When you watch the TV commercials for eHarmony, Match.com, or Zoosk and see several success couples, do you wonder why it’s not working for you?
Before you hang up your digital hat, know that it doesn’t take an army to help you create an irresistible online dating profile, but just like a good newspaper or magazine article, you do need to stand out in the crowded marketplace.
Here are five tips that you can try on your own. If you need a little hand-holding, visit IrresistibleProfiles.com and we’ll get you started in no time.
Tips for Creating an Irresistible Online Dating Profile
1.? It’s all About the Photos. If hiring a professional photographer is in your budget, it’s an excellent idea. Perhaps you don’t need to buy that extra dress on sale. If not, grab a friend with a digital camera and snap about 100 photos in 5 different outfits. You can always fall back on browsing the photos you’ve uploaded on Facebook to add to your profile. Men are visual. If you look like you’re photo, he’ll be pleasantly surprised and will let you know. Most men are disappointed when you post photos from your Senior Prom, or that are a decade old. Post 3-5 photos, and remember to make one of them a full-length shot. Hint: He might be checking Facebook to see if your online dating photos resemble those you’ve posted on Facebook.
2. Create a Catchy Screen Name.??Stumped as to what’s catchy? You’d be surprised how many people take the random name assigned by the computer. Suzie12389 isn’t as catchy as BalletDancerinNY. If you’re still scratching your head and your favorite name is taken, remember the lyrics to a song that you were singing to in the car. How Music Can Enhance Your Online Dating Profile
3. Be Specific. While browsing through profiles, you might notice that so many just seem to look alike. Who wants to date a plain vanilla when they can have sugar and spice or cookies and cream? Don’t say you like music. Say you like classic rock music and are a Bruce Springsteen fanatic as you grew up in New Jersey. Who knows? You might get invited to a concert. Don’t say you like to travel, but say you loved skiing in Lake Tahoe one winter at a specific ski resort. Get the picture?
4. Leave the Novel at Home. There’s no need to reveal all. Sometimes, less is more. Profiles with over 200 words will be looked over after the first few sentences. It’s best to leave some mystery for your phone conversations and when you meet in real life.
5. Leave the Baggage Behind. Whether it’s an ex-boyfriend, ex-spouse, or ex-boss for that matter, no one wants to hear your dirty laundry. Avoid being the “Debbie Downer” of online dating and write about things you love. Everyone has had a bad date or two, but it’s not worth broadcasting. Ask yourself what you’re the most passionate about and let your potential date know what brings you joy.
At the end of the digital day, online dating is a numbers game. With over 120 million people worldwide logging on looking for love, there’s no better way to fill your date card until you find “the one.”
Julie Spira is an online dating expert, bestselling author, and the founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating and relationship advice, follow Julie on Twitter @JulieSpira and at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.
You realize that you don?t have a catchy screen name and sadly failed creative writing in high school. So what can you do to grab the attention of a potential digital suitor?
When I write Irresistible dating profiles for singles looking for love online, I spend a lot of time talking to them about what they are the most passionate about. Whether it?s music, art, travel, or hiking, singles need to make it easy for others to write to them with a more than just generic topic.
Still, it’s difficult for most singles to create a catchy screen name or headline. If you?re still stumped, my recommendation is to think about the songs you love.? Do you remember hearing a song on the radio that made you hum in the car?? If so, it’s time to play “Name that Online Dating Tune.”
It’s simple to do. Just find the title or lyrics of a song that makes you smile and might be familiar to those viewing your profile. Poof. You now have a catchy screen name. When you use a partial lyric from a song, invite those looking at your profile to fill in the blanks. It?s fun, it?s flirty, engaging and it works.
When I heard the song “Tiny Dancer” by Elton John on the radio, I decided to use the first line of ?Blue Jean Baby, LA Lady?.? as a catchy screen name. The first sentence of the profile bio started with, ?Seamstress for what band?? The views to the dating profile increased by over 1000%.? Some who knew the answer wrote about their favorite Elton John song. Others who didn?t know the answer took action and actually did a Google search and typed in the lyrics to find the answer to respond correctly. They viewed, they winked, and they replied. If you need a little help, here’s a site with 10 Best Opening Lyrics. Make sure to read the long list of comments filled with other song title ideas.
Have you used songs in your online dating profiles? Feel free to comment.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and bestselling author. She was an early adopter of Internet dating, having created her first profile over 15 years ago. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. Visit CyberDatingExpert.com for dating advice,? follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.
In this issue:
*? Sealing the Deal Book launch with over 30 bonuses
*? New Year’s Resolutions You’re Likely to Keep
*? 20% off Irresistible Profiles
*? Video: Finding Love in Cyberspace
It?s been a fun summer at Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters helping singles with their Irresistible online dating profiles, cheering them on when they happily retire them in favor of finding themselves in a committed relationship, and best of all, reading your online dating stories that you shared on Facebook and at CyberDatingExpert.com.
