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Mobile Dating: Gets Digital Facelift with Match 3.0

There’s good news for daters to make it easier to find love from their mobile phones. Today released their long-awaited and very user-friendly Match 3.0 for iPhone users. The message is very clear. The success of finding love online is all in the hands of your mobile phone.

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What’s New in Match 3.0?

The Match 3.0 mobile differs from their previous mobile app, as it no longer emulates the desktop version of the online dating site. The new app now includes a “Discover” page, where you’ll find two new features, “Stream” and “Mixer. The “Stream” feature allows you to scroll through many profiles with multiple photos of the daters based on location. You’ll see a familiar style as each profile has a cover photo, which reminds you of Facebook. You can easily send a message to the person who captures your eye as you scroll down through a stream of potential matches. There are also multiple places for you to upload photos directly on the app.

The new “Mixer” will look familiar to mobile dating users, as it may remind you of Tinder. Users can view a single profile and now swipe left to take a pass or swipe right to give your potential date the thumbs up to start communicating. The swipe-effect is now becoming a prominent feature for many mobile dating apps.

Match reports that over 55% of their members are using their mobile app to send emails, with 50% of their signups come from mobile. As a result, for the first time, they’re allowing users to sign up on the mobile phone, as compared to using the desktop version. They’ve now prominently displayed their membership fees along with the features for those ready to pull out their credit card to pay.

At the end of the digital day, we’re living in a swiping world when it comes to finding love on your mobile phone.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and founder of She was an early adopter of the Internet and creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene. Julie is the host of Mobile Dating BootCamp and Online Dating BootCamp.

ABC News – Mobile Apps to Speed Up Your Search

BZ ej5vIcAAMJVM 150x150It was an honor and joy to be interviewed by Elex Michaelson of ABC-7 television in Los Angeles about the popularity of mobile dating apps.

As Tinder continues to take the world by storm, the feature included an interview with Tinder’s co-founder, Justin Mateen, as well as featured other mobile dating apps including eHarmony, JDate, Match, OkCupid, Grouper, Grindr, and Coffee Meets Bagel.

Mobile dating is now over a $200 million dollar industry. Are you wondering how it all works?

Watch the video below for highlights.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and mobile dating expert who was an early adopter of Internet dating. She created her first profile almost 20 years ago and coaches singles on the dating scene with her Irresistible Profiles programs and her Mobile Dating BootCamps. For more dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the Free Weekly Flirt newsletter.

Match Wants To Help A Couple Propose Marriage

marriageproposal 300x300Thinking of Popping the Q?

Did you know that 39% of engagement ring purchases occur between Thanksgiving and Valentine’s Day?

Before you go out and buy that diamond ring she’s been dreaming of, if you’re one of the many online dating couples who have found love on, you  just may be in luck.

Our friends at have just announced a contest to help you “Pop the Question” in style worth over $15,000.  Complete with a diamond engagement ring from Robbins Brothers, a custom-designed proposal plan from The Proposal Planner (TM) and wedding expert Sarah Pease, and a videographer to professionally capture your proposal, you’ll have an engagement to remember.

“Creating personalized proposals for couples that they will never forget is a dream come true,” said Sarah Pease. “I’m looking forward to collaborating with and celebrating’s success by creating the next proposal sensation for one lucky couple.”

Success couples who met on Match can enter from November 4, 2013 through November 22, 2013 at and and answer the question,

“Why does your match deserve the ultimate proposal?”

For over five years,’s has ranked the highest of our success stories in our Cyber Love Story of the Week feature.  It’s been an honor and joy to help many singles find love on their online dating site.  If you have any friends who’ve met on Match and are thinking of getting engaged, forward them these details.

Note: Entries will be judged by a panel of experts based on each submission’s creativity and the human interest value of the couple’s story.

