Many thanks to ABC TV in Los Angeles for interviewing me on the subject of online dating and mobile dating in a recent segment on the news. They were kind enough to come up with this cute graphic of some of my Top mistakes you must avoid with Internet dating. Ready to fill your date card? I thought so.
With the holiday surge of singles joining online dating sites, here are some expert dating tips to help you stand out in the crowded digital playing field. In 20 years of online dating coaching, there is definitely a method to the madness.
Here are some Online Dating Dos and Don’ts.
1. Don’t include a list of turnoffs in your profile. We know you don’t like a guy who smokes, so rather than insisting on it in your essay portion, leave it for the multiple choice questions where you say you prefer dating a non-smoker. Once you start listing your dating don’ts, your potential date will view you as difficult and not being able to measure up to everything on your list. Stay positive and talk about things you’d like to do together as a couple instead.
2. Don’t say you want a drama-free woman. Unless you hated studying acting in college, saying you want a drama-free woman sends the message that your ex must have been emotionally draining. No one goes through life without “life lessons.” It gives people character. Guys who write about “drama-free” women are the one’s who have expectations that are too high. Besides, it’s a cliche that needs to be tossed out.
3. Don’t mention sex in your profile. Everyone knows that guys undress women with their eyes, so saying you’d like to meet someone sexy or having a profile user name with a few X’s in it isn’t going to score points. It’s the ultimate turn-off for a woman to read that in a man’s profile. She’ll assume you’ll want to sleep with everyone and anyone. Get it?
4. Don’t start instant messaging right away. Sure the squeaky wheel can get the deal, but being an eager beaver will backfire online. We know your digital crush is hot and you think no one else will get you the way he or she will. Stay out of the fantasy of feeling like you’re in an instant relationship. Sending an IM immediately after viewing his or her profile will send the message that you’re online all the time and could be IM’ing just about everyone. Don’t be that available. Send an email instead and ask if the person is comfortable with chatting online. Not everyone moves at the same digital pace.
5. Don’t tell a woman she is hot. Sending an email to a woman saying she’s “hot” is the equivalent of asking her to go to bed with you immediately. Don’t be surprised if she deletes your email and blocks you. Yes, ouch it hurts, but women want to be appreciated and loved, not looked at as a physical object. Think it, but don’t say it. Find another way to compliment her. Say you like her hot pink dress and that it looks amazing on her. She’ll feel flattered.
6. Don’t wait to long to ask her out. Most people don’t join online dating sites looking for a digital pen pal. Writing back-and-forth for a few weeks will make his or her feelings fizzle, not sizzle. If you feel there’s a connection online, graduate to a phone call and see if there’s any chemistry. If so, make a date to meet IRL. If you don’t someone else will.
If you practice some of these Internet dating tips, you’ll be filling your date card for the holidays. Who knows? You must just be kissing under the mistletoe this year.
What are some of your dating dos and don’ts?
Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam. xo.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and was an early adopter of Internet dating. She created her first dating profile 20 years ago and today, coaches singles on the dating scene who are looking for love online. For more online dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt.
As Tinder continues to take the world by storm, the feature included an interview with Tinder’s co-founder, Justin Mateen, as well as featured other mobile dating apps including eHarmony, JDate, Match, OkCupid, Grouper, Grindr, and Coffee Meets Bagel.
Mobile dating is now over a $200 million dollar industry. Are you wondering how it all works?
Watch the video below for highlights.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and mobile dating expert who was an early adopter of Internet dating. She created her first profile almost 20 years ago and coaches singles on the dating scene with her Irresistible Profiles programs and her Mobile Dating BootCamps. For more dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the Free Weekly Flirt newsletter.
Hi. I’m Julie Spira. Every year my team and I curate a list of some of the best and newest mobile dating apps. It’s time to grab your SmartPhones as we’re proud to announce the 4th annual Cyber Dating Expert “Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps” list.
As online dating continues to be embraced by singles of all ages, mobile dating apps have taken the spotlight in 2013.
A recent Pew report on Online Dating & Relationships looked at the impact of social networking and mobile dating on singles looking for love.
Pew reported that 7 percent of mobile phone apps users (representing 3 percent of all adults) say that they have used a dating app on their cell phone. The convenience of dating from your mobile phone will not only results in meeting more people, but also speeds up the process from initial contact to meeting in person.
Mobile dating has truly become a social dating experience, with many apps considered social dating, social networking and social discovery experiences.
Without further digital ado, we’re proud to present the “Cyber Dating Expert Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps of 2013” for your viewing and downloading pleasure.
This year we’ve added three new mobile dating apps, which were featured in our Mobile Dating BootCamp.
As Tinder celebrates its 1-year Anniversary, we’re happy to list their mobile app as our top choice for 2013. Tinder is now the fastest growing location-based mobile dating app and is becoming a household name. While early adopters were found on college campuses, now everyone from Lindsey Lohan to the former Miss USA, along with your neighbors as well can be found flirting on the Tinder app. During this year’s Mobile Dating BootCamp, just about every participant requested to use Tinder while looking for love online. Tinder reports that 54 percent of their members are between 18-24 and 31.6 percent are between 25-34.
How it works. Users download the mobile app on their iPhone or Android phones and connect through Facebook to create a profile. You can anonymously scroll through potential matches nearby. If there’s a mutual match, then you can start chatting in text message style directly through their app.
