie on Twitter @JulieSpira for dating advice and like her at facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert
It’s springtime and for many, it’s time to rearrange your closet to make room for warm-weather clothes or even splurge for some new additions to your wardrobe.
My recommendation this spring is to indulge in the wonderful palette of colors in denim jeans. Forget whether it’s black or blue, you can now wear a different pair of colored jeans every day of the week, and the brighter, the better.
From Victoria’s Secret VS Kiss Capri in red, priced at $39.50 to rose-colored MF Jeans for $130, there are a variety of styles and colors to choose from. So think back to your favorite color in the Crayola crayon box and you’ll be right in style on date night this season.
I have always believed in the significance of wearing red on a first date.
Here’s what we intuitively know about the color red:
- Red is the color of love.
- Red ignites passion.
- Red is the signature color for Valentine’s Day.
- You give red roses to a blue lady.
- Red is sexy.
- Red is a powerful color for women in the bedroom and the boardroom.
- Red stimulates the heart to beat faster.
Recently, I wrote an article on Huffington Post about why men were attracted to women who wore red. This behavior was backed up by a research study from the European Journal of Social Psychology called *”Red and Romantic Behavior in Viewing Women.”
In the above mentioned study, male undergraduates were shown photographs of young adult women. Some women were wearing the color green and others were wearing red. As they were looking at photos alone, the study showed similar behaviors to those who would view women’s profiles on an online dating site. The men appeared to ask more forward questions to the women in red as compared to the generic questions asked of the women wearing green.
While wearing red won’t guarantee a marriage proposal, it is more likely that it will result in more forward conversations according to the study.
I have been recommending that women wear red on their first dates with men for many years. My online dating profile always had a photo of me wearing red. The man who proposed to me, who I met on JDate, affectionately called me “The Lady in Red.”
Red might not be your favorite color, but wearing red when going to singles events and meeting men for the first time will capture the attention of the men in the room. I feel so strongly about the color red, that cover of my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating shows a girl wearing a red dress getting ready for a date. We know that men are visual and are likely to remember what you wore on your first date, so why not wear red to make your first impression?
Wearing red to attract men is so powerful, that the Jewish Journal came to my home earlier this year to shoot a video with some of my expert online dating tips. Where did they start? In my closet of course. They wanted me to talk about the red dresses that were worn on many first dates. Men and women everywhere are backing up the research from the experts in the recent study on the color of red.
Does that mean I think you should toss out your favorite green shirt? No. But since first impressions do matter and men are looking at hundreds of photos every time they log online looking for love, perhaps wearing red isn’t such a bad idea at all. You have a split second to make an impression online and having a profile photo and catchy screen name to draw a man in, is important. Men are, and always will be visual. Once you get past the color test, it’s time to show him the authentic you and let your personality shine.
*”Red and Romantic Behavior in Men Viewing Women,” Daniela Niesta Kayser, Andrew J. Elliot, Roger Feltman, European Journal of Social Psychology (October, 2010)