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Cyber Love Story – Rasheda and Brandon

RashedaBrandon 300x300Meet Rasheda and Brandon, who found love on the free online dating site OKCupid.

Rasheda was ready to give up on Internet dating, but decided to return to OkCupid, where she met Brandon in August of 2012.

After their first date, Rasheda thought Brandon was a really “nice” guy.

Brandon managed to catch her attention by sending her a bouquet of flowers to her office on the Monday following their first date.  Continuing to be the good guy, he would send Rasheeda e-cards and suggest interesting dates.

However, after a month, Rasheda decided that Brandon belonged in the “friend zone” (ouch).  They stopped dating during the month of October, while she decided whether to date him or another guy.

Fortunately, she came to her senses before losing him completely.  The two reconnected in November and went on a romantic date to the Opera. Afterwards, they went dancing, where she realized that she was falling for him.

Brandon invited Rasheda over for Thanksgiving dinner and they’ve been together ever since. The two are planning a romantic trip to the Bahamas this spring.

Congratulations to Rasheda and Brandon who prove that nice guys don’t always finish last and that patience is a virtue.

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Julie Spira is a top online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. Julie’s the bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating and creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice, sign up for our Weekly Flirt newsletter and connect at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert and on Twitter @JulieSpira.

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Chemistry’s Top 10 Cities to Find a Sensitive Man

Are you ready to change your zip code to find love online?

Our friends at Chemistry.com have announced their Top 10 list of cities where you’re more likely to find a sensitive man.

Most of the cities on the list are on the east coast, except for Nashville, Indianapolis, and West Hollywood.

Dr. Helen Fisher, Chemistry’s Chief Scientific Officer and a former featured guest on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show said, “Men do have a sensitive side.” Fisher added, ‘They want to please. They want to do the “right” thing.

The Top 10 list includes:

1. Popmano Beach, FL

2. Roanoke, VA

3. West Hollywood, CA

4. Nashville, TN

5. Buffalo, NY

6. Sarasota, FL

7. Greenville, SC

8. Wilmington, NC

9. Indianapolis, IN

10. Staten Island, NY

Ready to dive in and find a sensitive man? Click here to sign up and remember to share your online dating stories at CyberDatingExpert.com.

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Free Site OkCupid Now Has Something to Sell

 

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One of the biggest pluses for OkCupid by their members has been the fact that they are a free online dating site. Singles have enjoyed their features and have been able to save more to actually spend on their dates.

There was speculation when they were acquired by IAC/Match earlier this year that they wouldn’t stay free for long. Their members were promised they would always be free. Well, almost.

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If you haven’t logged in lately, you’ll see a big pop-up ad inviting you to become an A-List Member. Regularly priced at $9.95/month, they’re offering a special discount of $4.95/month.

So what will your benefits be if you decide to pay-to-play? Members are being promised that they’ll love OkCupid even more with so many extras.

The new features include:

  • Browse anonymously and see visitors
  • Ability to change your screen name
  • Use the site ad-free
  • Attach photos to emails
  • Public and private photo albums
  • Give unlimited awards
  • Store up to 5000 messages
  • Send messages to users whose inboxes are full

In addition, you’ll have digital bragging rights that you’re an A-List member, as you’ll be able to show off your swanky elite badge. At the end of the day, with 50% off, signing up for one year will cost less than one typical dinner date. My advice is it might be worth the splurge to stand out in the crowded digital playing field for less than $60/year.

For more information on their features, click here.

Julie Spira is a bestselling author and online dating expert. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com for dating advice and to learn how to create an irresistible online dating profile. Follow her on Twitter @JulieSpira and like her at facebook.com/cyberdatingexpert

Enjoy Chemistry’s Free Weekend



Just in time for Spring Fever, Chemistry.com is having a free communication weekend from Friday, March 25 – Sunday, March 27, 2011.

Now’s your opportunity to jump online and find your dream date and a compatible partner by signing up for their service for free this weekend.

Click this link to get started! Free Communication Weekend 3/25-3/27

If you need some hand holding, we’re happy to help you with your Irresistible Online Dating Profile.

OkCupid Becomes Match.com’s Valentine

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It’s a happy day for free online dating site OkCupid, who was acquired today by Match.com for $50 million in cash, just in time for Valentine’s Day.

OkCupid, led by Sam Yagan has become the darling for online daters due to the ease of use and no cost entry fee.

How will this affect you as a member of both sites? Probably not at all. According to a press release, Greg Blatt, CEO of IAC, who owns Match.com, Chemistry.com, Singlesnet, People Media, and Yahoo! Personals, “OkCupid has been a real innovator in our space, and the dating environment they’ve created struck a chord with a younger demographic.” Blatt believes OkCupid is the best site in its competitive set.