Why we like it: It’s simple to use, free, anonymous, and is the fastest growing mobile dating app. Tinder has given credibility to mobile dating as the way to meet in a digital world. It’s also a fun way to make new friends. You can view a variety of potential dates in a “hot or not” style and anonymously decide whether you’re interested in or not. Tinder boasts 400 million matches to date with approximately 4 million new matches per day. Download Android Download iOs
Let’s Date call itself the “instagam’ of dating. Users sign and create their date card through Facebook connect. Once your profile is created, you’ll have the ability to edit your profile if you don’t want it to mirror your Facebook profile. Let’s Date reports that 55 percent of their users are between 18 to 24 years old and 40 percent are between 24 and 35 years old.
How it works: Let’s date uses science to help match you with someone compatible on their mobile dating app. Users can click on “Yes” or “No, Thanks” to profiles they’ve been matched with. If there’s a mutual match, users can be notified by email to let you know that it’s time to start chatting with your digital crush. You can also speed up the process by sending a flirt to the person you’ve selected for $.99 in the iTunes store.They also have a “wingman” feature, which allows non-daters to view profile and share them with their single friends through email, SMS, or Twitter.
Why we like it: Its easy to create a profile for free and scroll through those that are sent to you. If you’re traveling you can change your location to the city you’d like to start dating in and fill up your date card before your arrival. Plus, you can link to your Facebook or Twitter accounts to create a more robust profile. Download iOs
For the fourth year in a row, Zoosk has made it to our “Top 10 Favorite Mobile Dating Apps.” Zoosk is a top mobile dating app for iPhone users and a top 10 overall grossing app in the iTunes store. More members, 55 percent are using the Android app as compared to 45 percent on iOS.
How it works: Users sign up for free, but if you pay for a subscription to Zoosk you’ll get unlimited winks and messages, full access to the ZSMS feature, can see who has viewed your profile, and you can chat with the connections you make. The cost of subscriptions are: 1 month for $29.95, 3 months for $19.98 per month, or 6 months for $12.49 per month.
Badoo is a free dating app and was launched in 2006. They have over 197 million members worldwide in 180 countries with over 41 languages available. Over 100,000 new mobile app users added every day. It’s a fun way to meet new friends and dates in a game-like environment.
How it works: Users can sign in through Facebook and use the service on the web, as well as on their mobile dating apps. Users can find singles with similar interests nearby to chat with and their “Encounters” game helps connect you with possible matches. Their premium paid service includes a “Spotlight” and “Rise Up” feature to be able to be seen by more members. With “Spotlight,” the member’s photo and brief profile info appear at the top of every main Badoo page within their area or region. “Rise Up” instantly puts the member’s profile at the top of the search results within their region. The “Super Powers” feature is a monthly service fee which gives users more control.
Why we like it: The added bonus of uploading videos.
PlentyOfFish has made it to our “Top 10 Favorite Mobile Dating Apps” list for the third year in a row. POF is one of the largest free dating sites in the world with over 2 million Americans logging on to the site each day. POF reports that 80 percent of people who access POF from a mobile device do so from their mobile Apps.
According to comScore, PlentyOfFish has captured 67 percent of the market share among mobile dating apps in the U.S. The app is completely free and is available in five languages, including English, French, German, Spanish, and Portuguese.
How it works: Users sign up for free and can search for singles from their mobile app using new filters such as education, height, and body type. Their Android app has a “Places” feature to provides users with a list of potential date hot spots. PlentyOfFish has also created a premium feature called “View Interaction” which tells singles if they’ve already interacted with a user; messaged back and forth, added each other to their Favorites list and viewed each others’ profiles. This ensures you’re not wasting time messaging someone you’ve already reached out to Users can also search for singles from their mobile app using new filters such as education, height, and body type.
Why we like it: PlentyOfFish has always understood the importance of singles meeting face to face. Their new “Date Night” feature will tell other singles in your area that you’re available for a date this weekend. The feature resets itself every week. Download Android Download iOs
Meet Moi calls themselves the mobile matchmaker and states clearly that they are not an online dating service, and fall into the category of social discovery. Meet Moi does the searching for you and sends you a notification of a compatible date nearby to your mobile phone. They matches users with one another based on preferences and proximity by leveraging uniquely mobile capabilities like location awareness and push communication channels.
How it works: Users can sign up for free with features including creating a profile, sending winks, and replying to messages. Users receive a push notification when there’ s a match nearby. If you choose to accept the match, you can click on “Has Potential” to show interest. If your match likes you back, you can chat for up to 60-minutes before deciding if you want to meet in person. Premium users can chat with all users and see who’s viewed their profile.
Why we like it: Their “Wingman” feature encourages group dating and makes introductions for groups of people, so if you’re hanging out with your friends, you can meet a group of other people nearby. They’re also available on the mobile web. Facebook Connect allows users to see if they have any Facebook friends in common. Download Android Download iOs
Skout is one of the earliest mobile dating apps and their iPhone app was launched in 2008. Their mobile app is a global network for meeting new friends or dates in over 100 countries around the world.
How it works: Skout is free to download with features include chatting and exchanging photos or notes Users can see who has checked them out. The app identifies singles in your immediate vicinity and gives you the opportunity to flirt and meet up with them. Though the app is free to use, members have the option of purchasing virtual gifts, premium memberships, or sending “wink bombs” which reach up to 500 potential sweethearts in your area at once. Their premium model, Skout Pro is priced at $6.99.
