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Book Review – The Perils of Cyber-Dating

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Read the latest book review from Cupid’s Pulse along with my personal interview about The Perils of Cyber-Dating.

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More than 40 million singles are dating online. With around 2,500 online dating sites to choose from, how can you navigate your way safely and find love on the Internet? Julie Spira?s tell-all memoir, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, can help. You’ll follow her on her 15-year journey, which included 250 online dates as she navigates the web in hopes to find an Internet mate to replace someone she thought was the love of her life. Through her romances, heartbreaks, and personal rules of ‘netiquette,’ Spira shares invaluable first-hand knowledge on the best ways to date online.

Cupid’s Take:

Online dating has it’s own set of rules. Remember to be safe and savvy when on the web. Cupid caught up with the Spira via e-mail this week. Here’s what the author had to say:

Cupid: You were one of the first people to delve into the world of online dating. Were you scared? What were other people’s reactions?

Julie Spira: At the time I created my first online dating profile in 1994, I wasn’t scared at all. I fully embraced the Internet both personally and professionally. But, since online dating was not mainstream at that point, I told very few people that I was meeting my dates from online dating sites. I told some close friends who I thought could benefit from online dating and helped them with their online dating profiles and then started coaching singles professionally.

Cupid: What’s different about cyberdating (as compared to traditional dating), and how can people adapt to it?

JS: The main difference between cyberdating and traditional dating is that you are meeting someone that you haven?t met before in real life and you are getting to know them from behind their computer screen. Online dating, Internet dating, and cyberdating are all terms used for those using online dating sites, chat rooms, video dating, and social dating sites. This also includes social networking sites such as Facebook and MySpace. In order to completely embrace online dating, one needs to be comfortable using their computer. It’s also important to be very organized as you may receive hundreds of emails in the first day or two. In order to be successful, if you create a system that helps keep all of the replies and emails sent, you’ll be able to communicate with your dates with their background information. If you are already using Facebook to communicate with friends, it’s the next logical step.

Cupid: What have you seen change about the online dating world since you started?

JS: When I first started dating online, Match.com hadn’t been launched yet. There were very few sites to pick from. It was a much simpler process without all the Web 2.0 bells and whistles. You weren’t seeing video dating and text messaging wasn’t an option in the U.S.

Cupid: What is your relationship to online dating now?

JS: As an online dating coach, I help singles create their irresistible online dating profiles and work with them to search the best possible matches. I also help them decide which sites to join and teach them how to craft and email introduction and response that will grab the attention of those profiles they select.

Cupid: What are your top 5 netiquette rules for cyberdating?

JS: My Rules of Netiquette from my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, include:

1. The Google Rule.  If you Google your date before you meet them, don’t let them know on the first date. You’d be surprised how some people actually print out the Google results and start questioning their date about specific entries. It’s not appropriate first date material and no one wants to feel like they are on a job interview or under the microscope.
2. The Food and Beverage Rule. If you ask a date out for coffee, be prepared to order a beverage for her and yourself. I have heard stories many times where either someone arrives with their own water, or simply does not order a coffee or tea for their date. You should assume that a coffee date includes a drink, and a dinner date includes some form of food.
3. The Ex Rule.  Don’t talk about your ex-wife or husband, ex girlfriend or boyfriend, or spend time talking about the past. You’d be surprised that some talk about their spousal support, or a relationship that didn’t work out on the first date. Keep it light and leave the baggage at home.
4. The Send Button Rule.  My mother always says, “If you don’t have anything nice to say about someone, don’t say anything at all.” Too often someone gets mad and drafts an email and pushes the send button. When in doubt, send it to yourself. You might feel differently in the morning. Once you push the send button, you can’t take it back.
5. The Break Up Rule.  Never break up with a significant other in an email or a text message. It’s just common courtesy to have a conversation and preferably in person. Do you really want to go down in history as the one who frequently dumps their dates in an email or text?  Sure, celebrities are ending relationships in text messages and on Twitter these days. But is it right?

