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Mobile Dating BootCamp Season 2

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Cyber-Dating Expert and Three Day Rule are teaming up again to bring you Mobile Dating BootCamp.

This year’s contestants will try to find love from the convenience of their mobile phones with a whole new list of mobile dating apps.

Mobile dating apps are all the rage. Ten lucky singles in Los Angeles will be competing to find their dream date.

Last year’s Mobile Dating BootCamp was featured in the Washington Post newspaper.

This year’s mobile dating apps this include:

  • Tinder
  • eHarmony
  • Let’s Date
  • Match Mobile
  • OkCupid
  • Grindr
  • How About We
  • Plenty of Fish

Daters will be receiving private coaching from online dating expert Julie Spira and prizes galore from Three Day Rule.

All contestants will meet together at the Mobile Dating Conference in Beverly Hills, where they’ll be generously hosted by iDate to enjoy a catered meal at the SLS Hotel and will share their experiences with Internet dating executives in a focus group panel.

Plus, Uber has generously donated round trip transportation in Los Angeles with a private driver to the hotel for each contestant.

For more information and to apply for your chance to be included, visit MobileDatingBootCamp.com/apply.

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Love is Blind, But OkCupid Isn’t – Crazy Blind Date Mobile

CBDlogo21 150x150With online dating, we’ve been told it’s all about the photo, as both men and women are visual.

Today, our friends at OkCupid have launched their Crazy Blind Date mobile app, where you go back to the basics of when your grandmother fixed you up, along with a technology twist.

In honor of the launch, you’ll feel a bit naked when you log on to OkCupid today, as the site celebrates “Love is Blind Day.” OkCupid has removed all ten million photos on their members’ profiles to create awareness of their new app.

Sam Yagan, OkCupid founder and Cyber-Dating Expert friend says, “People will say that Crazy Blind Date is too crazy.” He adds, “But for a whole generation of young singles, it’s going to be a great adventure, and a great compliment to online dating.”

One thing we know for sure, is that mobile dating does speed up the process to meet someone IRL. In our recent Mobile Dating BootCamp, several of the participants used OkCupid’s mobile app and other mobile dating apps to try to find love from the convenience of their mobile phones. This app could help you if you’re looking for a last minute date or don’t want to be dateless on Valentine’s Day.

OkCupid says that Crazy Blind Date takes less than a minute of work:

  1. Download the Crazy Blind Date app for iPhone or Android
  2. Choose which nights this week you want to go on dates.
  3. Pick your favorite bar or coffee shop.
  4. Go on with your day; Crazy Blind Date does the rest.

Users are encouraged to share their dates on Twitter with the hashtag of #CrazyBlindDate and fees for the dates will apply.

Are you ready to go back to blind dating?

Julie Spira is a top online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She’s the host of Online Dating BootCamp and Mobile Dating BootCamp. Julie creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice, follow @Juliespira on Twitter and at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.

Cyber-Dating Expert 4th Irresistible Anniversary Celebration

CDEannivlogoEvery year at Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters, we have our Irresistible Anniversary Celebration. It was four years ago on October 15, 2008, that CyberDatingExpert.com, an online dating advice magazine was officially launched. Today, we’re honored to be considered the TOP online dating advice site on the planet and are helping more and more singles find love online.

It’s a joy to share with you our year-in-review and a few special announcements and offers for our Anniversary Week.

When we launched as a site to help singles while dating in a Web 2.0 World, we knew we could help singles in their cyber journey. We’d like to thank you for helping us remain the #1 online dating expert site on the Internet. In honor of our birthday, we’d like to give you a gift to help you while looking for love online and the largest discount ever on our Irresistible Profiles.

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Also during our irresistible anniversary celebration week, Like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert and post your update of “Happy Anniversary Cyber-Dating Expert. I’m looking for love online” to receive a free copy of The Perils of Cyber-Dating.

In addition, we’ll be answering your dating questions for FREE all weekend long. So do take a moment and join in on the fun. If you have a dating dilemma, let us know!