NO PURCHASE NECESSARY.  VOID WHERE PROHIBITED. Only open to continental US residents age 18+ as of entry date. Sponsor:, L.L.C., 8300 Douglas Ave., Suite 800, Dallas, TX 75225.  Contest runs from 12:00 A.M. (CST) on November 4, 2013 through 11:59 P.M. (CST) on November 22, 2013.  Aggregate retail value of prizes: $15,500.

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Julie Spira Helps Sirius/XM Host Date on

What happens when a radio show host needs help with his online dating journey?

Watch as David Nelson enlists the help of online dating expert Julie Spira in a radio and video series to improve his chances at finding love online on the Steve Malzberg Show.

In this video, David makes the mistake of winking and waiting and does what many men have done with Internet dating; only made decisions based upon the photos.

Julie helps David prepare for his very first online date on with high hopes that his date will become a success.

Tips include:

  • Arrive on time.
  • Send a flirt text in advance of your date and when you arrive.
  • If you’re enjoying her company, extend the evening to dinner.
  • Read her profile completely before the first date and take a copy with you.
  • Ask her for a second date if the date goes well and put it on the calendar.

Julie Spira is a top online dating expert and bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating. She creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more online dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt.

How to Change Your Screen Name on

Screen shot 2012 06 28 at 9.03.00 PMJust like seasons change, so should your online dating profile.  Often your user name and headline became stale, and you really don’t want to look like yesterday’s news.You don’t read the same book every day, and your profile should be refreshed to stay current.

While it’s simple to change your photos and upload photos from Facebook on your Match profile, it’s not as easy to change your screen name and headline.

Let’s start with the screen name. Is yours catchy enough? Probably not. When we create irresistible profiles for singles, we spend a lot of time selecting the perfect screen name within the allotted amount of characters. Chances are your favorite screen name or song title has already been taken. When you realize it’s time to freshen it up, follow these simple steps and you’ll have a new name and headline within a few minutes.

Changing Your Screen Name on

  1. Log onto
  2. Click on Account in the top right of the blue navigation bar.
  3. In the drop down menu, click on Settings.
  4. On the left hand side of the screen, click on Sign Up Information
  5. Type in your password when prompted to do so.
  6. Your sign information with your user name, city and other details will appear.
  7. Click Change Sign Up Information
  8. A box will appear where you can change your screen name, password, city, and other details.
  9. Click on the link for your user name and type in a new desired name.

If you’ve changed cities or moved across town, these same instructions will help you appear in the correct zip code. Or go ahead and be adventurous and change your zip code the week before you go on a trip to another city. It’s always wise to cast a wide net.

You may be happy with your screen name, but what if your headline isn’t very captivating?  Your best bet is to change your headline to reflect a refreshed version of you. Make it fun or funny, but change it around a bit and you’ll be surprised at the results.

Changing Your Headline on

  1. Log onto
  2. Click on Profile in the top blue navigation bar.
  3. In the drop down menu, click on View/Edit.
  4. To the right of your primary photo, you’ll see a white box with some text typed in it. This is where you’re headline appears.
  5. Delete the text and replace it with something new and fresh.
  6. Click Submit for Approval and you’re done.

At the end of the digital day, remember that online dating is a numbers game. You need to play to win and having a stale profile in today’s social media friendly environment is something you should avoid.

For more information on our Irresistible Profiles program, click here.

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Julie Spira is an online dating expert, bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating, and Editor-in-Chief at For dating advice, sign up for our Weekly Flirt newsletter and like us at

Match Singles Study Says: Romance is Up; Marriage is Down

95312 sia videocard notscaled 300x168Our friends at released their second annual Singles in America Study, showing that more men are in favor of committed relationships and public displays of affection than their female counterparts. This is good news as it breaks the stereotype and fear from women who are afraid to bring up the subject of commitment and monogamy while dating.