Most importantly, be authentic. Authenticity is really in style now. With over 400 million members on Facebook, it’s easy for someone to see if your photo on your online dating profile does not match the recent birthday or vacation pictures on Facebook. We know that many singles lie about their age in their online dating profiles to fit into a search, but the truth will come out when you meet in real life. You start out on a bad foot if you are lying about your age, weight, and height. Enjoy the process and look at cyberdating as a way to increase your social and business networks in the event it doesn’t turn into a romantic relationship.

Cupid thanks Spira for her time!? For more information and dating advice, visit her site, CyberDatingExpert.com.

Meet Author Julie Spira at the West Hollywood Book Fair

bookcoverlr1 194x300Join bestselling author and CyberDating Expert Julie Spira at the West Hollywood Book Fair on Sunday, September 26, 2010.

Spira will present and sign copies of her book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online from 10:00am – 12:00pm at Booth E63 and E64.

In addition, she will be providing online dating profile critiques and dating advice for singles on the dating scene.

EVENT DETAILS

Who: Author, Julie Spira
Where: West Hollywood Book Fair, 647 N. San Vicente Blvd. West Hollywood, CA
When: Sunday, September 26, 2010
Time: 10AM to 12PM (Booth E 63 and 64)
Cost: *Free*

ABOUT THE PERILS OF CYBER-DATING

“The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online” is a romantic tell-all memoir spanning over 250 online dates in almost 15 years. The book is filled with heartfelt, witty, and hilarious stories. Julie Spira, a pioneer in the Internet industry, became the first on her block to post an online dating profile. You’ll follow her journey as she skillfully navigates the web, hoping to replace what she once thought was the love of her life with a new Internet mate. Combining her fairytale romances and disappointing heartbreaks with her personal “rules of netiquette,” Spira provides priceless knowledge about the most effective ways to date online.

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The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Now Available on Kindle

bookcoverlr 194x300They say the best things in life are worth waiting for.The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online by Julie Spira is now available in the Kindle format on Amazon.

This bestselling online dating book and tell-all memoir features Spira’s 15 year romantic journey in cyberspace. The book is a hilarious, witty, ?and heartfelt look into the trials and tribulations of dating in a Web 2.0 World. Learn from an Internet industry pro who had to start her life all over again.

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Here’s what they are saying about The Perils of Cyber-Dating.

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joan rivers“Hilariously Funny! Singles of all ages need to read this book.”

~ Joan Rivers
Comedienne and Best Selling Author

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ejeanphoto “It?s like Sex and The City in a Web 2.0 World.”

~E. Jean Carroll
Columnist, ?Ask E. Jean? Elle Magazine
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“Anyone who has ever tried online dating will relate to Julie Spira’s stories and not feel alone. The Perils of Cyber-Dating gives hope to singles everywhere with an email address that they can successfully meet someone online.”

~ Dr. Pat Allen
Author of the best-seller of Getting to ‘I Do’

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cherylheadshot th “Thank goodness there are still hopeful romantics left in this world!”

~ Cheryl Woodcock
Producer and Correspondent, Entertainment Tonight-The Insider

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“I’ve seen too many women put in jeopardy by unscrupulous Internet dating contacts. That’s why this book is your must-have navigation guide to help you safely travel through the perilous landscape of cyber-dating. Plus, Spira’s personal stories are a hoot and a half!”

~ Diane Dimond
Journalist and Author
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julieferman1 150x150“Online dating memberships should come with a handbook and many doses of humor. Julie Spira provides both. A wonderful companion for singles looking for love online.”

~ Julie Ferman
Founder, Cupid’s Coach
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“Julie Spira tells a compelling story, shares intimate moments, and transforms her experience into means of larger good.”

~ Veronica De Laurentiis
Best-selling Author of Rivoglio La Mia Vita

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donnasozio 150x150“There are always telltale signs whether or not a man is ‘The One’. Read this book and learn from Julie so you won?t be caught in a ‘Bermuda triangle’ of Internet dating.”

~ Donna Sozio
Yahoo! personals dating expert and author of Never Trust a Man in Alligator Loafers

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“This book is a must for this generation of singles, both male and female, who are into cyber-dating. It is possible to find someone if you know the rules.”

