If a picture tells a thousand words, how does this digital habit affect your dating and love life?
With over 200 million users and 20 million photos shared daily on Instagram, dating can bring authenticity for single daters who are looking for love online on their mobile phones. These days, it’s not unusual for singles to check out both Facebook and Instagram photos of potential dates so see their recent activity, favorite restaurants, what interests and passions they have, and to find out if they have friends in common.
Are you ready to hop onboard for a tutorial on photo love?
In a recent interview with the New York Post, I explained how to successfully date with the help of Instagram.
How to Find Love on Instagram
1. First find someone who interests you, and start following him or her.
2. Start liking a couple of his or her photos.
3. After a week or so, start commenting on the photos.
4. Finally, find your potential crush on Facebook and send him or her a private message.
New Mobile App Glimpse Helps Daters Find Love on Instagram
If you’d like to find a simple way to flirt and date on ‘Insta’ without approaching someone who isn’t single, there’s a new mobile dating app called Glimpse, which helps singles get to know each other with more than a swipe.
How it works, is you’ll sign up with your Instagram account and select a primary photo from your Instagram account or your Camera Roll on your mobile phone.
Then you can select nine of your favorite photos that describe your personality and you’re ready to go. Users can specify their age filters and sexual orientation to help find the best matches.
Once you’re signed up, they’ll send you profiles of people nearby first. Then you’ll start receiving profile matches from singles in other cities to expand your horizons. When you view a profile that interests you, swipe up to see their nine selected photos. Sure there are a lot of food shots, but if you’re a sushi lover, you just might find the perfect date based upon his or her photos. If you think you’ll click, tap on the smile button and your potential date will be notified and you can start chatting.
Elan Miller, co-founder and CEO of Glimpse says the reply rate to first contact is over 70%. I can tell you that number is huge as compared to most traditional online dating sites and many mobile dating apps. “Photos (of how we see the world) are really effective icebreakers. Instead of the generic “hi” or “pickup line” people have something natural to talk about. Early feedback has been the tone/environment of Glimpse is way different from anything else out there,” says Miller.
With over 200 billion photos now shared on Instagram, isn’t it time you gave it a shot for dating?
Would you use Instagram to check out a date or to actively pursue a relationship? Your comments are welcome.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She was an early adopter of Internet dating and coaches singles on the dating scene with her Irresistible Profiles programs. For more dating advice, sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.
As Tinder continues to take the world by storm, the feature included an interview with Tinder’s co-founder, Justin Mateen, as well as featured other mobile dating apps including eHarmony, JDate, Match, OkCupid, Grouper, Grindr, and Coffee Meets Bagel.
Mobile dating is now over a $200 million dollar industry. Are you wondering how it all works?
Watch the video below for highlights.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and mobile dating expert who was an early adopter of Internet dating. She created her first profile almost 20 years ago and coaches singles on the dating scene with her Irresistible Profiles programs and her Mobile Dating BootCamps. For more dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the Free Weekly Flirt newsletter.
Hi. I’m Julie Spira. Every year my team and I curate a list of some of the best and newest mobile dating apps. It’s time to grab your SmartPhones as we’re proud to announce the 4th annual Cyber Dating Expert “Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps” list.
As online dating continues to be embraced by singles of all ages, mobile dating apps have taken the spotlight in 2013.
A recent Pew report on Online Dating & Relationships looked at the impact of social networking and mobile dating on singles looking for love.
Pew reported that 7 percent of mobile phone apps users (representing 3 percent of all adults) say that they have used a dating app on their cell phone. The convenience of dating from your mobile phone will not only results in meeting more people, but also speeds up the process from initial contact to meeting in person.
Mobile dating has truly become a social dating experience, with many apps considered social dating, social networking and social discovery experiences.
Without further digital ado, we’re proud to present the “Cyber Dating Expert Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps of 2013” for your viewing and downloading pleasure.
This year we’ve added three new mobile dating apps, which were featured in our Mobile Dating BootCamp.