50% Off Irresistible Profiles

Need some extra hand-holding? We’re offering our readers 50% off our Going Steady and Totally in Love Programs, where we’ll create an irresistible online dating profile to help you shorten the search and ride into the digital sunset together. But don’t wait. This offer is only valid for new orders placed between October 15, 2012 – October 22, 2012. Click here to get started.

Bloomingdales – Beauty 101: Meet Your Match

October 20, 2012, 1PM To 2PM – 4PM To 5PM

Our week long celebration will end at Bloomingdales in Century City (Los Angeles), where it’s an honor to partner with Bloomies for their “Turn Your Beauty On” Promotion. We know you might need some help with finding your perfect makeup match to look super-beautiful on date night. Come see Cyber-Dating Expert Julie Spira at the Meet Your Match speed-beauty event. Julie will provide personalized dating and relationship advice. With your $25 ticket, redeemable in Cosmetics merchandise, you’ll receive free samples, light refreshments, and enter to win one of the many luxurious Cosmetics gift baskets. Stop by any Cosmetics counter to get your ticket now!? This is going to be a lot of fun and tickets are limited. Call 310-772-2144 to reserve your spot!

Now for a few bragging rights and in case you missed some of our highlights, we’re sharing our year-in-review for you.

Best Dating Blog Finalist

You voted for us for the best dating blog in the world and we became a finalist. Yes, there were thousands of votes and the competition was steep. CyberDatingExpert.com was the only dating advice site to be a finalist in both 2011 and 2012.? It’s with heartfelt thanks that we acknowledge your support.

In the News

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From Facebook to mobile dating, online dating safety to breaking up,? our dating advice reached millions on multiple continents! It was an honor to be named one of America’s Leading Relationship Experts in Woman’s World magazine.? Most of our media appearances can be found in our press room.

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Mobile Dating BootCamp

We hosted the first-ever Mobile Dating BootCamp and it was featured in the Washington Post. Mobile is the hot topic and we’re helping singles find love from the convenience of their mobile phones. We’re gearing up for Season Two of Mobile Dating BootCamp, and our mobile dating advice has been featured in/on Canadian Living, Mashable, Mobile Dia, NBC, and NPR.

Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps

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Back by popular demand and in conjunction with Social Media Week, we announced the Cyber Dating Expert Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps for 2012. This year, we expanded the list to include social discovery apps. Why wait until you get home to find a date? It’s time to start dating on your cell phone.? View our post to see all the features of our favorites this year.

Your Online Dating Stories

button trans We thank you for submitting your online dating stories for consideration in the Cyber Love Story of the Week and the Peril of the Week. Thank you for sharing your stories.

 

From the bottom of my heart, all of us at Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters thank you for another amazing year of letting us help you find love in a Web 2.0 World. Do remember to like us on Facebook and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.

Testimonials

?I had spent several months waiting to hit ?go? on my online dating profile, unsure about my photos and insecure about the the wording of my responses. After spending just a few hours with Julie, we were able to craft a profile that truly reflects the real me. She insisted we post it live as soon as we were done. The results were unbelievable. Within hours, I received 5 thoughtful emails from men who fit my criteria. Several more soon followed and continue to pour in. Without her invaluable advice, I would have never had the kind of success I?ve been able to have. Thank you Julie!?
~Maggie, 35

?I had been happily married for 25 years and was nervous about starting over again. After healing from my husband?s death, I worked with online dating coach Julie Spira who gave me the confidence and tools for dating online. I signed up for the ?Totally in Love? package, where Julie created my profile and held my hand along the way. Within a week I met someone who I really liked. I became optimistic about finding love again. A few months later, I was pleasantly surprised as I fell in love with my Soul Mate.?
~Gail ? 56

?I worked with Julie Spira to rewrite my online dating profile. With her help and coaching, I was able to find more quality women to write to online.?
~Dean ? 35

 

Top 10 Best Mobile Dating Apps – 2012

mobiledaing2012 300x300In honor of Social Media Week, it’s once again time to announce the annual Cyber Dating Expert Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps.

