The first Cyber-Dating Expert Weekly Flirt newsletter of 2014 is reading for your reading pleasure.
Tick, tick, tick…What will you be doing on Sunday night at 8:57pm?
As we embark on a New Year, I know many of you start putting together your lists of resolutions and think about how much better 2014 will be as compared to 2013.
If so, you’re not alone. Maybe you’ll date a different type this year. Perhaps you’ll encourage your children to look at love differently.
The good news is, that this is the number one busiest week for new singles to join online dating sites. As a matter of fact, Match reports that this Sunday is the busiest time of the year for singles looking for love online. Think about it. It’s the first weekend and relaxing day after two weeks of holiday fun and interruptions. Already the phone is ringing with singles hoping to ramp up the search.
Other sites such as JDate and ChristianMingle concur with these findings that show peak season starts on December 26th and lasts through February 14th.
Ready to jump in? Let us know how we can help you find love in 2014 and what relationship challenges you’re facing with our Irresistible Profiles or online dating profile critiques. Ready, set, go!
On January 14-17, 2013, I’ll be heading to Las Vegas for the Internet Dating Conference, where I’ll be presenting the award for the best mobile dating app. If you’ll be attending, do let us know!
Not single? Feel free to share the Weekly Flirt with your friends and loved ones.
~Julie Spira and the Cyber-Dating Expert Romance Team
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We’re jumping for joy at Cyber-Dating Expert headquarters as we’re celebrating the five-year anniversary of our online dating advice site, CyberDatingExpert.com. Although we’ve been helping singles find love online for almost 20 years, the launch of our site catapulted our services to the forefront in the Internet dating industry.
At this half-decade milestone, it’s time for us to take a moment or two and reflect on the past year and thank those who have made us proud to be in the digital love business and remain the go-to source for online dating expert advice.
Irresistible Coaching - Our signature online dating profiles and dating coaching has resulted in many love-birds who are riding into the digital sunset together. From eHarmony to JDate, Tinder to Facebook, we’ve held the hands of many singles before, during, and after their dates. It was a huge pleasure and joy to help several media personalities with their online dating journey, including Sirius-XM’s David Nelson on the Steve Malzberg Show and CBS Radio’s Kim, from the Jim and Kim Show who both took the plunge for the very first time on Match.com. You can listen to the segments by clicking on the links above.
It’s with great enthusiasm to share that we’re in the middle of shooting a feature film where online dating expert Julie Spira is the real-life dating coach of an MTV reality star as he looks for love online. We hope to watch this on the big screen next year. Can we say Red Carpet?
Irresistible Profiles – Our signature online dating profile services help you when you need some extra hand-holding. Our Going Steady and Totally in Love Programs, include creating an irresistible online dating profile to help you shorten the search and ride into the digital sunset together. A New Pew Research study revealed that 32% of women and 17% of men actually enlisted help with their profiles.
In the News – We were interviewed many times in the media, from holiday dating to the Manti Teo fake girlfriend story and of course non-stop with Valentine’s coverage. When Martha Stewart joined Match, we chimed in with advice on how to beef up her profile on the FOX News morning show, Good Day LA. Special thanks to the New York Post, Prevention magazine, Men’s Fitness, NBC News, AARP, Bottom Line Personal, Mercury News, Fashionista, Her Campus, WTOP Radio, Marsha Collier of the Computer & Technology Show, Detroit Free Press, USA Today, Boston Globe, Huffington Post, BBC, eHarmony, Healthy Living, Shape magazine, HLN-TV, Dr. Drew on HLN, CNN, NBC – St. Louis, FOX News – Las Vegas, Prevention magazine, WLW-Radio, Contra-Costa Times, Pro Football Central, Singular City, Kixi – Seattle, Citibank’s Women & Co., Huffington Post, Tonya Hall Radio, Voice of America, WCCO Radio, Ventura County Star, Tech Talk Radio, Hawaii Reporter, Larry Magid, CBS News, Glamour, My Fox Parents, Mashable, LA Weekly, CCTV, Metro News, FOX News magazine, Business Insider, ABC News, Pittsburgh Tribune News, Home & Family on the Hallmark Channel, TodayShow.com, WGN, Christian Science Monitor, iVillage, Look Better Online, Jennings Wire, She Knows, Mobile Dia, San Francisco Chronicle, The Daily Beast, Game n Guide, San Antonio Press News, Match.com’s Happen magazine, Hawaii Reporter, Sci-Fi Today, ABC News – Philadelphia, Babble, Your Tango’s Online Dating BootCamp, Betty Confidential, NY Daily News, Toledo News, Al Jazeera America, Washington Post, Daily Collegian, Take Part Live on PivotTV, and the list goes on. You can check out these stories in our Press Room.