Why we like it: Skout now has two separate and distinct communities for teens and adults, making it easy to safely make new friends. They’ve tackled the safety issue well. Download Android Download iOs
For the third year in a row, Grindr has made it to our “Top 10 Favorite Mobile Dating Apps.” Their mobile app launched in 2009 and they’ve been a leader in the mobile app only service. Grindr has 7 million male users in 192 countries around the world. The average user spends 2 hours a day on the app and logs in 8 times a day. Over 200 million photos are sent every day from guys to guys using their mobile apps.
How it works: Grindr is a location-based app where users can create a profile for free, upload photos, chat, and meet. Users can view 100 profiles of men in their area. Premium users of Grindr-Xtra have an advertising-free service and can receive push notifications even when the app is closed. Other benefits of Grindr-Xtra include the swipe feature to easily scan through profiles. The premium service costs between $12.99/mo. to $64.99/yr.
Why we like it: It’s been the most innovative and successful niche based mobile dating app in the world. With 1 billion chat messages being sent in a given month, need we say more? Download Android Download BlackBerry Download iOs
OkCupid is free and makes it easy to access the web version of their site on your mobile phone, as well as providing a mobile-only app that is location-based and simple to use.
How it Works: Users can sign in from Facebook or directly on the mobile app to find singles in your area. Accessing their “Locals” feature will show you people in your vicinity. The app allows you to swipe right to “like” a user or swipe to the left to “take a pass.” If it’s a mutual match, you’ll find out immediately and will receive an email. Users then can visit their profile or send a message. Other features you can access from your mobile phone include viewing the famous OkCupid questions, saving a profile as a favorite, viewing your visitors, and ranking your potential date from 1-5 stars. Each user’s profile will state your Match, friend, and enemy percentages similar to what you’ll find on the web-based site. Upgrading to A-List, which includes anonymous browsing is an additional fee.
Why we like it: Having the percentages on a profile photo makes it easy for those who are intrigued by the computer algorithms to take a second look at a potential date.
How About We now provides an online meet-and-greet with the goal of being an offline dating service for both singles and couples. Their mobile app lets you view full screen photos and dates of people in your area. Their premise is to connect online and meet offline at user created events.
How it works: Members can sign up for free and post ideas for dates. This helps speed up the process as often a member will have tickets for a specific concert or sporting event and will list the date/time of the potential date. You’ll also receive real-time notifications with recommended dates. To view your visitors, you can invite three friends for free to join the site, or upgrade to the premium membership. To send or read emails, you’ll need to pay for a membership which runs from $8.99/mo. to $34.99/mo.
Why we like it: How About We has partnered with AARP for the large number of single boomers over 50 who are looking for love online. AARP members can receive 50% off their membership. It makes members think about a fun actual date and creativity is the key. You’ll find more than just suggested beach walks from their busy and active members. Plus their blog, The Date Report really rocks!
Newcomer Coffee Meets Bagel (CMB) was created by three sisters Arun, Dawoon, and Soo Kang. CMB has won the hearts of many singles looking for love online. Originally a web-based service in a few cities in the U.S., Coffee Meets Bagel launched their iOs app in August of 2013.
How it Works: Every day at noon, you’ll receive one match from a friend-of-a friend, or one “bagel.” Users sign up through Facebook to create their profile and can “Like” or “Pass” on their bagels. If you missed one of your bagel dates, you can request to be rematched. Users can visit their bean shop to buy coffee beans for upgraded services at the cost of $4.99 to $99.99, but can also easily win free beans by recommending a bagel to a friend. Since the service is new, users might not get a bagel match every day, but we have our eyes on this site and hope that it continues to grow in membership.
Why we like it: Users look forward to receiving their daily “bagel” at lunch time. CMB believes your dating life, including name, birthday and email should be private, that your friends are the best conduits for your dates, and that meeting quality people doesn’t have to be so awkward or complicated. It’s also like a fun game to receive coffee beans when you respond to a match. Download on iOs
STILL OUR FAVORITES: These top web-based dating sites have terrific mobile apps that are worthy of downloading on your smartphones to speed up your search.
eHarmony is responsible for over 1 million people getting married since they launched in 2000. That’s a number to brag about. Their mobile app downloads surpassed the 5-million mark over the summer. eHarmony reports that users tend to access their mobile apps 5+ times throughout the day, compared to twice a day on the computer. Over 40 percent of their user registrations take place in the mobile environment. The app is free to download where you can sign up, fill out your profile and questionnaire, upload photos from Facebook, receive daily matches, and communicate for free on specialty weekends. Paid members have the same functionality as the subscriber’s web version, where you can view photos, go through guided communication, see when a match last logged in, and read/write emails. Download Android Download iOS Download iPad
Match.com was launched in 1995 and is available in 24 countries around the world and in 15 different languages. Their mobile app is a service for paid subscribers on more platforms than any other app. Match reports that more than 40 percent of user logins come from their mobile apps. Users can wink, create and view profiles, upload up to 24 photos, send and receive emails, add users to their “Favorites” and rate their “Daily Matches.” Other Premium features include the popular “Who’s Viewed Me” feature. Users can sign up on Facebook and also be notified of upcoming Stir Events on their mobile app. Download Android Download iOs Download BlackBerry
Previous Top 10 Mobile Dating apps lists can be viewed here.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and mobile dating expert. She was an early adopter of Internet dating, having created her first profile almost 20 years ago. Today, she coaches singles on the dating scene and is the host of Mobile Dating BootCamp: Dating in a Mobile World.