The 2012 list of the 10 Best Dating Apps selected by CyberDatingExpert.com now includes social discovery apps, which are becoming the new trend for dating and social networking. With the release of the iPhone 5, more singles than ever can have the opportunity to meet more quickly and on-the-fly. GPS or location-based dating apps are no longer for just hookups anymore.

According to Juniper Research, the mobile dating market is expected to be worth $2.3 billion by 2016. Earlier this year, online dating expert Julie Spira held the first-ever Mobile Dating Bootcamp to help singles find love more quickly and from the convenience of their mobile phones.

Since last year, the popularity of social discovery apps are taking center stage and most apps let you sign up directly from their Facebook page, so without further digital ado, here’s our list of the best mobile dating apps for 2012.

The 2012 List

1. Badoo -? Android, BlackBerry, iOS and Windows Phones

badoo 128x128 reasonably small Badoo has a community of over 150 million people worldwide using their mobile app. In March of 2012, they officially launched in the U.S.? Free users can contact up to 10 people a day. Premium users can use “Superpower” features including Spotlight, where you can be featured more prominently, and “Spotlight”, which enables you to rise to the top of a search listing.

2. MeetMoi – Android and iOS

MeetMoi 128x128 2  reasonably smallMeetMoi’s mobile app was first launched in 2010. Over three million users of this popular app can use their free services, including creating a profile, sending winks, and replying to messages. Users receive a push notification when there’ s a match nearby. If they choose to accept the match, they can chat for up to 60-minutes before deciding if they want to meet in person. Premium users can chat with all users and see who’s viewed their profile. Facebook Connect allows users to see if they have any Facebook friends in common. Their new “Wingman” feature makes introductions for groups of people, taking advantage of the new trend of group dating.

3. OkCupid – Ok Locals – Android and? iOS

oklocals 150x150OkCupid’s Locals launched in 2011 to help singles meet in-real-life. Their location-based app combines a Twitter-like broadcast feature with a FourSquare type location database. Users can broadcast their intentions, such as meeting at a bar or a sporting event, which will appear on the mobile phones of singles near by with like-minded interests. Singles can meet people near by and receive suggestions from their database. It’s flirting on-the-fly. Although two-thirds of their mobile users activate the GPS-positioning feature, users do have the ability to turn off the GPS functionality.

4. Grindr – Android, BlackBerry, iOS

Grindrlogo 150x150Grindr is the #1 location-based mobile only app for gay, bi and curious guys with over four million users in 192 countries around the world. Over 1.1 million users log on to the Grindr app on a daily basis. Free members can view 100 guys in their area. Grindr Xtra,? the premium paid version features a push notification even if the app is closed, has an online only view to see who’s currently online and does not include banner ads. Other premium features include “Profile Swipe,” where you use your left finger to display the next guy or right finger to view the previous profile, and the ability to view 300 profiles in the area.

5. Zoosk – Android, iOS, and web-based app

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6. Plenty of Fish – Android, iOS, Windows

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Plenty of Fish launched their mobile app in 2012. To date, over 900,000 people use POF apps each day in the United States. POF generates over 5 billion pageviews/month and 70% of their members who accessed POF.com did so from a mobile device. The app is completely free and is available in five languages, including English, French, German, Spanish, and Portuguese. POF has jumped on the local events bandwagon and sends push notifications of events in their members’ local area. Their Android app has a “Places” feature to provides users with a list of potential date hot spots.

7. Match Mobile – Android, BlackBerry, iOS, Windows 7, Palm, Web-based app

matchmobileMatch mobile was launched in 2007 as a mobile web feature. They’re available on a wide variety of platforms, as well as an HTML5 site to provide access to iOS devices. Free features allow members to wink, create and view profiles, and add users to their “Favorites.” In September of 2012, they created their Stir events mobile site for premium users. Other Premium features include reading and writing emails, and the “Who’s Viewed Me” feature. Users can sign up on Facebook and Android users can say “No Thanks” as well as view an enhanced photo gallery.