On the Newsstand – Many thanks to Glamour magazine for including our online dating advice in their April issue – Stop Googling Your Dates, Elle magazine in the August issue – The Social Stigma of Online Dating, Men’s Health in the February Issue, Boston Globe, New York Post, and in USA Today twice, among others.
In-Real-Life – It was an honor to host and curate Online Dating BootCamp and Mobile Dating BootCamp at the Internet Dating Conference, iDate and to be a presenter at the iDate awards. Bloomingdales named Julie their dating expert for Makeup-101: Meet Your Beauty Match and Facebook called on Julie to become their dating expert. With the collaboration of Facebook, we launched Facebook Love Stories on Valentine’s Day to highlight those couples who met on Facebook. We hope you take a peek at FacebookLoveStories.com. A huge thank you to DatingAdvice.com who named Julie their Online Dating Expert. We hope you read some of the dating advice articles. It was a thrill to be a panelist at Digital LA’s Love Goes Digital, Social Media Club’s: Social Media and Dating Online: It’s Big Business, and at Social Media Week. We hosted the “Pimp Your Profile” seminar with Hurry Date in Los Angeles, and more.
As we look into the future, plan to see more of us featured on television and film, with several big surprise announcements in store in the coming months.
As always, we wish you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.
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It’s time to put on the DJ hat for the Cyber Love Song of the Week.
Summer wouldn’t be complete without featuring Justin Timberlake’s song, “Falling in Love.”
Timberlake’s lyrics give home to singles who think they’re falling in love who hope the love will last beyond the summer.
Do you have a favorite summer love song you’d like to share?
Listen to our other Cyber Love Songs.
It’s National Romance Awareness Month, so we’re happy to share some of our favorite dating, love and romance articles on the web this week, while taking a digital moment to show our gratitude for the social media love.
This Week’s Cyber Love Links include our links to love, when you’re in the mood for love.
Elle magazine - Love and relationships: The social stigma of online dating. It’s a thrill to be quoted in the August issue of Elle magazine in Canada. The results will surprise you. Yes, although I believe the stigma is gone, there are those who will still go to great lengths to hide the fact that they’ve met online. Do you fall into that category?
Betty Confidential – Your Relationship on Social Media: Pro Tips on Mastering Netiquette. Betty’s Diana Denza asked me some great questions including, What are some things that women post on social media that have the potential to drive a date off? and “What should you say (if anything) to someone you’re dating if he has other women writing flirtatious posts on his wall?” Yes. We don’t want you to become that cyber stalker, so we hope you enjoy these tips.
YourTango – Online Dating BootCamp – They’re live! Six full episodes of Online Dating BootCamp, where I’m helping Lauren from Beverly Hills find love on Match.com. Watch our videos so you can ramp up your search while looking for love online.
Episode 1: How to Create the Perfect Profile
Episode 2: How to Write the Perfect Description
Episode 3: How to Find Your Dream Guy
Episode 4: How to Write the Perfect Intro Email
Episode 5: How to Create the Perfect Profile Photo
Episode 6: Making it Happen in the Real World
On Twitter, we shared some of our favorite articles including:
The Atlantic – When a Relationship Becomes a Game
Woman’s Day – 10 Important Love Lessons from ‘The Bachelorette’
Our favorite quote this week is: “Romance is thinking about your significant other, when you are supposed to be thinking about something else.” ~Nicholas Sparks
Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.
~Julie Spira and the Cyber-Dating Expert Team
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If you missed the American Music Awards last night, we thought we’d feature one of our favorite winners, Adele, who brought home the award for the Best Adult Contemporary Artist.
This video of Adele’s song Someone Like You includes an introduction interview in her home. Sure the song will tug on your heartstrings, but will also help you let go, move on and realize that you can find love again.
Do you have a favorite Cyber Love Song?
Do you have a favorite Bryan Adams song?
For more Cyber Love Songs click here.
Every year at Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters, we have our Irresistible Anniversary Celebration. It was four years ago on October 15, 2008, that CyberDatingExpert.com, an online dating advice magazine was officially launched. Today, we’re honored to be considered the TOP online dating advice site on the planet and are helping more and more singles find love online.
It’s a joy to share with you our year-in-review and a few special announcements and offers for our Anniversary Week.
When we launched as a site to help singles while dating in a Web 2.0 World, we knew we could help singles in their cyber journey. We’d like to thank you for helping us remain the #1 online dating expert site on the Internet. In honor of our birthday, we’d like to give you a gift to help you while looking for love online and the largest discount ever on our Irresistible Profiles.