As Tinder celebrates its 1-year Anniversary, we’re happy to list their mobile app as our top choice for 2013. Tinder is now the fastest growing location-based mobile dating app and is becoming a household name. While early adopters were found on college campuses, now everyone from Lindsey Lohan to the former Miss USA, along with your neighbors as well can be found flirting on the Tinder app. During this year’s Mobile Dating BootCamp, just about every participant requested to use Tinder while looking for love online. Tinder reports that 54 percent of their members are between 18-24 and 31.6 percent are between 25-34.
How it works. Users download the mobile app on their iPhone or Android phones and connect through Facebook to create a profile. You can anonymously scroll through potential matches nearby. If there’s a mutual match, then you can start chatting in text message style directly through their app.
Why we like it: It’s simple to use, free, anonymous, and is the fastest growing mobile dating app. Tinder has given credibility to mobile dating as the way to meet in a digital world. It’s also a fun way to make new friends. You can view a variety of potential dates in a “hot or not” style and anonymously decide whether you’re interested in or not. Tinder boasts 400 million matches to date with approximately 4 million new matches per day. Download Android Download iOs
Let’s Date call itself the “instagam’ of dating. Users sign and create their date card through Facebook connect. Once your profile is created, you’ll have the ability to edit your profile if you don’t want it to mirror your Facebook profile. Let’s Date reports that 55 percent of their users are between 18 to 24 years old and 40 percent are between 24 and 35 years old.
How it works: Let’s date uses science to help match you with someone compatible on their mobile dating app. Users can click on “Yes” or “No, Thanks” to profiles they’ve been matched with. If there’s a mutual match, users can be notified by email to let you know that it’s time to start chatting with your digital crush. You can also speed up the process by sending a flirt to the person you’ve selected for $.99 in the iTunes store.They also have a “wingman” feature, which allows non-daters to view profile and share them with their single friends through email, SMS, or Twitter.
Why we like it: Its easy to create a profile for free and scroll through those that are sent to you. If you’re traveling you can change your location to the city you’d like to start dating in and fill up your date card before your arrival. Plus, you can link to your Facebook or Twitter accounts to create a more robust profile. Download iOs
For the fourth year in a row, Zoosk has made it to our “Top 10 Favorite Mobile Dating Apps.” Zoosk is a top mobile dating app for iPhone users and a top 10 overall grossing app in the iTunes store. More members, 55 percent are using the Android app as compared to 45 percent on iOS.
How it works: Users sign up for free, but if you pay for a subscription to Zoosk you’ll get unlimited winks and messages, full access to the ZSMS feature, can see who has viewed your profile, and you can chat with the connections you make. The cost of subscriptions are: 1 month for $29.95, 3 months for $19.98 per month, or 6 months for $12.49 per month.
Badoo is a free dating app and was launched in 2006. They have over 197 million members worldwide in 180 countries with over 41 languages available. Over 100,000 new mobile app users added every day. It’s a fun way to meet new friends and dates in a game-like environment.
How it works: Users can sign in through Facebook and use the service on the web, as well as on their mobile dating apps. Users can find singles with similar interests nearby to chat with and their “Encounters” game helps connect you with possible matches. Their premium paid service includes a “Spotlight” and “Rise Up” feature to be able to be seen by more members. With “Spotlight,” the member’s photo and brief profile info appear at the top of every main Badoo page within their area or region. “Rise Up” instantly puts the member’s profile at the top of the search results within their region. The “Super Powers” feature is a monthly service fee which gives users more control.
Why we like it: The added bonus of uploading videos.
PlentyOfFish has made it to our “Top 10 Favorite Mobile Dating Apps” list for the third year in a row. POF is one of the largest free dating sites in the world with over 2 million Americans logging on to the site each day. POF reports that 80 percent of people who access POF from a mobile device do so from their mobile Apps.
According to comScore, PlentyOfFish has captured 67 percent of the market share among mobile dating apps in the U.S. The app is completely free and is available in five languages, including English, French, German, Spanish, and Portuguese.