8. eHarmony -? Android, BlackBerry, iOS,? and iPad

eharmonyipad 150x150The eHarmony iPhone app was launched in August, 2010, but what makes them stand out on the list is their stunning eHarmony HD iPad app. In May of 2012, eHarmony added retina support for their iPad app. An average of 471, 338 mobile sessions take place among their apps every day, a significant growth since 2011.? Free service included the ability to sign up and complete their relationship questionnaire, as well as receive daily matches. Premium members can view their matches’ photos, send and receive email, and see when a match last logged on. In October, they will be launching a new enhanced look and feel for their mobile apps.

9. MeetMe – Android and iOS (Social Discovery App)

mobile logo icon tm reasonably smallMeetMe is a leading social network and social discovery app for meeting new people. Although not entirely a dating app, it’s the #1 top grossing Android app with over 40 million members worldwide and one-million daily active users in the U.S. MeetMe reports that 60% of their traffic comes from mobile with an even distribution of men and women. The app is free to use with features including “Locals” to find singles close by and “Ask Me.” Premium services include the ability to purchase credits to supercharge the social discovery experience, including featuring a photo in a spotlight bar. Users can sign up on Facebook. The app is now available in Spanish and Portuguese.

10. Tagged – Android, BlackBerry, iOS, Windows mobile (Social Discovery App)

tagged2 reasonably smallTagged is a social network and social discovery app to meet new people, make new friends and even find love. Their mobile app has been downloaded over six million times with over 300 million profiles to browse. Free membership allows for unlimited messaging, chatting, winking, and advanced people browsing, both worldwide and locally.Premium members can buy gold, send gifts and play in-app games. Users can login on Facebook and play an online game or share their interests. Tagged was listed in the Forbes “Top-100 Up-and-Coming Companies” in 2011.

Honorable mentions – Social Discovery honorable mentions this year go to Singles Around Me and Are You Interested. Singles Around Me differentiates itself from other mobile apps because they are geo-location centric and use maps in addition to distance. They’ve had over 1 million downloads and we give them a thumbs up for addressing privacy issues. With their “Approximate Location” singles can opt to find out where other members are in a 3-6 mile radius of their location, hide their location entirely, or show their exact location.? Are You Interested rebranded their mobile dating app to a social discovery app in August of 2012. They have over 6 million mobile app users and are focusing on friendship and dating based on users with similar interests

Is your favorite mobile dating app on the list? If not, feel free to add it to the comments.

CyberDatingExpert.com is a leading online dating advice site created by mobile dating and online dating expert Julie Spira. Spira was an early adopter of the Internet and has been an expert in the dating and social networking field from dial-up to mobile. She’s the host of Mobile Dating BootCamp and and creates irresistible online dating profiles for singles on the dating scene.? Spira reports on the latest trends in the online dating, mobile dating and the social media industry.

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Cyber Love Links for Labor Day Weekend

cyberlovelinks2 150x93As we say goodbye to August and get ready for Labor Day Weekend, it’s time to share some of our favorite dating advice stories on the web and tweets we loved on Twitter this week.

On Glamour, they have a list of fun and flirty things to do on Labor Day weekend, so check it out. Our friends at We Love Dates and Your Tango posted an article that both men and women can relate to, Why You Shouldn’t Say ‘I Love You’ Too Soon. Just how soon is too soon? Follow your heart and wait a little while longer. Mashable brought us the news that the Are Your Interested mobile app has embraced social discovery.? This will be our topic at SxSW. Have you voted yet and given us a thumbs up? Click here to vote.

On Huffington Post, Bianca Bosker wrote an article about a new Facebook Report that lets you know how many of your friends are single. Curiosity killed the digital cat and I couldn’t resist. It’s filled with a whole lot of data, some which you just might want to keep to yourselves. How About We’s Date Report featured a great article, Do This When You Get Dumped, Says Science. Cyber-Dating Expert friend and Elle columnist E. Jean Carroll answers the question, Can You Find Love Online?

If you missed our Cyber Love Story of the Week, check out Doreen and Keith who met on OkCupid.

Many thanks to WCCO in Minneapolis, NPR’s All Things Considered for SmartPhones Apps Help More Singles Find The Boy (Or Girl) Next Door and the Washington Post for the wonderful interviews on mobile dating.