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~ Dane Robert Swanson
Santa Monica Daily Press

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Tamsen 157 cropped 150x110“As a relationship expert, I love to recommend Julie’s advice for online daters. A must-read!”

~ Tamsen Fadal
Author and Relationship Expert


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Dating and Relationships: The Game Has Changed

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Join me on January 14, 2010 as the Social Media Club of Los Angeles presents, Dating and Relationships: The Game Has Changed. Get all the tips you need a month before Valentine’s Day.

I will be on a panel with my friends, AV Flox, Evan Marc Katz, Liz H. Kelly, and Linda Sherman. We’ll be talking about social media and dating. It will be a fun evening. Learn how online dating is becoming social dating with some dating advice thrown in. ?You can RSVP on ?Facebook.

There will be a book signing at the end of the event, and I’ll be there with copies of my online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. One lucky guest will win the Cyber Swag Bag filled with over $400 of romantic gifts including an autographed copy of my book, one free Irresistible online dating profile, 1 private Pilates session at Beyond Physical Therapy, and a free olive butter treatment at Byu-ti salon.

What: Dating and Social Media Panel and Mixer
Where: 12th and Highland, 304 12th Street, Manhattan Beach, CA
When: January 14, 2009
Time: 7:00pm – 10:00 pm
RSVP on Facebook

Praise for the Book – The Perils of Cyber-Dating

 

Praise and rave revues for Julie Spira’s online dating book, THE PERILS OF CYBER-DATING: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Click here to purchase your copy.

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joan rivers“Hilariously Funny! Singles of all ages need to read this book.”

~ Joan Rivers
Comedienne and Best Selling Author

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ejeanphoto “It’s like Sex and The City in a Web 2.0 World.”

~E. Jean Carroll
Columnist, ‘Ask E. Jean’ Elle Magazine
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drpatallen 10 08 cropped 150x150“Anyone who has ever tried online dating will relate to Julie Spira’s stories and not feel alone. The Perils of Cyber-Dating gives hope to singles everywhere with an email address that they can successfully meet someone online.”

~ Dr. Pat Allen
Author of the best-seller of Getting to ‘I Do’

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cherylheadshot th “Thank goodness there are still hopeful romantics left in this world!”

~ Cheryl Woodcock
Producer and Correspondent, Entertainment Tonight-The Insider

 

 

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dianedimondpurpletnI’ve seen too many women put in jeopardy by unscrupulous Internet dating contacts. That’s why this book is your must-have navigation guide to help you safely travel through the perilous landscape of cyber-dating. Plus, Spira’s personal stories are a hoot and a half!”

~ Diane Dimond
Journalist and Author
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julieferman1 150x150“Online dating memberships should come with a handbook and many doses of humor. Julie Spira provides both. A wonderful companion for singles looking for love online.”

~ Julie Ferman
Founder, Cupid’s Coach
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veronica edited 150x150“Julie Spira tells a compelling story, shares intimate moments, and transforms her experience into means of larger good.”

~ Veronica De Laurentiis
Best-selling Author of Rivoglio La Mia Vita


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drdianaheadshot 150x126“This book is a fantastic journey that takes you through the jungle of online dating adventures! It reads like an entertaining and fun novel, and teaches you along the way. Julie dishes like she is your best friend, as she takes you into the heart of her vast dating experiences. Definitely pick it up!”

~ Dr. Diana Kirschner
Best-selling Author of Love in 90 Days

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donnasozio 150x150“There are always telltale signs whether or not a man is ‘The One’. Read this book and learn from Julie so you won?t be caught in a ‘Bermuda triangle’ of Internet dating.”

~ Donna Sozio
Yahoo! personals dating expert and author of Never Trust a Man in Alligator Loafers

 

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“This book is a must for this generation of singles, both male and female, who are into cyber-dating. It is possible to find someone if you know the rules.”

smdailypress


~ Dane Robert Swanson
Santa Monica Daily Press

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“As a relationship expert, I like to recommend Julie?s advice for online daters. A must-read!”

~Tamsen Fadal
Morning anchor, WPIX, New York and Relationship Expert

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“Julie Spira’s a Very Glam Gal.”

~ Patrick McMullan
Celebrity Photographer and author of Glamour Girls

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