OkCupid was the recipient of four awards at the Internet Dating Conference in January, including Best Dating Site, Best Dating Site Design, Most Innovative Company, and Best Up and Coming Dating Site.

Sam Yagan from OkCupid was featured guest on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show’s season premiere last year. To listen to the program, click here

My personal opinion? I recommend both sites regularly to my coaching clients. I think they’re in good company.

Are you a member of both OkCupid and Match? Comments are welcome and please do like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert

Getting Social at the Internet Dating Conference

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Matchmaker of the Year Julie Ferman and Julie Spira

It was a pleasure attending the 8th Annual Internet Dating Conference in Miami again, where I had the honor to speak on Web Dating 2.0: Using Social Media to Create Brand Loyalty on January 20, 2011.

Several hundred people attended the session on day 2 of the 3-day conference.

Going Mobile

In my presentation, I shared the exciting news that both Zoosk Mobile and SpeedDate Mobile apps have each had more than 2 million downloads.  OkCupid’s mobile app has over 1 million mobile users. eHarmony says their mobile apps account for approximately 20% of global site visits. Consumers now look at eHarmony profiles more than 16,000 times per hour while using mobile devices.  Their mobile app was launched in August, 2009 in conjunction with their 10th anniversary. Match says mobile users are twice as engaged as those who log onto the site on their desktop, so we are definitely going mobile.

Record Highs

We learned from Online Personals Watch Publisher Mark Brooks that online dating hit a record high in December 2010 with 116 million members worldwide visiting online dating sites. Over 20 million visits were from U.S. members. The folks from Google shared that 35 hours of video content is uploaded on YouTube every minute of the day. Online dating is a 1.3 billion dollar industry now according to Jupiter Research.

iDate Awards

One of the highlights of the conference was the 2nd annual iDate Awards. This year OkCupid won 4 iDate Awards including Best Dating Site, Best Dating Site Design, Most Innovative Company, and Best Up and Coming Dating Site. Congratulations to OkCupid for winning in every category that they were nominated in and matching the number of Golden Globe Awards received as The Social Network film. My friend Julie Ferman won the Best Matchmaker Award for the second year in a row and it was certainly well deserved.

Getting Social

It was terrific spending time with Sherri Langburt from Single Edition, Ravit Abelman from Omnidate,  Julie Ferman from Cupid’s Coach, and eLove’s Paul Falzone while catching up with Sam Yagan from OkCupid and Kate Billenki from Plenty of Fish. All have been featured guests on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show. Dating blogger Simone Grant came to iDate for her first time and we brainstormed about dating, blogging, and social media.

The Final Debate

The conference ended with the Final Panel Debate curated by Marc Lesnick, Conference Organizer and included Mark McMaster from Google, Mark Brooks from Online Personals Watch, Michael McQuown from Thunder Road, Jonathan Crutchley from Manhunt, Mark Harrison from Dating Factory, Joel Simkhal from Grindr, Markus Frind from Plenty of Fish, Sam Yagan from OkCupid, Ty from Elite Global Dating and Dan Winchester from FreeDating.co.uk. At the end of the annual end of conference panel, the majority of the panelists felt that online dating would continue to grow in 2011.

Free Versus Paid

The hot topic this year was Free versus Paid online dating sites. Free sites have been rising in popularity and have made a small dent in the paid online dating services. Compared to the cost of high-end matchmakers, paid online dating sites are still a bargain.

To view my presentation, visit SocialMediaMore.com/idate

Free Weekend on Chemistry


From time-to-time, some of my favorite online dating sites have free specials that I like to share with you.

If you haven’t tried Free Communication Weekend at Chemistry.com! yet, now’s the time to sign up.  I’m  happy to share this special offer with you which started today.

If you’re dateless this weekend, your luck just might change. Of course, if you meet that special someone, we’d love to know. You just might end up as the next featured couple in the Cyber Love Story of the Week.

Free Communication Weekend on Chemistry.com


It’s back and just in time for spring fever! The ever-so-popular *Free* Weekend on Chemistry.com.

Starting on Friday, March 26 and going through Sunday, March 28, you can flirt, communicate, and connect for *Free* on this popular online dating site.

You may have heard Dr. Helen Fisher, creator of Chemistry’s personality profile as a guest on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert radio show. She gave excellent dating advice about how to attract real love based upon your personality type.

Now is your chance to enjoy your cyberdating free weekend on Chemistry.com.