Our favorite quote this week is, “Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly.” – Rose Franken

Our friends at eHarmony are having a free Communication Weekend going on right now, so try their site and let us know if you get lucky in love.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you roam.

Julie and the Cyber-Dating Expert Team.

Julie Spira is a leading online dating expert, bestselling author, and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice, sign up for the Weekly Flirt newsletter, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter, and like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert

Finding Love on Your Cell Phone

Is it possible to find love from your mobile phone?

Within 24 hours after we completed the first season of Mobile Dating Bootcamp, I was contacted by the Washington Post as an expert in mobile dating for a featured story they were writing on the subject. With the rapid growth and popularity of mobile dating apps, their in-depth piece on the subject entitled, “Love on the run: the fast rise of mobile dating apps” appeared on the cover of the business section of the Sunday paper on August 19, 2012.

Franklin, one of our contestants, was more than happy to share his experience with the Washington Post. After all, he?s truly looking for his wife and is hoping that by using mobile dating apps, it will speed up his search.

Full story @Washington Post by Amrita Jayakumar

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At a swanky Los Angeles hotel in June, six single people sat before a roomful of industry executives to discuss that issue.

This annual conference is a gathering of the biggest players in the dating app business. The six participants had signed up for a first-of-its-kind mobile dating boot camp, organized by Julie Spira, an author and cyber-dating expert.

Their mandate was simple: Try out two apps for two weeks and provide honest feedback.

While developers collect their own statistics and user responses, this was the first time this sort of focus group was organized, she said.

Franklin Horn had never tried mobile dating before.

?I don?t think I would have started it on my own, and I?m in the software industry,? said Horn, 27, who works at a tech startup in Santa Monica. ?It?s a hard thing to put yourself out there.?

He used three apps: eHarmony, Skout and MeetMoi. While he didn?t go on any dates, Horn said he exchanged about 150 casual messages with a few women.

?Since I?m single and busy, I wanted to use it as a way to practice flirting and see the technology behind the apps,? he said.

Another participant, Joe, 30, from Chicago, described his experience in a blog.?With these apps it feels like, ?Hey, I?m in the area, I?m looking to hang out,? he wrote. ?You know what somebody?s intention is. It?s a little more explicit up front.?

Spira says that just like online dating, people should apply common sense with an app.

?You have to use intuition and act the way you would in real life,? she said. ?Like meeting in a public place.?

All the dating app users were clear that they?d prefer meeting someone the old-fashioned way, without technology. Even if they did use an app, they wanted to take the relationship from online to offline as soon as possible, said Spira, the cyber dating expert.

?I?m sure Mrs. Horn is out there somewhere,? Horn, the boot camp participant, said. ?The app is just a way to meet her.?

The next season of Mobile Dating Bootcamp will take place in January, 2013 in Las Vegas at the Internet Dating Conference. We?ll be casting contestants in October, 2012.

Julie Spira is an online dating and mobile dating expert and host of Mobile Dating BootCamp. She’s the CEO and founder of Cyber-Dating Expert and was an early adopter of online dating from dial-up to mobile. Julie creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene to shorten their search while looking for love online.? For more dating advice, sign up for the Weekly Flirt and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert

4th Anniversary Tribute ? The Joys and Perils of Cyber-Dating

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Today is a momentous day for me.

It?s a day of great reflection and a day of digital pride.

It was four years ago today on July 31, 2008, that I started writing my first book,?The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.

Four years later, on July 31, 2012, I?m now sending out my 15,000th tweet to 25,000+ loyal followers on twitter. I?m humbled. I?m grateful. I?m filled with joy. I want this digital milestone to be meaningful and I?m honored to share this story of a powerful and passionate reinvention you. My life changed dramatically four years ago. It?s an honor and joy to help singles find love on the Internet. It?s time to share my journey. I hope you enjoy the ride.

In the beginning

How did a broadcaster turned technology executive become an online dating expert?