Cyber-Dating Expert and Three Day Rule are teaming up again to bring you Mobile Dating BootCamp.
This year’s contestants will try to find love from the convenience of their mobile phones with a whole new list of mobile dating apps.
Mobile dating apps are all the rage. Ten lucky singles in Los Angeles will be competing to find their dream date.
Last year’s Mobile Dating BootCamp was featured in the Washington Post newspaper.
This year’s mobile dating apps this include:
- Let’s Date
- Match Mobile
- How About We
- Plenty of Fish
Daters will be receiving private coaching from online dating expert Julie Spira and prizes galore from Three Day Rule.
All contestants will meet together at the Mobile Dating Conference in Beverly Hills, where they’ll be generously hosted by iDate to enjoy a catered meal at the SLS Hotel and will share their experiences with Internet dating executives in a focus group panel.
Plus, Uber has generously donated round trip transportation in Los Angeles with a private driver to the hotel for each contestant.
For more information and to apply for your chance to be included, visit MobileDatingBootCamp.com/apply.
With online dating, we’ve been told it’s all about the photo, as both men and women are visual.
Today, our friends at OkCupid have launched their Crazy Blind Date mobile app, where you go back to the basics of when your grandmother fixed you up, along with a technology twist.
In honor of the launch, you’ll feel a bit naked when you log on to OkCupid today, as the site celebrates “Love is Blind Day.” OkCupid has removed all ten million photos on their members’ profiles to create awareness of their new app.
Sam Yagan, OkCupid founder and Cyber-Dating Expert friend says, “People will say that Crazy Blind Date is too crazy.” He adds, “But for a whole generation of young singles, it’s going to be a great adventure, and a great compliment to online dating.”
One thing we know for sure, is that mobile dating does speed up the process to meet someone IRL. In our recent Mobile Dating BootCamp, several of the participants used OkCupid’s mobile app and other mobile dating apps to try to find love from the convenience of their mobile phones. This app could help you if you’re looking for a last minute date or don’t want to be dateless on Valentine’s Day.
OkCupid says that Crazy Blind Date takes less than a minute of work:
- Download the Crazy Blind Date app for iPhone or Android
- Choose which nights this week you want to go on dates.
- Pick your favorite bar or coffee shop.
- Go on with your day; Crazy Blind Date does the rest.
Users are encouraged to share their dates on Twitter with the hashtag of #CrazyBlindDate and fees for the dates will apply.
Are you ready to go back to blind dating?
Julie Spira is a top online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She’s the host of Online Dating BootCamp and Mobile Dating BootCamp. Julie creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice, follow @Juliespira on Twitter and at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.
Every year at Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters, we have our Irresistible Anniversary Celebration. It was four years ago on October 15, 2008, that CyberDatingExpert.com, an online dating advice magazine was officially launched. Today, we’re honored to be considered the TOP online dating advice site on the planet and are helping more and more singles find love online.
It’s a joy to share with you our year-in-review and a few special announcements and offers for our Anniversary Week.
When we launched as a site to help singles while dating in a Web 2.0 World, we knew we could help singles in their cyber journey. We’d like to thank you for helping us remain the #1 online dating expert site on the Internet. In honor of our birthday, we’d like to give you a gift to help you while looking for love online and the largest discount ever on our Irresistible Profiles.
From Monday, October 15th through Sunday, October 22nd, we’ll be giving our readers a free .pdf copy of our bestselling online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating. To receive your free copy follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and post this update. Hi @JulieSpira. I’m #lookingforloveonline.
Also during our irresistible anniversary celebration week, Like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert and post your update of “Happy Anniversary Cyber-Dating Expert. I’m looking for love online” to receive a free copy of The Perils of Cyber-Dating.
In addition, we’ll be answering your dating questions for FREE all weekend long. So do take a moment and join in on the fun. If you have a dating dilemma, let us know!
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Bloomingdales – Beauty 101: Meet Your Match
October 20, 2012, 1PM To 2PM – 4PM To 5PM
Our week long celebration will end at Bloomingdales in Century City (Los Angeles), where it’s an honor to partner with Bloomies for their “Turn Your Beauty On” Promotion. We know you might need some help with finding your perfect makeup match to look super-beautiful on date night. Come see Cyber-Dating Expert Julie Spira at the Meet Your Match speed-beauty event. Julie will provide personalized dating and relationship advice. With your $25 ticket, redeemable in Cosmetics merchandise, you’ll receive free samples, light refreshments, and enter to win one of the many luxurious Cosmetics gift baskets. Stop by any Cosmetics counter to get your ticket now! This is going to be a lot of fun and tickets are limited. Call 310-772-2144 to reserve your spot!
Now for a few bragging rights and in case you missed some of our highlights, we’re sharing our year-in-review for you.
Best Dating Blog Finalist
You voted for us for the best dating blog in the world and we became a finalist. Yes, there were thousands of votes and the competition was steep. CyberDatingExpert.com was the only dating advice site to be a finalist in both 2011 and 2012. It’s with heartfelt thanks that we acknowledge your support.