How it works: Users sign up for free and can search for singles from their mobile app using new filters such as education, height, and body type. Their Android app has a “Places” feature to provides users with a list of potential date hot spots. PlentyOfFish has also created a premium feature called “View Interaction” which tells singles if they’ve already interacted with a user; messaged back and forth, added each other to their Favorites list and viewed each others’ profiles. This ensures you’re not wasting time messaging someone you’ve already reached out to Users can also search for singles from their mobile app using new filters such as education, height, and body type.
Why we like it: PlentyOfFish has always understood the importance of singles meeting face to face. Their new “Date Night” feature will tell other singles in your area that you’re available for a date this weekend. The feature resets itself every week. Download Android Download iOs
Meet Moi calls themselves the mobile matchmaker and states clearly that they are not an online dating service, and fall into the category of social discovery. Meet Moi does the searching for you and sends you a notification of a compatible date nearby to your mobile phone. They matches users with one another based on preferences and proximity by leveraging uniquely mobile capabilities like location awareness and push communication channels.
How it works: Users can sign up for free with features including creating a profile, sending winks, and replying to messages. Users receive a push notification when there’ s a match nearby. If you choose to accept the match, you can click on “Has Potential” to show interest. If your match likes you back, you can chat for up to 60-minutes before deciding if you want to meet in person. Premium users can chat with all users and see who’s viewed their profile.
Why we like it: Their “Wingman” feature encourages group dating and makes introductions for groups of people, so if you’re hanging out with your friends, you can meet a group of other people nearby. They’re also available on the mobile web. Facebook Connect allows users to see if they have any Facebook friends in common. Download Android Download iOs
Skout is one of the earliest mobile dating apps and their iPhone app was launched in 2008. Their mobile app is a global network for meeting new friends or dates in over 100 countries around the world.
How it works: Skout is free to download with features include chatting and exchanging photos or notes Users can see who has checked them out. The app identifies singles in your immediate vicinity and gives you the opportunity to flirt and meet up with them. Though the app is free to use, members have the option of purchasing virtual gifts, premium memberships, or sending “wink bombs” which reach up to 500 potential sweethearts in your area at once. Their premium model, Skout Pro is priced at $6.99.
Why we like it: Skout now has two separate and distinct communities for teens and adults, making it easy to safely make new friends. They’ve tackled the safety issue well. Download Android Download iOs
For the third year in a row, Grindr has made it to our “Top 10 Favorite Mobile Dating Apps.” Their mobile app launched in 2009 and they’ve been a leader in the mobile app only service. Grindr has 7 million male users in 192 countries around the world. The average user spends 2 hours a day on the app and logs in 8 times a day. Over 200 million photos are sent every day from guys to guys using their mobile apps.
How it works: Grindr is a location-based app where users can create a profile for free, upload photos, chat, and meet. Users can view 100 profiles of men in their area. Premium users of Grindr-Xtra have an advertising-free service and can receive push notifications even when the app is closed. Other benefits of Grindr-Xtra include the swipe feature to easily scan through profiles. The premium service costs between $12.99/mo. to $64.99/yr.
Why we like it: It’s been the most innovative and successful niche based mobile dating app in the world. With 1 billion chat messages being sent in a given month, need we say more? Download Android Download BlackBerry Download iOs
OkCupid is free and makes it easy to access the web version of their site on your mobile phone, as well as providing a mobile-only app that is location-based and simple to use.
How it Works: Users can sign in from Facebook or directly on the mobile app to find singles in your area. Accessing their “Locals” feature will show you people in your vicinity. The app allows you to swipe right to “like” a user or swipe to the left to “take a pass.” If it’s a mutual match, you’ll find out immediately and will receive an email. Users then can visit their profile or send a message. Other features you can access from your mobile phone include viewing the famous OkCupid questions, saving a profile as a favorite, viewing your visitors, and ranking your potential date from 1-5 stars. Each user’s profile will state your Match, friend, and enemy percentages similar to what you’ll find on the web-based site. Upgrading to A-List, which includes anonymous browsing is an additional fee.
Why we like it: Having the percentages on a profile photo makes it easy for those who are intrigued by the computer algorithms to take a second look at a potential date.