Now that summer is almost over, it?s time to announce the winners of the Looking for Love Online summer promotion.
In the category of worst date, our winner is Teresa Marroquin from Texas.
Teresa will receive a complimentary Irresistible online dating profile and a 3-month membership to Match.com.? In her submission, Teresa?s online date flew from Philadelphia to visit her for four days in Texas.
Find out why her date turned out to be a ?Gorilla Guido,? and wasn?t what she expected.
?A guy came from Philly, PA to meet me & visit me in south Texas for 4 days, just two weeks ago. This guy is a “Gorilla Guido” type guy btw.? We get ready to go to the club, he starts to get ready, just like you see in the show Jersey Shore but 10x worse. We get in the car to leave and he is shirtless. We get in the parking lot and he needs to “pump up” before we can go in, so he starts to do pushups shirtless and says he’d be using his dumbbells too, but didn’t bring them.”
“He didn’t want me talking to anyone, he didn’t want me to say hi to anyone, I was stuck against the wall & wasn’t allowed to talk to anyone. We called it an early night.? Early the next morning he snuck out while I was still asleep. He text messaged me telling me he felt guilty for leaving his son back home. He still calls me his wifey, texts me, and wants me to go up to Philly to visit! I don’t think I’m the only one he saw while he was down here in Texas.”
In the category of funniest date, our winner is Carol McLeod Sanders from Alabama.?Carol will receive a complimentary online dating profile critique and an autographed copy of The Perils of Cyber-Dating. Carol?s funniest date was with a man over 60 years older than her.
“My funniest date was with an 84 yr. old man when I was 22. We were walking about a mile back to his home and my car. During the walk from the Parade, he conned me into thinking he couldn’t go to the Homecoming game because he had no ticket or a way to go. I gave him a ticket and told him I would pick him up. When I got to his house, there were five sets of eyes peering thru his curtains! When we got to the game they all mysteriously showed up. I knew then I had been duped! I ended up buying drinks and food for six men instead of one. But we had a ball !! I never saw these men again but they smiled from ear to ear all day!”
All of those who entered the contest will receive a free email online dating profile critique. All of us at Cyber-Dating Expert thank you for participating and sharing your stories.
If you?re truly ready to become irresistible and want to know the secrets to finding love online, let us know. With the change of seasons, many singles are joining online dating sites and are ready to find love.
So your relationship status is listed as a “dud.” Does that mean you should accept your ho-hum love life or are you ready to ignite some fireworks to kick-off the summer holiday?
At Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters, we’ve decided to help you ramp up your search with a wonderful 20% HOLIDAY Savings! But we’re only limiting this offer to TEN lucky people.
SAVE over $150 on your package now from July 1 – 6, 2011 and sign up for our Signature IRRESISTIBLE Online Dating Profile Makeover package.
As you know, I’m passionate ?about helping singles find love both online and offline. I also happen to love holiday weekends. It’s the time to ramp up your flirting techniques and mingle with singles all weekend long.
While fireworks will be in the sky throughout America, what about the fireworks and passion in your love life? Don’t you deserve to have a spark ignited?
That’s right. No gimmicks, no long term commitment. One very special PRIVATE coaching session that will change the direction of your love life.?Let the next holiday fireworks be your very own in the arms of someone very special.
- 20-minute Phone or Skype Consultation
- Personalized Dating Assessment
- Customized Online Dating Profile from Scratch or Makeover
- Includes a NEW Catchy Screen Name
- New Bio With the Perfect Word Count
- One Personalized Matching Search
- 30-Days Unlimited eMail Support to help you before, during, and after your dates.
*Don’t wait as this offer is valid for the FIRST 10 People who sign up and will sadly expire on July 6th at midnight when the price will revert back to the regular rate.
Sign up now and let the next Cyber Love Story of the Week be your own.
*Coaching Packages are non-refundable
Looking for love online this summer? We?re thrilled to announce the Cyber-Dating Expert Summer Love promotion where we’ve teamed up with Match to provide one lucky winner with a signature Irresistible Dating Profile from online dating expert Julie Spira, along with a 3-month free membership to Match.com.
To participate in the contest, participants are requested to LIKE the Cyber-Dating Expert facebook page at facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert and post their funniest or worst dating story ever on the facebook wall.
Five additional winners will be selected and will receive an autographed copy of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Think about your funniest Internet date and share it with us on Facebook for your chance to win.
*Contestants must be 18 years of age or older and reside in the United States. No profanity will be accepted and inappropriate wall posts will be removed with the contestant disqualified. The contest starts on June 20, 2011 and ends on July 3, 2011. Winners will be selected by Cyber-Dating Expert, LLC. and announced on July 5, 2011 on Facebook and Twitter.