It wasn?t a childhood dream of mine to be an online dating expert or create Cyber-Dating Expert. It was my dream as a young child to become a music radio DJ. I considered myself a ?musicologist,? listened to the radio non-stop and knew that was my calling. I was fortunate to have lived that dream as the first female DJ at a big FM rock station in Upstate New York, where I wanted my listeners to be enriched by sharing my favorite songs on the radio. I believed my listeners would be my forever friends. There was no such thing as BFFs, tweets, updates, and broadcasting was a unilateral. I spoke. People listened. That all changed with social media, where it?s now about the conversation and community. It appears I now have the digital gift of gab.

My love affair with technology started many years ago when I became a network executive. At RKO, we were the country?s first digital-delivered satellite radio network. I was, and still am a hopeful romantic and my life was filled with music and love. I had no idea that my future would include the marriage of love and technology. It makes perfect sense now, of course. I was an early adopter of the Internet and an early adopter of online dating. Why not marry the two things I was so passionate about?

Four Years Ago Today

So what exactly happened on July 31, 2008, and why did I feel the need to open up my entire personal life for people to read about and comment? Basically, I lost a bet at girls night out at Jazz Night at the Hollywood Bowl. It could have been as simple as flipping a coin. One could say I lost the bet. Other’s say I won.? I was sharing some of funny dating stories while passing my BlackBerry around to my married girlfriends to view photos of a date I was considering going on. The odd thing about this particular date was, his mother selected me on behalf of her son on Match.com. She said I was perfect for her never-married son. I found it quite odd that she was looking for love, while playing the role of wing-woman for her son.? Out of curiosity, I wanted to see how it would play out. That story ended up in Chapter 13 of my book, “The Perils of Cyber-Dating” in the story called, ?The Mother-in-Law.? We never met, but it made for humorous conversation.

Then the floodgates opened. I shared the story of the man who went berserk in a restaurant over 10 years earlier because he thought I looked like his recently deceased wife, the gentleman who told me graphic details of his colonoscopy while we were eating lunch, as well as the fairytale romances leading to marriage proposals. All of these stories were a result of online dating. Could I be alone, I wondered?

What we all realized on that important night was that singles everywhere were struggling to find love, both online and offline. These amusing dating stories weren?t unique to me. I had spent years perfecting the Irresistible Profile and helped singles throughout the U.S. shorten their search so they could ride into the digital sunset together. I knew I had a gift. I was told from my mentor that my storytelling skills from being a media personality could be transferred to literary works. I believed him because he believed in me.

When my girlfriends dared me to write a book, I laughed it off and said, “sure.” They were serious and I thought it was funny. However, I reflected to a day 13 years earlier when I decided to write a book about my online dating stories and came up with a the title of ?The Perils of Cyber-Dating.? This was as a result of being proposed to by a married man. That would be perilous, wouldn?t it? I shared the love for my book title with my girlfriends who all agreed it would be perfect. ?Of course someone must have written this book already,? I said to the girls. Then they made a bet with me. If this title had not been published, I must write the book. If it was already written, then being an author wasn?t in the cards for me. I agreed, thinking that I?d be off the hook. Certainly in all these years, there must have been others wanting to write about such perilous stories.

When I returned home, I received a call from my girlfriend who was determined to win the bet. I checked online. I checked on Amazon. Apparently no one had written The Perils of Cyber-Dating. However, as a marketing and communications strategist, I knew I?d need to have the corresponding domain name. I assumed someone was blogging under this title, or perhaps it was parked somewhere. I wasn?t sure how it would pan out. I jotted down chapter titles and a few stories and went to sleep exhausted but enthusiastic about writing the book I promised myself I’d do over a decade before.

The next day, I checked to see if perilsofcyberdating.com was available. Much to my surprise and joy, the domain name was available! ?How could this be?? I asked. Then I knew it was meant to be. I had hundreds of stories that I had collected from almost 15 years. I was on the Internet before most people even knew the Internet. I had been a charter member of Love@AOL before the days of Match.com, eHarmony, and mobile dating.

From my Heart to Print

And so my love affair with my first book began. I wrote. I edited. I reflected. I laughed. I cried. It was empowering, healing, cathartic and more. I knew my story had to be told.? There was no one else with such a unique perspective from dial-up to mobile. I knew I needed to help other singles and that humor and wit would shine along with my authenticity. The first agent I contacted told me that no one would be interested in anyone?s dating stories. Apparently he was wrong and didn?t see the future on how dating blogs and television dating shows would rise in popularity.