From Monday, October 15th through Sunday, October 22nd, we’ll be giving our readers a free .pdf copy of our bestselling online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating. To receive your free copy follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and post this update. Hi @JulieSpira. I’m #lookingforloveonline.
Also during our irresistible anniversary celebration week, Like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert and post your update of “Happy Anniversary Cyber-Dating Expert. I’m looking for love online” to receive a free copy of The Perils of Cyber-Dating.
In addition, we’ll be answering your dating questions for FREE all weekend long. So do take a moment and join in on the fun. If you have a dating dilemma, let us know!
50% Off Irresistible Profiles
Need some extra hand-holding? We’re offering our readers 50% off our Going Steady and Totally in Love Programs, where we’ll create an irresistible online dating profile to help you shorten the search and ride into the digital sunset together. But don’t wait. This offer is only valid for new orders placed between October 15, 2012 – October 22, 2012. Click here to get started.
Bloomingdales – Beauty 101: Meet Your Match
October 20, 2012, 1PM To 2PM – 4PM To 5PM
Our week long celebration will end at Bloomingdales in Century City (Los Angeles), where it’s an honor to partner with Bloomies for their “Turn Your Beauty On” Promotion. We know you might need some help with finding your perfect makeup match to look super-beautiful on date night. Come see Cyber-Dating Expert Julie Spira at the Meet Your Match speed-beauty event. Julie will provide personalized dating and relationship advice. With your $25 ticket, redeemable in Cosmetics merchandise, you’ll receive free samples, light refreshments, and enter to win one of the many luxurious Cosmetics gift baskets. Stop by any Cosmetics counter to get your ticket now! This is going to be a lot of fun and tickets are limited. Call 310-772-2144 to reserve your spot!
Now for a few bragging rights and in case you missed some of our highlights, we’re sharing our year-in-review for you.
Best Dating Blog Finalist
You voted for us for the best dating blog in the world and we became a finalist. Yes, there were thousands of votes and the competition was steep. CyberDatingExpert.com was the only dating advice site to be a finalist in both 2011 and 2012. It’s with heartfelt thanks that we acknowledge your support.
In the News
From Facebook to mobile dating, online dating safety to breaking up, our dating advice reached millions on multiple continents! It was an honor to be named one of America’s Leading Relationship Experts in Woman’s World magazine. Most of our media appearances can be found in our press room.
Mobile Dating BootCamp
We hosted the first-ever Mobile Dating BootCamp and it was featured in the Washington Post. Mobile is the hot topic and we’re helping singles find love from the convenience of their mobile phones. We’re gearing up for Season Two of Mobile Dating BootCamp, and our mobile dating advice has been featured in/on Canadian Living, Mashable, Mobile Dia, NBC, and NPR.
Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps
Back by popular demand and in conjunction with Social Media Week, we announced the Cyber Dating Expert Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps for 2012. This year, we expanded the list to include social discovery apps. Why wait until you get home to find a date? It’s time to start dating on your cell phone. View our post to see all the features of our favorites this year.
Your Online Dating Stories
From the bottom of my heart, all of us at Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters thank you for another amazing year of letting us help you find love in a Web 2.0 World. Do remember to like us on Facebook and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.
“I had spent several months waiting to hit “go” on my online dating profile, unsure about my photos and insecure about the the wording of my responses. After spending just a few hours with Julie, we were able to craft a profile that truly reflects the real me. She insisted we post it live as soon as we were done. The results were unbelievable. Within hours, I received 5 thoughtful emails from men who fit my criteria. Several more soon followed and continue to pour in. Without her invaluable advice, I would have never had the kind of success I’ve been able to have. Thank you Julie!”
“I had been happily married for 25 years and was nervous about starting over again. After healing from my husband’s death, I worked with online dating coach Julie Spira who gave me the confidence and tools for dating online. I signed up for the “Totally in Love” package, where Julie created my profile and held my hand along the way. Within a week I met someone who I really liked. I became optimistic about finding love again. A few months later, I was pleasantly surprised as I fell in love with my Soul Mate.”
~Gail – 56
“I worked with Julie Spira to rewrite my online dating profile. With her help and coaching, I was able to find more quality women to write to online.”
~Dean – 35
For your reading pleasure, it’s time to pay digital homage and share our favorite dating tweets and links for the week, with a few thank you’s tossed in as well.
On Huffington Post Women, they posted their top tweets of the week, including one from @TracyClarkFlory: My boyfriend: “My mom looked you up on the Internet.” #scarysentences. Yes it’s true. Your mother cares, but to Google your date for you?