If you’re like me, you’re probably emotionally devastated just watching the videos from the earthquake, tsunami, and nuclear blast in Japan.
I have been a visitor to Japan prior to this tragedy and found the country to be so beautiful and it was one of my most memorable trips, ever.
To show support for the victims of Japan, I will be donating 50% of my online dating coaching fees for services that are paid through the end of March. I’ll help you find love and you can help support the American Red Cross fund for the Japan Earthquake and Pacific Tsunami. It’s a win-win.
Help me help those in need this week. Your support means so much to those suffering in Japan and I know together we can raise thousands of dollars for the cause.
Click here to Sign up for Irresistible Profiles.
The Flirt – Review and critique of your existing profile ?($125 will be donated to the American Red Cross)
Going Steady – Brand new irresistible profile, complete with a catchy screen name and one personalized search ($247.50 will be donated to the American Red Cross)
Totally in Love – All of the above plus an autographed copy of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating and 30 days of Unlimited email support ?($397.50 will be donated to the American Red Cross)
Thank you from the bottom on my heart.
Julie Spira – Cyber-Dating Expert – Dating in a Web 2.0 World
Happy February. I always say that Valentine’s Day for women is like the Super Bowl for men. In honor of the most romantic day of the year, we’ll be celebrating in a big way and want to share the news with you.
Irresistible Online Dating Profiles
From February 1 – 6th, our irresistible private coaching and irresistible online dating profiles will be discounted by 15%. That’s right, there’s still time to find your Valentine and we’re committed to helping you by shaving off up to $120 off the price. We’ll hold your hand from creating your profile with a catchy screen name to providing a custom search exclusive to you.Your love life is really worth the investment. Contact us for a private consultation. Valid for serious minded singles only.
Single Edition Radio
Our friends at Single Edition have invited me to be a guest on their show premiere scheduled for Wednesday, February 2, 2011 at 9pm/ET. We’ll be talking about how to create an irresistible online dating profile and the dos and don’ts for Internet dating. You can listen live at http://www.talkradiounlimited.com or call in at 612-293-4262 to hear my conversation with Sherri Langburt and Simone Grant.
Valentine’s Chat for Lovers and Lovers in Waiting
It’s an honor to be selected by GenConnect to host their Valentine’s Chat on Thursday, February 3, 2011 at 3:30pm/ET. We’ll be talking about how you can snag a date for Valentine’s Day and how to be realistic about your expectations if you’re already in a relationship. Click here to register. All chat participants will be entered into a drawing and one lucky winner will receive a free Irresistible Online Dating Profile.
Valentine’s Edition of Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show
Get ready for a very special edition of Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show, where my guest will be Dr. Gian Gonzaga, Senior Director of Research and Development at eHarmony Labs.
Gian has just written a new book called, The eHarmony Guide to Dating the Second Time Around. Gian will be taking time from his busy book tour schedule to discuss his book with us just in time for Valentine’s Day.
The Perils of Cyber-Dating – Online Dating Book
I’m so proud and super-excited as my online dating book has remained on the bestseller list for 2-years! That’s right. Just last week it was a bestseller in Dating, Mate Seeking, and Computers & Internet – Humor. So purchase your copy before they sell out.
Valentine’s Day Dating Advice
There will be no shortage of Valentine’s advice this year. Remember, love is a 365 day year day topic, but check out my recent articles and feel free to comment. We’ve gone International. The Perils of Cyber-Dating book is featured in Elle Magazine this month in Chinese. If you go to Google.com/translate, and post the link, you can read the article. I’ll be updating this list as new articles are published. So stop back and visit and remember to sign up for the Weekly Flirt.
Valentine’s Etiquette – Dos and Don’ts for Your Valentine – Cyber-Dating Expert
Top 10 Valentine’s Dos and Don’ts – Top 10 Blog
5 Ways to Land a Date by Valentine’s – Yahoo! Shine
Valentine’s Events and Parties in Los Angeles – Julie’s Top Picks
Even if you don’t reside in California, I urge you to search for singles events in your home city. I’ve listed my Top 5 favorites for those in the Los Angeles area, so do a Google search for singles parties in your city and please, RSVP for at least one event. Whether you like Valentine’s Day or not, you have an opportunity to expand your social network.
Dating Community – Valentine’s Specials
Our friends at eHarmony are offering their Free Communication Weekend all month long. That’s right, if you sign up now, you can have the entire month of February to use their service at no charge.
Online dating site Lavalife has a Free Love February Special promotion. Any new user who signs up within the month of February will receive 30 days of unlimited access to their online dating site, absolutely free.
For more special offers and recommended dating sites, visit our Dating Community at CyberDatingExpert.com
There are more announcements coming in the days leading up to Valentine’s Day, so check back frequently as we’re committed to helping you find love online this Valentine’s.