In the News
From Facebook to mobile dating, online dating safety to breaking up, our dating advice reached millions on multiple continents! It was an honor to be named one of America’s Leading Relationship Experts in Woman’s World magazine. Most of our media appearances can be found in our press room.
Mobile Dating BootCamp
We hosted the first-ever Mobile Dating BootCamp and it was featured in the Washington Post. Mobile is the hot topic and we’re helping singles find love from the convenience of their mobile phones. We’re gearing up for Season Two of Mobile Dating BootCamp, and our mobile dating advice has been featured in/on Canadian Living, Mashable, Mobile Dia, NBC, and NPR.
Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps
Back by popular demand and in conjunction with Social Media Week, we announced the Cyber Dating Expert Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps for 2012. This year, we expanded the list to include social discovery apps. Why wait until you get home to find a date? It’s time to start dating on your cell phone. View our post to see all the features of our favorites this year.
Your Online Dating Stories
From the bottom of my heart, all of us at Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters thank you for another amazing year of letting us help you find love in a Web 2.0 World. Do remember to like us on Facebook and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.
“I had spent several months waiting to hit “go” on my online dating profile, unsure about my photos and insecure about the the wording of my responses. After spending just a few hours with Julie, we were able to craft a profile that truly reflects the real me. She insisted we post it live as soon as we were done. The results were unbelievable. Within hours, I received 5 thoughtful emails from men who fit my criteria. Several more soon followed and continue to pour in. Without her invaluable advice, I would have never had the kind of success I’ve been able to have. Thank you Julie!”
“I had been happily married for 25 years and was nervous about starting over again. After healing from my husband’s death, I worked with online dating coach Julie Spira who gave me the confidence and tools for dating online. I signed up for the “Totally in Love” package, where Julie created my profile and held my hand along the way. Within a week I met someone who I really liked. I became optimistic about finding love again. A few months later, I was pleasantly surprised as I fell in love with my Soul Mate.”
~Gail – 56
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The 2012 list of the 10 Best Dating Apps selected by CyberDatingExpert.com now includes social discovery apps, which are becoming the new trend for dating and social networking. With the release of the iPhone 5, more singles than ever can have the opportunity to meet more quickly and on-the-fly. GPS or location-based dating apps are no longer for just hookups anymore.
According to Juniper Research, the mobile dating market is expected to be worth $2.3 billion by 2016. Earlier this year, online dating expert Julie Spira held the first-ever Mobile Dating Bootcamp to help singles find love more quickly and from the convenience of their mobile phones.
Since last year, the popularity of social discovery apps are taking center stage and most apps let you sign up directly from their Facebook page, so without further digital ado, here’s our list of the best mobile dating apps for 2012.
The 2012 List
1. Badoo - Android, BlackBerry, iOS and Windows Phones
Badoo has a community of over 150 million people worldwide using their mobile app. In March of 2012, they officially launched in the U.S. Free users can contact up to 10 people a day. Premium users can use “Superpower” features including Spotlight, where you can be featured more prominently, and “Spotlight”, which enables you to rise to the top of a search listing.
2. MeetMoi – Android and iOS
MeetMoi’s mobile app was first launched in 2010. Over three million users of this popular app can use their free services, including creating a profile, sending winks, and replying to messages. Users receive a push notification when there’ s a match nearby. If they choose to accept the match, they can chat for up to 60-minutes before deciding if they want to meet in person. Premium users can chat with all users and see who’s viewed their profile. Facebook Connect allows users to see if they have any Facebook friends in common. Their new “Wingman” feature makes introductions for groups of people, taking advantage of the new trend of group dating.
3. OkCupid – Ok Locals – Android and iOS
OkCupid’s Locals launched in 2011 to help singles meet in-real-life. Their location-based app combines a Twitter-like broadcast feature with a FourSquare type location database. Users can broadcast their intentions, such as meeting at a bar or a sporting event, which will appear on the mobile phones of singles near by with like-minded interests. Singles can meet people near by and receive suggestions from their database. It’s flirting on-the-fly. Although two-thirds of their mobile users activate the GPS-positioning feature, users do have the ability to turn off the GPS functionality.
4. Grindr – Android, BlackBerry, iOS
Grindr is the #1 location-based mobile only app for gay, bi and curious guys with over four million users in 192 countries around the world. Over 1.1 million users log on to the Grindr app on a daily basis. Free members can view 100 guys in their area. Grindr Xtra, the premium paid version features a push notification even if the app is closed, has an online only view to see who’s currently online and does not include banner ads. Other premium features include “Profile Swipe,” where you use your left finger to display the next guy or right finger to view the previous profile, and the ability to view 300 profiles in the area.
5. Zoosk – Android, iOS, and web-based app
Zoosk is the top grossing social networking app in Apple’s iTunes store. Their service is available in 25 languages with members in over 70 countries. Since last year, Zoosk’s mobile traffic on HTML5 and mobile apps has increased by 148%, with 15% of their users engaging through their mobile apps. More members (55%) are using the Android app as compared to iOS (45%).
6. Plenty of Fish – Android, iOS, Windows
Plenty of Fish launched their mobile app in 2012. To date, over 900,000 people use POF apps each day in the United States. POF generates over 5 billion pageviews/month and 70% of their members who accessed POF.com did so from a mobile device. The app is completely free and is available in five languages, including English, French, German, Spanish, and Portuguese. POF has jumped on the local events bandwagon and sends push notifications of events in their members’ local area. Their Android app has a “Places” feature to provides users with a list of potential date hot spots.