But how far do both single men and women want to go? The study encompassed over 5000 singles with the help of Dr. Helen Fisher,’s chief scientific officer and biological anthropologist, and took a deep look into politics, weight, height, and which political party is having more fun in the bedroom. (Hint: It starts with the letter R)

The majority of the singles in the study said they wanted to be in a committed relationship, and believed that infidelity was a deal-breaker. Yes, even the guys are ready to go steady. However marriage wasn’t a priority. USA Today reports that two-thirds of the singles polled either don’t want to get married, or are unsure about it.

At the end of the digital day, changing your status to “In a Relationship” on Facebook is getting closer-and-closer to how we used to define marriage.

Are you looking for a relationship leading to marriage or would you prefer being in a committed relationship or just living together?

Your thoughts and comments are welcome.

Interested in finding love online? Sign up for for 20% off your membership or, where they are offering 14 days free.

Need some help with your online dating profile? Check out our irresistible profiles packages and like us at for special offers.

The Cyber Dating Expert Looking for Love Online Summer Contest


Looking for love online this summer? We’re thrilled to announce the Cyber-Dating Expert Summer Love promotion where we’ve teamed up with Match to provide one lucky winner with a signature Irresistible Dating Profile from online dating expert Julie Spira, along with a 3-month free membership to

To participate in the contest, participants are requested to LIKE the Cyber-Dating Expert facebook page at and post their funniest or worst dating story ever on the facebook wall.

Five additional winners will be selected and will receive an autographed copy of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Think about your funniest Internet date and share it with us on Facebook for your chance to win.

*Contestants must be 18 years of age or older and reside in the United States. No profanity will be accepted and inappropriate wall posts will be removed with the contestant disqualified. The contest starts on June 20, 2011 and ends on July 3, 2011. Winners will be selected by Cyber-Dating Expert, LLC. and announced on July 5, 2011 on Facebook and Twitter.

Where to Find Love Online this Father’s Day

fathersdayJust in time for Father’s Day, our friends at have come up with their Top 10 list of single dads looking for love online in three popular categories. [See infographic below]

Foodie-Dads: The online dating site polled their members and found that those men who are happy in the kitchen can be found in Scottsdale, Seattle, San Francisco, Portland and Boise.

Do-It-Yourself Dads: You won’t have to head to Home Depot alone if you’re in Spokane, Boise, Vancouver, Sarasota, or Toledo.

Sports-Crazed Dads: If you’re ready to fall for a sports fanatic or at least cheer him on, you’ll be the most successful in two cities in Arizona, Milwaukee, and Charlotte, to name a few.

When’s the most popular time for single dads to log on to look for love? According to Match’s members, early in the morning. Most men sign on from 6am – 9am, over coffee and a newspaper before they get ready for their busy day. Whitney Casey,’s relationship insider and author of The Man Plan says it’s because their testosterone level is the highest when they wake up.

The best news is that single dads are really interested in meeting women with children. With 30% of Match’s male members being single dads, newly divorced and single women with children should be able to fill their date card. Match reports that single dads are 56% more likely to email single moms than men without children. How are you planning on celebrating Father’s Day this year?

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. She creates irresistible profiles and coaches singles on the dating scene. Like her at

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Should You Date a Nerd?

nerd 150x150The official nerdiest cities for dating was released today by With the popularity of Twitter, Facebook, and other social networking sites, being a nerd has never been more popular. While The Social Network didn’t win best picture this year, they still walked away with three Academy Awards to their name.

Years ago, I recall my mother telling me I should date a nerd instead of the handsome men I became seriously involved with. My mother insisted that nerds would be the most loyal husbands and would be successful in business. I reflected back to some of the nerdiest guys in high school who were at the top of the class and at the bottom of the social circles. My mother is a wise women as most of these man have gone on to become super-successful.

So if you’re looking for love online, Match has come up with their list Top 10 Nerdiest cities based upon the highest educated members. It was no surprise that Sunnyvale, CA, close to the headquarters of Facebook was at the Top of the list.

So expand your geographic requirements and cast a wide net to include some of these cities. You’ll meet some interesting and smart singles guaranteed to provide you with an intellectually stimulating conversation.

