Finding love on an dating website can be exciting. On FOX 11, I shared online dating tips with Christine DeVine and talked about how to do a background search.
Singles should be concerned about possible romance scams. Even the FTC, FBI and BBB are warning singles to be safe around Valentine’s.
Meeting singles online should be a fun and safe experience. Daters need to protect their hearts and their wallets and 71% of those polled by Harris Interactive on behalf of Spokeo said they would conduct a search on someone they’re dating or are considering dating.
1. Meet someone in a public place and let a friend know who you’re planning on meeting. Text your friend to let them know you’re safe.
2. Ask a lot of questions to get to know someone. Where did they go to school? How long have you lived in in this city?
3. Do a search to feel safer that the person behind the keyboard is who they claim to be by going to Spokeo.com. (marital status, age, reverse email/phone number search)
4. Check to see if social media profile photos match their dating profile photos.
5. Be careful of communicating with people from another country. Often they are originally from the U.S. and are working abroad. They will feel like they’ve fallen in love with you instantly and ask for money after a few email exchanges.
6. Don’t accept a late night date for drinks.
7. Use recent photos and tell your accurate age. Be honest and authentic.
Remember, there are 40 million singles dating online. You might just be that one in 40 million and find your digital sweetheart.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. Julie is a paid Spokesperson for Spokeo and believes in practicing safe online dating. For dating advice follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter.
Some dating tips include:
- Do a Google search for your date’s email
- Do a Google search for your date’s phone number
- Set up a Google Voice number for dating
- Set up a gmail account on Google for dating purposes
- Trust your intuition and report any suspicious activity to the online dating site
At the end of the digital day, there are a lot of terrific people joining online dating sites. You just be able to find your match.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert, cyber-relations expert, and author of the bestseller, “The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com, where you can sign up for the Weekly Flirt dating advice newsletter. Follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.
The subject of authenticity in an online dating profile is a HOT Topic!
Just this week, I appeared on FOX-News on this subject, where I told singles to be authentic in their online dating profiles. When I returned home from San Diego, I found out that Brad Pitt, who is on the August issue of WIRED Magazine, gave his two-cents and suggested that singles who are online dating should lie about how much money they make on their profile.
In my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating, I list the top ten rules of netiquette for online daters. One of these rules is the “cut-off” rule. I created the rule when I saw a male profile of a 53 year old who was claiming to be 40. Thirteen years? Men complain about women lying about their age, but I was stunned to see it in the other direction as well.
I decided there should be a cut-off rule, only because we can’t force singles to be honest online. It’s my belief that you should post your accurate age. However, since many will not, I simply suggested that singles should not take off more than 5-10 years off their age or weight in an online dating profile, if they insist on following the trend.
While I don’t promote lying about your age, I can’t stop the fact that it is so common. I add in my book that you should come clean on the first date or on the phone about your real age. I personally believe in telling the truth, but stretching the truth about your age, weight, and financial status online is the norm for many online daters – hence the “cut-off rule” has merit.
According to the Wired Article, Pitt states, “Everyone lies online. In fact, readers expect you to lie. If you don’t, they’ll think you make less than you actually do. So the only way to tell the truth is to lie.” He has a point as singles reaching a pivotal birthday, usually take at least 2-5 years off their age to remain in a search.
Is it time to come clean and be authentic in your online dating profile? I think so, and this week’s radio show will feature a service called HonestyOnline. This service can help you to determine if your potential date is who he or she says they really are. They recently partnered up with DatingHeadshots.com where your verification badge will also confirm that they were the ones who indeed did take your online dating photo. I personally believe that the trend for authenticity is on the rise with the success of social networking sites. Very slowly, singles are starting to come clean about their real age, and it’s refreshing to see.
Wouldn’t you like to know that your online date has passed a verification test? There are certificates of authenticity for diamonds, real estate, art work, but what is more important than your personal safety online?
I answered the five questions correctly, even though I had to guess where an ex-husband resided. Shortly afterwards I received the verification badge below which can be visible on my Facebook Profile.
As a woman, I can see the value in knowing that a man is who he says he is. If you are interested in trying it out, go to www.HonestyOnline.Com or check out their Facebook application.
Julie Spira is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at www.CyberDatingExpert.com.
Cyber-Dating Expert and author, Julie Spira will be a featured guest on the FOX-5 Morning News in San Diego on Tuesday, July 14, 2009.
Spira will be providing online dating tips and sharing her experiences from her best-selling book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online
It was a great discussion with Rick Leventhal on the FOX News program, Strategy Room, where I was a recent guest talking about my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.
I was joined by dating expert, Andrea Syrtash and fashion and beauty expert, Mattie Roberts. Watch the show where you will hear our views on who should pick up the check, and suggestions for successful online dating.
Author and Cyber-Dating Expert, Julie Spira will be a featured guest on Fox News Channel’s Strategy Room on Tuesday, May 26, 2009 at 4:00 pm Eastern Time/1:00 pm Pacific.
Strategy Room is a live streaming online program with rotating guests and themes every hour. The show is filled with great conversation on the biggest topics in today’s news. She will be a featured guest as part of her media and book tour in New York City.
Spira will also be a featured author at BookExpo America on May 29, 2009, where she will be signing copies of her new book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online in the author’s signing area at 9:30am.
To view the program and to send in your questions, go to foxnews.com/strategyroom