7. Match Mobile – Android, BlackBerry, iOS, Windows 7, Palm, Web-based app
Match mobile was launched in 2007 as a mobile web feature. They’re available on a wide variety of platforms, as well as an HTML5 site to provide access to iOS devices. Free features allow members to wink, create and view profiles, and add users to their “Favorites.” In September of 2012, they created their Stir events mobile site for premium users. Other Premium features include reading and writing emails, and the “Who’s Viewed Me” feature. Users can sign up on Facebook and Android users can say “No Thanks” as well as view an enhanced photo gallery.
8. eHarmony - Android, BlackBerry, iOS, and iPad
The eHarmony iPhone app was launched in August, 2010, but what makes them stand out on the list is their stunning eHarmony HD iPad app. In May of 2012, eHarmony added retina support for their iPad app. An average of 471, 338 mobile sessions take place among their apps every day, a significant growth since 2011. Free service included the ability to sign up and complete their relationship questionnaire, as well as receive daily matches. Premium members can view their matches’ photos, send and receive email, and see when a match last logged on. In October, they will be launching a new enhanced look and feel for their mobile apps.
9. MeetMe – Android and iOS (Social Discovery App)
MeetMe is a leading social network and social discovery app for meeting new people. Although not entirely a dating app, it’s the #1 top grossing Android app with over 40 million members worldwide and one-million daily active users in the U.S. MeetMe reports that 60% of their traffic comes from mobile with an even distribution of men and women. The app is free to use with features including “Locals” to find singles close by and “Ask Me.” Premium services include the ability to purchase credits to supercharge the social discovery experience, including featuring a photo in a spotlight bar. Users can sign up on Facebook. The app is now available in Spanish and Portuguese.
10. Tagged – Android, BlackBerry, iOS, Windows mobile (Social Discovery App)
Tagged is a social network and social discovery app to meet new people, make new friends and even find love. Their mobile app has been downloaded over six million times with over 300 million profiles to browse. Free membership allows for unlimited messaging, chatting, winking, and advanced people browsing, both worldwide and locally.Premium members can buy gold, send gifts and play in-app games. Users can login on Facebook and play an online game or share their interests. Tagged was listed in the Forbes “Top-100 Up-and-Coming Companies” in 2011.
Honorable mentions – Social Discovery honorable mentions this year go to Singles Around Me and Are You Interested. Singles Around Me differentiates itself from other mobile apps because they are geo-location centric and use maps in addition to distance. They’ve had over 1 million downloads and we give them a thumbs up for addressing privacy issues. With their “Approximate Location” singles can opt to find out where other members are in a 3-6 mile radius of their location, hide their location entirely, or show their exact location. Are You Interested rebranded their mobile dating app to a social discovery app in August of 2012. They have over 6 million mobile app users and are focusing on friendship and dating based on users with similar interests
Is your favorite mobile dating app on the list? If not, feel free to add it to the comments.
CyberDatingExpert.com is a leading online dating advice site created by mobile dating and online dating expert Julie Spira. Spira was an early adopter of the Internet and has been an expert in the dating and social networking field from dial-up to mobile. She’s the host of Mobile Dating BootCamp and and creates irresistible online dating profiles for singles on the dating scene. Spira reports on the latest trends in the online dating, mobile dating and the social media industry.
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As we say goodbye to August and get ready for Labor Day Weekend, it’s time to share some of our favorite dating advice stories on the web and tweets we loved on Twitter this week.
On Glamour, they have a list of fun and flirty things to do on Labor Day weekend, so check it out. Our friends at We Love Dates and Your Tango posted an article that both men and women can relate to, Why You Shouldn’t Say ‘I Love You’ Too Soon. Just how soon is too soon? Follow your heart and wait a little while longer. Mashable brought us the news that the Are Your Interested mobile app has embraced social discovery. This will be our topic at SxSW. Have you voted yet and given us a thumbs up? Click here to vote.
On Huffington Post, Bianca Bosker wrote an article about a new Facebook Report that lets you know how many of your friends are single. Curiosity killed the digital cat and I couldn’t resist. It’s filled with a whole lot of data, some which you just might want to keep to yourselves. How About We’s Date Report featured a great article, Do This When You Get Dumped, Says Science. Cyber-Dating Expert friend and Elle columnist E. Jean Carroll answers the question, Can You Find Love Online?
If you missed our Cyber Love Story of the Week, check out Doreen and Keith who met on OkCupid.
Many thanks to WCCO in Minneapolis, NPR’s All Things Considered for SmartPhones Apps Help More Singles Find The Boy (Or Girl) Next Door and the Washington Post for the wonderful interviews on mobile dating.
Our favorite quote this week is, “Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly.” – Rose Franken
Our friends at eHarmony are having a free Communication Weekend going on right now, so try their site and let us know if you get lucky in love.
Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you roam.
Julie and the Cyber-Dating Expert Team.
Julie Spira is a leading online dating expert, bestselling author, and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice, sign up for the Weekly Flirt newsletter, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter, and like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert
Is it possible to find love from your mobile phone?
