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How Digital is Your Love Life?

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Online dating doesn’t mean just signing up for a dating site when you’re single any more. It’s a multi-billion dollar industry filled with mobile apps, dating coaches, and helps both singles find love and couples stay together with ongoing dating tips.

In a pre-Valentine’s Love Goes Digital panel hosted by Kevin Winston of Digital LA, online dating experts and sites discussed dating advice, the growing trend of mobile dating, and how to keep your love alive after the knot has been tied.

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Grant Langston, head of social media at eHarmony and an employee of the site since before it’s launch in 2000 shared his experience on the changes their site has gone through. In my personal opinion, I think they have one of the best iPad apps around. The site will shortly be rolling out a new feature for your eHarmony timeline that’s similar to a? Facebook time-line.

Justin Fredericks, founder of Marriage.com, a video network that curates, produces and promotes videos about wedding, marriage, dating, and relationships talked about the new social networking site Pinterest, as it focuses on women.

Jennifer Kelton from Bad Online Dates talked about her mobile strategy, Bad Date TV, and some niche online dating sites.

I shared with the audience how I created my first online dating profile in 1994 as a charter member of Love@Aol, during the days of the dial-up connection. I penned my stories in my first book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online and created CyberDatingExpert.com as a place for singles and couples to share their online dating stories. The use of social media on Twitter and Facebook has made a big impact on my brand. I also told singles not to ‘friend’ someone on Facebook before or after a first date. Personally, I think it’s creepy.

The audience was a mixed group of singles, married couples, dating industry executives, love coaches and those who are still looking for love online. We nibbled on chocolate, sipped One Coconut Water, and discussed what you should say or not say in your online dating profile.

At the end of the digital day, most of the audience felt they’d rather keep their love and dating life off of Facebook.

One thing’s for sure. The audience left fully armed with the dos and don’ts of social and online dating in time for Valentine’s Day.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. Follow her @JulieSpira on Twitter. If you loved this post, Like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert for more dating advice.

Woman’s Day Relationship Resolutions

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New Year’s resolutions are still a hot topic during the first week of the year. Whether to make them, keep them, or revise them, when it comes to relationship resolutions, they should be at the top of your list.

In a recent article on Woman’s Day, I was interviewed on ways to help you and your partner have a better 2011. If you’re in a relationship, this article is for you. If you’re single and a member of an online dating site, you will benefit from these 7 resolutions while on the dating scene.

Be more understanding of your partner’s faults.

So, you?d like to switch off that nagging gene and let the little things slide (such as socks on the floor)? Good idea! ?No man wants a partner who nags him, and no woman wants to be that type of woman,? says?Julie Spira, dating/romance coach and author ofThe Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.

How to make it stick: Every time you?re about to let loose with a ?You always/You never [fill in the blank],? stop yourself and ask, is it worth the argument? Instead, sit down with your partner and make a list of things that you?ll agree to nudge each other about, like paying bills on time or getting the?car inspected, and agree to let the rest go.

Find Happiness Outside Your Relationship.

Sure, you want to lean on your lover when times are tough, but when you?re too needy, it can be a turnoff. ?We?re all more appealing when we have our own lives and are confident and feeling good about ourselves,? says Spira.

How to make it stick: Think of things that used to make you happy that you don?t do as much anymore, such as taking art lessons, practicing piano or even just seeing movies your partner doesn?t enjoy?and do them. Make dates with your girlfriends, join the softball team at?work, whatever. ?Live your life as though it?s not wrapped around his,? suggests Spira. Having interests and experiences that have nothing to do with each other means you have more to bring to the relationship

Other resolutions include increase gratitude for your partner; ?be a better listener, show more interest in your partner’s life work and interests; ?and institute a date night.

For the full article and how to make your resolutions stick, visit Woman’s Day

Cyber Monday Special – Irresistible Online Dating Profiles

CDEThanksgivinglogo 150x150No Cyber Monday would be complete without a special offer from CyberDatingExpert.com.

To celebrate the holiday season and to show our gratitude, we are including at no additional charge one online dating personal search. That’s right. It’s a $250 value.

We’re so sure that you’ll love our irresistible online dating profiles and coaching programs, that we’ll hold your hand while looking for love online and play the official matchmaker.

Irresistible Dating Coaching Programs

You’re one step close to finding a date or a mate and having your very own Irresistible Online Dating profile.

The holidays are here, and we’ll help you find your dream date. Irresistible Coaching plans are for both busy women and men who would like to be in a relationship. Select from one of our three popular plans and you’ll be one step closer to finding the man or woman of your dreams.

1. THE FLIRT

Already online? Get an online dating profile critique and makeover that will help you become a man magnet and attract more quality dates. **Plus our Cyber Monday Special includes a free online dating personal search. Value $250.