How About We now provides an online meet-and-greet with the goal of being an offline dating service for both singles and couples. Their mobile app lets you view full screen photos and dates of people in your area. Their premise is to connect online and meet offline at user created events.
How it works: Members can sign up for free and post ideas for dates. This helps speed up the process as often a member will have tickets for a specific concert or sporting event and will list the date/time of the potential date. You’ll also receive real-time notifications with recommended dates. To view your visitors, you can invite three friends for free to join the site, or upgrade to the premium membership. To send or read emails, you’ll need to pay for a membership which runs from $8.99/mo. to $34.99/mo.
Why we like it: How About We has partnered with AARP for the large number of single boomers over 50 who are looking for love online. AARP members can receive 50% off their membership. It makes members think about a fun actual date and creativity is the key. You’ll find more than just suggested beach walks from their busy and active members. Plus their blog, The Date Report really rocks!
Newcomer Coffee Meets Bagel (CMB) was created by three sisters Arun, Dawoon, and Soo Kang. CMB has won the hearts of many singles looking for love online. Originally a web-based service in a few cities in the U.S., Coffee Meets Bagel launched their iOs app in August of 2013.
How it Works: Every day at noon, you’ll receive one match from a friend-of-a friend, or one “bagel.” Users sign up through Facebook to create their profile and can “Like” or “Pass” on their bagels. If you missed one of your bagel dates, you can request to be rematched. Users can visit their bean shop to buy coffee beans for upgraded services at the cost of $4.99 to $99.99, but can also easily win free beans by recommending a bagel to a friend. Since the service is new, users might not get a bagel match every day, but we have our eyes on this site and hope that it continues to grow in membership.
Why we like it: Users look forward to receiving their daily “bagel” at lunch time. CMB believes your dating life, including name, birthday and email should be private, that your friends are the best conduits for your dates, and that meeting quality people doesn’t have to be so awkward or complicated. It’s also like a fun game to receive coffee beans when you respond to a match. Download on iOs
STILL OUR FAVORITES: These top web-based dating sites have terrific mobile apps that are worthy of downloading on your smartphones to speed up your search.
eHarmony is responsible for over 1 million people getting married since they launched in 2000. That’s a number to brag about. Their mobile app downloads surpassed the 5-million mark over the summer. eHarmony reports that users tend to access their mobile apps 5+ times throughout the day, compared to twice a day on the computer. Over 40 percent of their user registrations take place in the mobile environment. The app is free to download where you can sign up, fill out your profile and questionnaire, upload photos from Facebook, receive daily matches, and communicate for free on specialty weekends. Paid members have the same functionality as the subscriber’s web version, where you can view photos, go through guided communication, see when a match last logged in, and read/write emails. Download Android Download iOS Download iPad
Match.com was launched in 1995 and is available in 24 countries around the world and in 15 different languages. Their mobile app is a service for paid subscribers on more platforms than any other app. Match reports that more than 40 percent of user logins come from their mobile apps. Users can wink, create and view profiles, upload up to 24 photos, send and receive emails, add users to their “Favorites” and rate their “Daily Matches.” Other Premium features include the popular “Who’s Viewed Me” feature. Users can sign up on Facebook and also be notified of upcoming Stir Events on their mobile app. Download Android Download iOs Download BlackBerry
Previous Top 10 Mobile Dating apps lists can be viewed here.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and mobile dating expert. She was an early adopter of Internet dating, having created her first profile almost 20 years ago. Today, she coaches singles on the dating scene and is the host of Mobile Dating BootCamp: Dating in a Mobile World.
A new study from Pew Research shows that online dating has risen in popularity. While most of us realize this from the everyday conversations we’re having with singles on the dating scene, we really need to credit the introduction and rise of mobile dating apps for the increase in acceptance to digital dating.
When Pew conducted their research study in 2005, more singles hid the fact that they were dating online. Eight years ago, 29% thought that dating on the Internet was just something those who were desperate had to do. Fortunately, the number has shrunk to 21% today.
So who’s dating the most online?