Within 24 hours after we completed the first season of Mobile Dating Bootcamp, I was contacted by the Washington Post as an expert in mobile dating for a featured story they were writing on the subject. With the rapid growth and popularity of mobile dating apps, their in-depth piece on the subject entitled, “Love on the run: the fast rise of mobile dating apps” appeared on the cover of the business section of the Sunday paper on August 19, 2012.
Franklin, one of our contestants, was more than happy to share his experience with the Washington Post. After all, he’s truly looking for his wife and is hoping that by using mobile dating apps, it will speed up his search.
Full story @Washington Post by Amrita Jayakumar
At a swanky Los Angeles hotel in June, six single people sat before a roomful of industry executives to discuss that issue.
This annual conference is a gathering of the biggest players in the dating app business. The six participants had signed up for a first-of-its-kind mobile dating boot camp, organized by Julie Spira, an author and cyber-dating expert.
Their mandate was simple: Try out two apps for two weeks and provide honest feedback.
While developers collect their own statistics and user responses, this was the first time this sort of focus group was organized, she said.
Franklin Horn had never tried mobile dating before.
“I don’t think I would have started it on my own, and I’m in the software industry,” said Horn, 27, who works at a tech startup in Santa Monica. “It’s a hard thing to put yourself out there.”
He used three apps: eHarmony, Skout and MeetMoi. While he didn’t go on any dates, Horn said he exchanged about 150 casual messages with a few women.
“Since I’m single and busy, I wanted to use it as a way to practice flirting and see the technology behind the apps,” he said.
Another participant, Joe, 30, from Chicago, described his experience in a blog.“With these apps it feels like, ‘Hey, I’m in the area, I’m looking to hang out,’ he wrote. “You know what somebody’s intention is. It’s a little more explicit up front.”
Spira says that just like online dating, people should apply common sense with an app.
“You have to use intuition and act the way you would in real life,” she said. “Like meeting in a public place.”
All the dating app users were clear that they’d prefer meeting someone the old-fashioned way, without technology. Even if they did use an app, they wanted to take the relationship from online to offline as soon as possible, said Spira, the cyber dating expert.
“I’m sure Mrs. Horn is out there somewhere,” Horn, the boot camp participant, said. “The app is just a way to meet her.”
The next season of Mobile Dating Bootcamp will take place in January, 2013 in Las Vegas at the Internet Dating Conference. We’ll be casting contestants in October, 2012.
Julie Spira is an online dating and mobile dating expert and host of Mobile Dating BootCamp. She’s the CEO and founder of Cyber-Dating Expert and was an early adopter of online dating from dial-up to mobile. Julie creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene to shorten their search while looking for love online. For more dating advice, sign up for the Weekly Flirt and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert
Today is a momentous day for me.
It’s a day of great reflection and a day of digital pride.
It was four years ago today on July 31, 2008, that I started writing my first book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.
Four years later, on July 31, 2012, I’m now sending out my 15,000th tweet to 25,000+ loyal followers on twitter. I’m humbled. I’m grateful. I’m filled with joy. I want this digital milestone to be meaningful and I’m honored to share this story of a powerful and passionate reinvention you. My life changed dramatically four years ago. It’s an honor and joy to help singles find love on the Internet. It’s time to share my journey. I hope you enjoy the ride.
In the beginning
How did a broadcaster turned technology executive become an online dating expert?
It wasn’t a childhood dream of mine to be an online dating expert or create Cyber-Dating Expert. It was my dream as a young child to become a music radio DJ. I considered myself a “musicologist,” listened to the radio non-stop and knew that was my calling. I was fortunate to have lived that dream as the first female DJ at a big FM rock station in Upstate New York, where I wanted my listeners to be enriched by sharing my favorite songs on the radio. I believed my listeners would be my forever friends. There was no such thing as BFFs, tweets, updates, and broadcasting was a unilateral. I spoke. People listened. That all changed with social media, where it’s now about the conversation and community. It appears I now have the digital gift of gab.
My love affair with technology started many years ago when I became a network executive. At RKO, we were the country’s first digital-delivered satellite radio network. I was, and still am a hopeful romantic and my life was filled with music and love. I had no idea that my future would include the marriage of love and technology. It makes perfect sense now, of course. I was an early adopter of the Internet and an early adopter of online dating. Why not marry the two things I was so passionate about?
Four Years Ago Today
So what exactly happened on July 31, 2008, and why did I feel the need to open up my entire personal life for people to read about and comment? Basically, I lost a bet at girls night out at Jazz Night at the Hollywood Bowl. It could have been as simple as flipping a coin. One could say I lost the bet. Other’s say I won. I was sharing some of funny dating stories while passing my BlackBerry around to my married girlfriends to view photos of a date I was considering going on. The odd thing about this particular date was, his mother selected me on behalf of her son on Match.com. She said I was perfect for her never-married son. I found it quite odd that she was looking for love, while playing the role of wing-woman for her son. Out of curiosity, I wanted to see how it would play out. That story ended up in Chapter 13 of my book, “The Perils of Cyber-Dating” in the story called, “The Mother-in-Law.” We never met, but it made for humorous conversation.
Then the floodgates opened. I shared the story of the man who went berserk in a restaurant over 10 years earlier because he thought I looked like his recently deceased wife, the gentleman who told me graphic details of his colonoscopy while we were eating lunch, as well as the fairytale romances leading to marriage proposals. All of these stories were a result of online dating. Could I be alone, I wondered?