When I finished writing the manuscript, I created CyberDatingExpert.com as a place for singles and couples to share their online dating stories and to provide free dating advice for singles looking for love online. Readers started to submit stories for the Cyber Love Story of the Week and Peril of the Week features and commented with enthusiasm.

I remember how exciting it was to create my book cover. I had a vision of a girl getting ready for a date with a city background. The day my first copy of ?The Perils of Cyber-Dating? was delivered to my home. It was like giving birth. I was so very proud. I had received glowing advanced praise including Joan Rivers who said, ?Hilariously Funny! Singles of all ages need to read this book? and E. Jean Carroll from Elle magazine said, ?It?s Like Sex and the City in a Web 2.0 World.?

I started tweeting about my book?s progress using my social media marketing strategies and engaging like-minded singles leading up to my Valentine?s Day launch. On the day it was released, I was filled with tears of joy. ?The Perils of Cyber-Dating? became a best selling dating book in several categories. My passion for helping singles became known worldwide and I started coaching more and more singles every day by giving them the tools to be confident in the digital age.

Words can?t express how grateful I am to have been able to reach millions with my online dating advice. Every day I thank those who have supported me on my journey. Cyber-Dating Expert is now one of the top online dating advice sites on the Internet and has been nominated for numerous awards. I’ve been named “One of America’s Ultimate Experts” by Woman’s World magazine and “The Pioneer of Online Dating” by Cosmo. Our advice has been featured and quoted in and on over 450 stories around the world. I?ve had the opportunity to write for Betty Confidential, eHarmony, Huffington Post, JDate, Match, Your Tango, among others. It’s been an honor to have been quoted on ABC, CBS, Mashable, Men?s Health, and NBC and speak at the Internet Dating Conference.

In the Future

As online dating continues to grow and evolve with mobile dating, our team is at the forefront. Our mobile app, Dating Expert is celebrating its third year and our annual ?Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps? list is highly respected by journalists and singles. Our team created Mobile Dating BootCamp in 2012 and we’ll be casting a second season to be held in Las Vegas in 2013. I?m in the final stages of finishing my second book,?The Rules of Netiquette: How to Mind Your Manners on the Web as well as an exciting screenplay.

I was just a girl with a dream, a huge heart, and hundreds of stories, who happened to be an early adopter of online dating. I now have dreams of seeing my story on the big screen and riding off into my very own digital sunset. I have a feeling my dreams will become a reality.

My message to all of you is to follow your heart. Dream big and be open to the possibilities of a new beginning in both love and work. Don?t discard someone who isn?t perfect. None of us are. Be honest and authentic. Remember that patience is a virtue and the best things in life are worth waiting for. Your shelf life does not have an expiration date on it and you can ask for forgiveness and give love another chance. One of our featured couples in the Cyber Love Story of the Week found love on eHarmony at the age of 70. Find your passion and it will welcome you with open arms. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping me share the love every single day among 6 continents. I couldn?t have done it without you.

At the end of the digital day, I wish you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.

~Julie Spira

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Dating in a Mobile World [video]

What do you get when you match up 8 single daters and 8 mobile dating apps?

Hi, this is Julie Spira and I’ve created Mobile Dating Bootcamp, a social dating experience to help singles find love from the convenience of their mobile phones.

With over 14 million singles using mobile dating apps, we decided to put mobile to the test. Let’s see what the daters had to say.

For more videos, visit MobileDatingBootCamp.com and like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert


Cyber Love Links

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It’s time to take a moment and share some of our favorite articles about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World that we shared on Twitter and thank those for including Cyber-Dating Expert’s advice in their stories.

A huge thank you to our friends at Mashable who posted two stories, How Social Media Helps Romantic Relationships Thrive and 10 Dating Apps To Help You Find True Love. Both were tweeted over 1300 times each. Thank you from the bottom of my digital heart for including our Mobile Dating BootCamp in the story.

