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Digital Dating – Tips for Long-Distance Love

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computerheart 150x121Thinking about expanding your zip code or dusting off your passport while looking for love online? I can tell you from first-hand experience that you need to cast a wide net and brush up on your technology skills.? Mobile phone use and high speed Internet makes it so much easier than in the pre-Internet days where you spent a fortune in long-distance bills and time buying Hallmark cards. Now, a cute e-card, Skype, twitter, and facebook along with your smartphone should keep you digitally connected and happily-in-love.

In a recent interview in the Times-Union, A Modern Twist on Long-Distance Love, I talked about the use of Skype and texting to keep you connected to your loved ones.

Julie Spira, author of ?The Perils of Cyber Dating,? says many people look at technology to enhance relationships. Whether you use Skype, iChat or text, technology makes it virtually impossible to be disconnected from the world.

Spira said people must still invest in the relationship, and that relationships held together over distance are big commitments.

Spira advises women to even put on that cute dress and lipstick, the same as they would do face to face.

But Spira cautions that relationships starting out as long distance have a longer honeymoon stage.??Sometimes long-distance relationships give the false illusion you are in a long-distance relationship, but it is a vacation relationship,? Spira said. ?Time is so concentrated you only know vacation mode; it is a romantic fantasy.?

Spira said in vacation relationships, you often only see each other for a short period of time, so you usually stay at nice hotels, eat at expensive restaurants and leave the real world behind.

?You don?t talk about issues real couples face, like talking about paying bills and mold in the house,? Spira said. ?Vacation couples often have trouble making the transition into real relationships when they move to the same city or household.?

If you feel you?re in a vacation relationship, Spira said to incorporate regular life into the relationship, find boundaries and how to manage them.

?Try and focus on reality and not just romance.?

Are you involved in a long-distance relationship? Are you using video chat on facebook or skype as part of your digital dating regime? Your comments are always welcome and if you get a moment, follow me for dating advice on Twitter @JulieSpira, on facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert and on Google+.

 

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