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2. GOING STEADY

Complete brand new online dating profile, including a personal dating analysis, catchy screen name, a new bio/headline, and a profile guaranteed ramp up your dating life. Includes a private and personalized online dating search and tips on how to write an introduction email and reply. **Cyber Monday Special includes an additional personal online dating search. Value $250.

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3. TOTALLY IN LOVE

Are you ready to put all ten toes in? Totally in love is our most comprehensive package for busy singles. Includes all of the above, plus ongoing email support for 30-days, plus an autographed copy of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating. This has become our most popular service. After all, everyone needs a little extra hand holding. Nervous about your upcoming date? Not sure what to wear? Need a list of first-date conversation starters? Then this plan is for you. **Cyber Monday Special includes an additional personal online dating search.

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Here’s what they’re saying about Julie Spira’s IRRESISTIBLE Coaching.

?Julie Spira’s dating advice has changed my life and led to dozens and dozens of dates!? ~Robin-48

?With Julie Spira’s help and coaching, I was able to find more quality women to write to online.? ~Dean-35

?I couldn?t understand why I wasn?t attracting quality men online. With Julie’s suggested changes, the type of guys that have reached out to me have greatly improved.?~Brady-25

?Julie Spira helped me create a new Internet dating profile that described me in a better way to attract more quality men.” ~Janice -56

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*All sales are final and are non-refundable

Irresistible Online Dating Profiles

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Welcome to our Irresistible Dating Coaching Programs.

You’re one step close to finding a date or a mate and having your very own Irresistible Online Dating profile.

We’re here to help you find your dream date while looking for love online. Irresistible Coaching plans are for both busy women and men who would like to be in a relationship. Select from one of our three popular plans and you’ll be one step closer to finding the man or woman of your dreams. Contact us for your free dating assessment profile.

THE FLIRT

Already online? Get an online dating profile critique and makeover that will help you become a man magnet and attract more quality dates. Click here to get started.

GOING STEADY

Complete brand new online dating profile, including a personal dating analysis, catchy screen name, a new bio/headline, and a profile guaranteed ramp up your dating life. Includes a private and personalized online dating search and tips on how to write an introduction email and reply. Click here to get started.

TOTALLY IN LOVE

Are you ready to put all ten toes in? Totally in love is our most comprehensive affordable package for busy singles. Includes all of the above, plus ongoing email support for 14-days, plus an autographed copy of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating. This has become our most popular service. After all, everyone needs a little extra hand holding. Nervous about your upcoming date? Not sure what to wear? Need a list of first-date conversation starters? Then this plan is for you. Click here to get started.

DIGITAL MATCHMAKER

Need help taking your love life from online to offline? Not sure how to reply to email? Overwhelmed with the amount of matches, but not sure who to select? The Digital Matchmaker is our most comprehensive and personalized package for busy singles. You’ll have private coaching with online dating expert Julie Spira in her famous Online Dating BootCamp. Through emails, texts, and Skype interviews, we’ll select the best dates for you. Consider this your personal Wing Girl for your love life. Price available with private consultation.

Here’s what they’re saying about Julie Spira’s IRRESISTIBLE Coaching.

“Julie Spira’s dating advice has changed my life and led to dozens and dozens of dates!” ~Robin-48

“With Julie Spira’s help and coaching, I was able to find more quality women to write to online.” ~Dean-35

“I couldn’t understand why I wasn’t attracting quality men online. With Julie’s suggested changes, the type of guys that have reached out to me have greatly improved.”~Brady-25

“Julie Spira helped me create a new Internet dating profile that described me in a better way to attract more quality men.” ~Janice -56

*Use Internet Explorer or Firefox browsers to pay for your plan
*All sales are final and are non-refundable

Out of Work? Zoosk Says Try Your Luck at Dating

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My friends over at social dating community Zoosk surveyed their members this month to learn more about the relationship between money and dating during the present economic climate. The good news for men is, if you’re unemployed, more women will want to date you than a year ago.

According to the study, 60% of women said they?d date someone unemployed. Compared to 52% in 2009, women are now adjusting their expectations in the available dating pool.

The study also revealed that 90% of men said they?d date someone unemployed. Is it still only about looks for men?

So how are these online daters spending their money? The Zoosk study says that 90% of men say they usually pick up the tab on a date. It also appears men are spending more money on the average date than they did a year ago.The women on the other hand, are spending less than they did a year ago.

More singles are taking advantage of free activities than a year ago.

Should you tell your date you are unemployed? According to Zooskers, the answer is yes. 83% of men and 93% of women agree that if you?re out of work, you should reveal it right away.