On Twitter, Kathleen Miles from Huffington Post alerted me to the new risque billboard on Sunset Boulevard for dating site Cougar Life, so I shared it on the LA Dating Advice column on Examiner in, Is Sunset Boulevard the New Home for Cougars? I’ll let you decide.

Thank you to Online Personals Watch for sharing and contributing to Dating in a Mobile World. Mobile Dating BootCamp contestant videos should be posted shortly and we’ll start casting for Season 2, to be held in Las Vegas. Best Background Checks posted Experts Reveal 7 Tips for Safer Online Dating,

If you missed the Magnetizing Love Telesummit, you can catch our 25 Twitter Secrets to Finding Love Online and catch up in a few minutes. Our friends at GalTime posted a great article, Getting Rid of Past Loves, which we had to share on Twitter. Sometimes it takes awhile to knock your ex of his or her pedestal. This article should help. We tweeted The Phoenix New Times article, The Seven Strangest Online Dating Sites and was surprised to see sites for dating with food allergies and dating a redhead.

You can share your dating stories in our Peril of the Week and remember our friends at Bad Online Dates and ABC’s 20/20 are looking for your videos on dating disasters, so keep your iPhone handy and start shooting away.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.

Julie Spira and the Cyber-Dating Expert Team.

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25 Twitter Secrets to Finding Love Online

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It was an honor and joy to be included with 45 relationship experts in the Magnetizing Love Telesummit. The best part of my conversation with Julie-Anne Shapiro was the live tweeting of the event, so if you missed the call, check out the 25 best tweets and feel free to retweet and share the love.

You can still sign up to listen to all of the recordings here.

1. Don’t look online to replace a lost love. Work on yourself first. #quote #juliespira #relationships #dating

2. Enjoy your singleness and know the journey starts with you before beginning online dating. #quote #juliespira #relationships

3. Explore the common values and spiritual growth of potential partners. #quote #juliespira #dating #relationships

4. Don’t think you know you’ll marry someone after 1 date, start a journey and take time. #quote #juliespira #relationships

5. Meeting someone new, take time and get to know them-family background, how they treat you. #quote #juliespira #relationships

6. Over 40 Million singles looking online for love. #quote #juliespira #onlinedating #dating

7. An irresistible online dating profile: great photos, like an ad for yourself.#quote #juliespira #onlinedating

8. For your online dating name use your passion and create interest i.e. pianobaby #quote #juliespira #onlinedating

9. Online dating profile should not be a novel length description–overwhelming, drama. #quote #juliespira #onlinedating

10. Online dating profile shouldn’t have photos of children, no sexy photos. #quote #juliespira #onlinedating

11. Online dating profile should include your passions, such as recent concert or movie. #quote #juliespira #onlinedating

12. Online dating profiles shouldn’t include cliches like beach walks State what makes you happy. #quote #juliespira #onlinedating

13. Taking online dates to offline starts with only a few emails but after a week move to phone. #quote #juliespira #onlinedating

14. Within a week of the phone call, meet the person in a public place. #quote #juliespira #onlinedating

15. Avoid texting as a way to make a date, do it on the phone. #quote #juliespira #onlinedating

16. Hearing their voice is important, so texting isn’t the best way. Phone is better. #quote #juliespira #dating

17. Googling someone can cause you to jump to conclusions cause everything isn’t accurate online. #quote #juliespira #dating

18. Telling someone you have Googled them makes you look like a stalker and puts them off. #quote #juliespira #dating

19. You don’t kiss and tell, you don’t Google and tell It becomes awkward. #quote #juliespira #dating

20. Don’t send a facebook friends request before or after a first date. #quote #juliespira #relationships

21. Keeping dates organized, spreadsheet of important facts. #quote #juliespira #onlinedating

22. You can color code your spreadsheet of dates for the ones you are most interested in. #quote #juliespira #onlinedating

23. Login to dating sites 1/2 hr 3 days a week, then check in every day. #quote #juliespira #onlinedating

24. Never discuss the ex, money issues-switch the conversation to other things. #quote #juliespira

25. Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam #quote #juliespira


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