According to the study, single men and women from 25-34 are the most popular demographic for Internet daters.
Other important statistics from the survey include:
- 42% know someone who has used online dating
- 29% know someone who has been in a long-term relationships or marriage with someone they’ve met online
- 66% of online daters have gone out on a date with someone they met on a dating site
- 11% of adult American Internet users have used online dating sites
- 38% of those who are “single and looking” have used online dating sites and mobile dating apps.
While these numbers continue to rise from Pew’s survey in 2005, over half of those who have dated online have had a bad experience. From misrepresentation of age, weight, marital status and more, we wish there was more truth-in-advertising with Internet dating.
Along with looking for love online, the Pew survey showed that many still felt the need to research their past relationships online. It’s hard not to be curious about what your ex is up to when he or she continues to post photos on Facebook or update their status on Twitter publicly. Suddenly social media makes it easy to do an impromptu background search to see if you’re former flame is single or in a relationship. The study showed that 30% of social networking users were researching those they were interested in dating. This proves that singles really need to make sure they keep their Facebook pages and date-friendly.
On Facebook Love Stories, we teach singles how to keep their Facebook pages more dateable. Think about it, your Linkedin Profile needs to help you find your dream job by being professional. It would make sense then that your Facebook page needs to reflect your single status.
*Hint: It might be time to do some digital housekeeping to remove photos of you with your kissing cousin or ex BF or GF.
At the end of the digital day, we’re creating a permanent digital footprint whenever we post. If you’re single, make sure you’re reflecting the real you, not the idealized person you think your date is dreaming to meet.
Julie Spira is a top Online Dating Expert and was an early adopter of Internet dating. She’s been helping singles on the dating scene for 20 years with her Irresistible Profiles. For more online dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the Free Weekly Flirt newsletter.
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We’re jumping for joy at Cyber-Dating Expert headquarters as we’re celebrating the five-year anniversary of our online dating advice site, CyberDatingExpert.com. Although we’ve been helping singles find love online for almost 20 years, the launch of our site catapulted our services to the forefront in the Internet dating industry.
At this half-decade milestone, it’s time for us to take a moment or two and reflect on the past year and thank those who have made us proud to be in the digital love business and remain the go-to source for online dating expert advice.
Irresistible Coaching - Our signature online dating profiles and dating coaching has resulted in many love-birds who are riding into the digital sunset together. From eHarmony to JDate, Tinder to Facebook, we’ve held the hands of many singles before, during, and after their dates. It was a huge pleasure and joy to help several media personalities with their online dating journey, including Sirius-XM’s David Nelson on the Steve Malzberg Show and CBS Radio’s Kim, from the Jim and Kim Show who both took the plunge for the very first time on Match.com. You can listen to the segments by clicking on the links above.
It’s with great enthusiasm to share that we’re in the middle of shooting a feature film where online dating expert Julie Spira is the real-life dating coach of an MTV reality star as he looks for love online. We hope to watch this on the big screen next year. Can we say Red Carpet?
Irresistible Profiles – Our signature online dating profile services help you when you need some extra hand-holding. Our Going Steady and Totally in Love Programs, include creating an irresistible online dating profile to help you shorten the search and ride into the digital sunset together. A New Pew Research study revealed that 32% of women and 17% of men actually enlisted help with their profiles.