My friend Dr. Terri Orbuch was quoted on the Wall Street Journal in The 5 Lessons Divorced People Learn About Marriage. Great for those starting over again.
If you decide to go on a Skype date or video chat with your new digital crush, our friends at Mashable posted 5 tips on how to look good on video chat. We shared Mobile Dia’s “5 Apps for the Romantically Challenged” and The Toronto Sun’s article, “Online Dating Means e-mail Overload for Women.” My pal Jennifer at Bad Online Dates shared a guest post from Liz at We Love Dates, “What to Do if You’re in Love With More Than One Man.” It’s a must-read so you don’t end up with the wrong guy or alone from a juggling act that went south.
For the gratitude section of Cyber Love Links, a huge thank you to The Ricki Lake Show for sharing my tweet on “Who Should Follow Up After a First Date?” and to We Love Dates for retweeting, “To Wink, or Not to Wink.” I’d also like to thank Damona for having me as a guest on “Dates & Mates with Dear Mrs. D” this week. They’ll be posting the link on Monday and we’ll be sure to share it with you.
It seems everyone loves dating shows these days. I adored Faye Brennan’s interview on YourTango with Alex Miranda, host of the new dating show ’3.’ Speaking of dating shows, if you’re in Los Angeles and would like to be on a new Bravo TV show, they’ll be casting single online daters at the Viceroy Hotel on Monday night. I’ll be there as well, so say hello and RSVP on Facebook.
Our favorite quote of the week was, “A good life is when you smile often, dream big, laugh a lot and realize how blessed you are for what you have.”
Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.
~Julie Spira and the Cyber-Dating Expert Team
Julie Spira is an online dating expert, bestselling author, and Editor-in-Chief at CyberDatingExpert.com. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene and helps them shorten their search to ride off into the digital sunset. For dating advice, join our Weekly Flirt and like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert
It was an honor and joy to be included with 45 relationship experts in the Magnetizing Love Telesummit. The best part of my conversation with Julie-Anne Shapiro was the live tweeting of the event, so if you missed the call, check out the 25 best tweets and feel free to retweet and share the love.
You can still sign up to listen to all of the recordings here.
1. Don’t look online to replace a lost love. Work on yourself first. #quote #juliespira #relationships #dating
2. Enjoy your singleness and know the journey starts with you before beginning online dating. #quote #juliespira #relationships
3. Explore the common values and spiritual growth of potential partners. #quote #juliespira #dating #relationships
4. Don’t think you know you’ll marry someone after 1 date, start a journey and take time. #quote #juliespira #relationships
5. Meeting someone new, take time and get to know them-family background, how they treat you. #quote #juliespira #relationships
6. Over 40 Million singles looking online for love. #quote #juliespira #onlinedating #dating
7. An irresistible online dating profile: great photos, like an ad for yourself.#quote #juliespira #onlinedating
8. For your online dating name use your passion and create interest i.e. pianobaby #quote #juliespira #onlinedating
9. Online dating profile should not be a novel length description–overwhelming, drama. #quote #juliespira #onlinedating
10. Online dating profile shouldn’t have photos of children, no sexy photos. #quote #juliespira #onlinedating
11. Online dating profile should include your passions, such as recent concert or movie. #quote #juliespira #onlinedating
12. Online dating profiles shouldn’t include cliches like beach walks State what makes you happy. #quote #juliespira #onlinedating
13. Taking online dates to offline starts with only a few emails but after a week move to phone. #quote #juliespira #onlinedating
14. Within a week of the phone call, meet the person in a public place. #quote #juliespira #onlinedating
15. Avoid texting as a way to make a date, do it on the phone. #quote #juliespira #onlinedating
16. Hearing their voice is important, so texting isn’t the best way. Phone is better. #quote #juliespira #dating
17. Googling someone can cause you to jump to conclusions cause everything isn’t accurate online. #quote #juliespira #dating
18. Telling someone you have Googled them makes you look like a stalker and puts them off. #quote #juliespira #dating
19. You don’t kiss and tell, you don’t Google and tell It becomes awkward. #quote #juliespira #dating
20. Don’t send a facebook friends request before or after a first date. #quote #juliespira #relationships
21. Keeping dates organized, spreadsheet of important facts. #quote #juliespira #onlinedating
22. You can color code your spreadsheet of dates for the ones you are most interested in. #quote #juliespira #onlinedating
23. Login to dating sites 1/2 hr 3 days a week, then check in every day. #quote #juliespira #onlinedating
24. Never discuss the ex, money issues-switch the conversation to other things. #quote #juliespira
25. Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam #quote #juliespira
All of us at Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters wish Paul a very Happy Birthday. Enjoy the music.
Do you have a Cyber Love Song to share?