Has the economy affected the ways that you date? Are you attending more free events? Let us know your thoughts. Comments are always appreciated.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and dating coach. She is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com

Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show with Debra Berndt

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Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert

Join me on Saturday, July 17, 2010 as I welcome my guest, author Debra Berndt to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show.

Debra is a certified hypnotist, coach, and bestselling author of “Let Love In: Open Your Heart and Mind to Attract Your Ideal Partner? (Wiley). She has helped thousands of people release blocks in their subconscious mind that hold them back from being their best.

If you are feeling stuck in your love life, be sure to tune in to hear some of her proven techniques to attract the love you are looking for both online and offline. We’ll also provide expert dating advice. Email your questions to CyberDatingExpert.com/contact

Call in at 646-929-0012 at 2:00pm/ET, 12 noon/CT, and 11:00am/PT to learn more about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.

Listen to internet radio with Cyber-dating Expert on Blog Talk Radio

IRRESISTIBLE Coaching

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Welcome to IRRESISTIBLE Coaching by Julie Spira, where we help you fall in love in a Web 2.0 World.

Why select IRRESISTIBLE Coaching?

  • Your friends are no longer setting you up
  • You spend Saturday nights home alone
  • You need a date for a special event
  • You want to get married
  • You keep attracting unavailable men
  • You want to meet MORE quality dates
  • You see and hear about success stories from other online daters and wonder why it hasn’t happened to you
  • You’ve tried online dating, but it hasn’t worked for you yet.
  • You’ve been on too many FIRST DATES
  • You want to expand your social network

With IRRESISTIBLE Coaching, you’ll get the following:

  • An online dating profile so IRRESISTIBLE, you’ll end up with an overflowing Inbox
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  • Become a MAN MAGNET and find your dream date
  • Learn how to EXACTLY find the man or woman of your dreams
  • Master the art of FLIRTING to keep a man captivated
  • Know what to wear, say, and do on a first date
  • Customized dating analysis, just for you
  • Know EXACTLY how to create an initial email to get more quality responses
  • Autographed copy of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating *Totally in Love Package only
  • 30-days unlimited email support *Totally in Love Package Only
  • One online dating custom search *Totally in Love Package Only

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Here’s what they are saying about IRRESISTIBLE Coaching with Julie Spira

  • “Julie’s dating advice has changed my life, led to dozens and dozens of dates, and now a wonderful husband!” ~Robin-48
  • “My Cosmo Radio girls are always asking how to date online. Julie knows her stuff like no one else. She is truly the pioneer of online dating.” ~Diana Falzone, Host-Cosmolicious, CosmoRadio
  • “I worked with Julie Spira to rewrite my online dating profile. With her help and coaching, I was able to find more quality women to write to online.” ~Dean-35
  • “I couldn’t understand why I wasn’t attracting quality men online. Julie Spira looked at my profile and with her suggested changes, the type of guys that have reached out to me have greatly improved.”~Brady-25
  • “Julie helped me create a new Internet dating profile that described me in a better way to attract more quality men. It didn’t take long before I started to receive more emails from men that I was interested in.” ~Janice -56

Irresistible Profiles are available for both men and women. Isn’t it time your profile became Irresistible?

Coaching sessions are non-refundable and require 48-hours notice to reschedule to another date.

Weekly Flirt

Single Edition Solo Spotlight: Julie Spira

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This week, Single Edition interviewed me about my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.

Read about one of the funniest dates I had experienced in the 1990s, how to find the right dating site for you, and how I differentiate myself from other dating coaches. I discuss the changes in the Internet dating landscape in the past 15 years as well as social media marketing tools that helped define my brand of Cyber-Dating Expert.

Click here to read full article>>>

A Toast to Dudamel – A Night of Schubert at the Disney Concert Hall

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Gustavo Dudamel - Photo Credit: LA Phil

It was an evening to remember at the Frank Gehry designed Walt Disney Concert Hall where we were treated to an evening of Schubert, conducted by Gustavo Dudamel.

The performance started with Luciano Berio (Italy) and Franz Schubert (Austria), and was followed by Berio with soprano Dawn Upshaw on vocals. During the intermission, I stopped by the Founders Room for an exciting champagne toast to Dudamel. After the intermission, one of Schubert’s most famous pieces, Symphony No. 8 in B minor D 750. “Unfinished” was performed by the LA Philharmonic led by our new conductor.

At the end of the unfinished piece, the normally sophisticated crowd applauded and yelled, “Dudamel, Dudamel” as if we were at a rock concert. Patrons were able to meet Dawn Upshaw at the LA Phil Store following the performance where she was signing copies of her CD’s.

Across the street from the Disney, a huge tent was erected with guests from all over the country celebrating MOCA’s 30th birthday. It was truly a cultural evening in the city of Los Angeles.

Julie Spira is a dating coach and the author of the online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com

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