What we all realized on that important night was that singles everywhere were struggling to find love, both online and offline. These amusing dating stories weren’t unique to me. I had spent years perfecting the Irresistible Profile and helped singles throughout the U.S. shorten their search so they could ride into the digital sunset together. I knew I had a gift. I was told from my mentor that my storytelling skills from being a media personality could be transferred to literary works. I believed him because he believed in me.
When my girlfriends dared me to write a book, I laughed it off and said, “sure.” They were serious and I thought it was funny. However, I reflected to a day 13 years earlier when I decided to write a book about my online dating stories and came up with a the title of “The Perils of Cyber-Dating.” This was as a result of being proposed to by a married man. That would be perilous, wouldn’t it? I shared the love for my book title with my girlfriends who all agreed it would be perfect. “Of course someone must have written this book already,” I said to the girls. Then they made a bet with me. If this title had not been published, I must write the book. If it was already written, then being an author wasn’t in the cards for me. I agreed, thinking that I’d be off the hook. Certainly in all these years, there must have been others wanting to write about such perilous stories.
When I returned home, I received a call from my girlfriend who was determined to win the bet. I checked online. I checked on Amazon. Apparently no one had written The Perils of Cyber-Dating. However, as a marketing and communications strategist, I knew I’d need to have the corresponding domain name. I assumed someone was blogging under this title, or perhaps it was parked somewhere. I wasn’t sure how it would pan out. I jotted down chapter titles and a few stories and went to sleep exhausted but enthusiastic about writing the book I promised myself I’d do over a decade before.
The next day, I checked to see if perilsofcyberdating.com was available. Much to my surprise and joy, the domain name was available! “How could this be?” I asked. Then I knew it was meant to be. I had hundreds of stories that I had collected from almost 15 years. I was on the Internet before most people even knew the Internet. I had been a charter member of Love@AOL before the days of Match.com, eHarmony, and mobile dating.
From my Heart to Print
And so my love affair with my first book began. I wrote. I edited. I reflected. I laughed. I cried. It was empowering, healing, cathartic and more. I knew my story had to be told. There was no one else with such a unique perspective from dial-up to mobile. I knew I needed to help other singles and that humor and wit would shine along with my authenticity. The first agent I contacted told me that no one would be interested in anyone’s dating stories. Apparently he was wrong and didn’t see the future on how dating blogs and television dating shows would rise in popularity.
When I finished writing the manuscript, I created CyberDatingExpert.com as a place for singles and couples to share their online dating stories and to provide free dating advice for singles looking for love online. Readers started to submit stories for the Cyber Love Story of the Week and Peril of the Week features and commented with enthusiasm.
I remember how exciting it was to create my book cover. I had a vision of a girl getting ready for a date with a city background. The day my first copy of “The Perils of Cyber-Dating” was delivered to my home. It was like giving birth. I was so very proud. I had received glowing advanced praise including Joan Rivers who said, “Hilariously Funny! Singles of all ages need to read this book” and E. Jean Carroll from Elle magazine said, “It’s Like Sex and the City in a Web 2.0 World.”
I started tweeting about my book’s progress using my social media marketing strategies and engaging like-minded singles leading up to my Valentine’s Day launch. On the day it was released, I was filled with tears of joy. “The Perils of Cyber-Dating” became a best selling dating book in several categories. My passion for helping singles became known worldwide and I started coaching more and more singles every day by giving them the tools to be confident in the digital age.
Words can’t express how grateful I am to have been able to reach millions with my online dating advice. Every day I thank those who have supported me on my journey. Cyber-Dating Expert is now one of the top online dating advice sites on the Internet and has been nominated for numerous awards. I’ve been named “One of America’s Ultimate Experts” by Woman’s World magazine and “The Pioneer of Online Dating” by Cosmo. Our advice has been featured and quoted in and on over 450 stories around the world. I’ve had the opportunity to write for Betty Confidential, eHarmony, Huffington Post, JDate, Match, Your Tango, among others. It’s been an honor to have been quoted on ABC, CBS, Mashable, Men’s Health, and NBC and speak at the Internet Dating Conference.
In the Future
As online dating continues to grow and evolve with mobile dating, our team is at the forefront. Our mobile app, Dating Expert is celebrating its third year and our annual “Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps” list is highly respected by journalists and singles. Our team created Mobile Dating BootCamp in 2012 and we’ll be casting a second season to be held in Las Vegas in 2013. I’m in the final stages of finishing my second book, The Rules of Netiquette: How to Mind Your Manners on the Web as well as an exciting screenplay.
I was just a girl with a dream, a huge heart, and hundreds of stories, who happened to be an early adopter of online dating. I now have dreams of seeing my story on the big screen and riding off into my very own digital sunset. I have a feeling my dreams will become a reality.
My message to all of you is to follow your heart. Dream big and be open to the possibilities of a new beginning in both love and work. Don’t discard someone who isn’t perfect. None of us are. Be honest and authentic. Remember that patience is a virtue and the best things in life are worth waiting for. Your shelf life does not have an expiration date on it and you can ask for forgiveness and give love another chance. One of our featured couples in the Cyber Love Story of the Week found love on eHarmony at the age of 70. Find your passion and it will welcome you with open arms. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping me share the love every single day among 6 continents. I couldn’t have done it without you.
At the end of the digital day, I wish you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.