  1. Sunnyvale, CA
  2. Cambridge, MA
  3. Somerville, MA
  4. Berkeley, CA
  5. Santa Clara, CA
  6. Ann Arbor, MI
  7. Boulder, CO
  8. Columbia, MD
  9. Fairfax, VA
  10. Rockville, MD

Read the full story, Top 10 Cities to Date a Nerd on

Are you dating a nerd? Has your perception of nerds improved as a result of social networking sites such as Facebook? Your comments and feedback are welcome.

If you get a moment, we’d love it if you’d like us at

Julie Spira is a leading online dating expert. She’s the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Julie creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. Visit her at for dating advice and sign up for the free ebook, The 5 secrets to Finding Love Online.

Dating Advice at the 140 Characters Conference

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It was an honor to once again take the stage at the 140 Characters Conference to talk about dating, love, and romance in the real time web. Along with some of my favorite social media friends, we united as we shared our hearts and souls,  with not just the attendees in Hollywood, but with the rest of the world as the event was streamed live for others to enjoy.

On day one of the tw0-day event, 140 founder and curator, Jeff Pulver welcomed everyone to the Music Box Theatre on Hollywood Boulevard. We learned about social media and education, heard from singer Michele Branch, became immersed in real-time news gathering trends where Twitter is 30-minutes ahead of the Associated Press, and enjoyed a live performance from Andy Grammer.

On day two, I attended the Book Author’s Panel led by Imal Wagner and the Writers Panel with Debra Eckerling from Write On Online. Catching up with Chamillionaire was once again a treat.

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Jason Pollock and Julie Spira at 140 Conference

My presentation was held in the afternoon.  I was introduced by Jason Pollock, who shared some of his online dating experiences from many years ago on JDate prior to going on stage. I spoke to the crowd about the importance of authenticity in your online dating profile.

“Everyone wants to love and be loved,” I said.  I added, “Love never goes out of style and yet technology changes on a daily basis. It’s my goal to marry love and technology to help singles find love online.”

I shared my personal story about going from a popular rock-and-roll DJ to an Internet executive, while in the middle I sadly had my heart broken. I created my first online dating profile over 16 years ago to heal my wounds during the days of the slow dial up connection, where I’d receive a hefty $300 monthly bill while looking for love online.  There were no role models, no dating coaches, and and eHarmony didn’t exist. Most of the hands were raised in the room when I asked, just how many of you in the room have tried online dating? The majority ruled. From dial-up to mobile dating, I shared as much as I could with the audience and poured out my heart and soul.

The other dating advice I shared included:

*Tell your own age - Think about it. Would you really want your date to lie to you? It’s time we feel comfortable with our age, weight and who we are in the world.

*There is nothing more powerful than the Facebook status relationship change – I’ve said it before, but when you see the little red heart on your friends Facebook updates, just how curious are you about who their new beau is or why it’s complicated? We just feel the need to know. Personally, I don’t want to watch someone’s relationship status change from “Single” to “In a Relationship” to “It’s Complicated” to back to “Single.” Unless you’re planning a wedding, we don’t really want to share your drama.

* Be specific. If you want to get married, say so. Don’t worry about chasing those away who aren’t interested in a commitment.

* Try a niche online dating site. Several recommended sites I mentioned were Brainiac Dating for those with a high I.Q., Meetcha for the baby boomers, and Online Booty Call for the causal daters looking to hook up.

* Mobile Dating. I recently published a list of some of the Top mobile dating apps for you to enjoy.

I shared some of the Cyber Love Story of the Week success stories with the group and encouraged them to join in on the conversation at There is someone for everyone and I encourage you with enthusiasm on your cyberdating journey.

Thank you to Jeff Pulver for another incredible 140 Conference in Los Angeles and for my friends and supporters who cheered me on. I am grateful, honored, and appreciative of the support from my friends and colleagues on Twitter, Facebook, and in real life. I truly hope that I can make a difference in yours.

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