In the News – We were interviewed many times in the media, from holiday dating to the Manti Teo fake girlfriend story and of course non-stop with Valentine’s coverage. When Martha Stewart joined Match, we chimed in with advice on how to beef up her profile on the FOX News morning show, Good Day LA. Special thanks to the New York Post, Prevention magazine, Men’s Fitness, NBC News, AARP, Bottom Line Personal, Mercury News, Fashionista, Her Campus, WTOP Radio, Marsha Collier of the Computer & Technology Show, Detroit Free Press, USA Today, Boston Globe, Huffington Post, BBC, eHarmony, Healthy Living, Shape magazine, HLN-TV, Dr. Drew on HLN, CNN, NBC – St. Louis, FOX News – Las Vegas, Prevention magazine, WLW-Radio, Contra-Costa Times, Pro Football Central, Singular City, Kixi – Seattle, Citibank’s Women & Co., Huffington Post, Tonya Hall Radio, Voice of America, WCCO Radio, Ventura County Star, Tech Talk Radio, Hawaii Reporter, Larry Magid, CBS News, Glamour, My Fox Parents, Mashable, LA Weekly, CCTV, Metro News, FOX News magazine, Business Insider, ABC News, Pittsburgh Tribune News, Home & Family on the Hallmark Channel, TodayShow.com, WGN, Christian Science Monitor, iVillage, Look Better Online, Jennings Wire, She Knows, Mobile Dia, San Francisco Chronicle, The Daily Beast, Game n Guide, San Antonio Press News, Match.com’s Happen magazine, Hawaii Reporter, Sci-Fi Today, ABC News – Philadelphia, Babble, Your Tango’s Online Dating BootCamp, Betty Confidential, NY Daily News, Toledo News, Al Jazeera America, Washington Post, Daily Collegian, Take Part Live on PivotTV, and the list goes on. You can check out these stories in our Press Room.
On the Newsstand – Many thanks to Glamour magazine for including our online dating advice in their April issue – Stop Googling Your Dates, Elle magazine in the August issue – The Social Stigma of Online Dating, Men’s Health in the February Issue, Boston Globe, New York Post, and in USA Today twice, among others.
In-Real-Life – It was an honor to host and curate Online Dating BootCamp and Mobile Dating BootCamp at the Internet Dating Conference, iDate and to be a presenter at the iDate awards. Bloomingdales named Julie their dating expert for Makeup-101: Meet Your Beauty Match and Facebook called on Julie to become their dating expert. With the collaboration of Facebook, we launched Facebook Love Stories on Valentine’s Day to highlight those couples who met on Facebook. We hope you take a peek at FacebookLoveStories.com. A huge thank you to DatingAdvice.com who named Julie their Online Dating Expert. We hope you read some of the dating advice articles. It was a thrill to be a panelist at Digital LA’s Love Goes Digital, Social Media Club’s: Social Media and Dating Online: It’s Big Business, and at Social Media Week. We hosted the “Pimp Your Profile” seminar with Hurry Date in Los Angeles, and more.
As we look into the future, plan to see more of us featured on television and film, with several big surprise announcements in store in the coming months.
As always, we wish you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.
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As one who has studied and coached singles on the intersection of love and technology for 20 years, it was an honor to be called upon by behavior and relationship reporter Sharon Jayson for her in-depth story in Love 2.0: The Tech Effect on Romance.
Appearing as the cover story of the USA Today Weekend edition, Jayson wrote about a recent study conducted by online dating sites JDate and Christian Mingle in which 1500 singles aged 21-50 shared their thoughts on how mobile phone technology and texting when it comes to matters of the heart.
The USA Today article makes a bold statement. Jayson reports that “Cellphones and texting have blown up the dating culture.”
With the growth of smartphones, popularity of unlimited texting and data plans, it’s no wonder that singles are relying on their mobile phones to set up a date, cancel a date, make dinner reservations, order theater tickets, and yes, unfortunately break up.
In my conversation with Jayson, she asked me how long I believed a person should wait to return a text message. In my expert opinion, I thought 1-4 hours is polite.
The survey showed a surprising amount of singles (25%) believed that a text from a potential date or romantic partner should be returned within one hour. One hour? Think about it. If you’re in a meeting, on a conference call, on an airplane, or your phone is charging, does that mean you’re not interested? My big concern is the growing anxiety associated with response time for text messages, which appears to be shrinking. Another 25% thought 1-3 hours would be appropriate, followed by 12% who believed 4-6 hours would be fine. Responding immediately came in fourth place at 10%.
Does this mean your significant should go into the digital doghouse if you don’t hear from him or her in 1-6 hours?
When I was asked about my thoughts on breaking up in a text message, I was completely against it. However, the survey found that 59% might break up via text and even 24% had no problem breaking up with someone they were exclusively involved with.
Tone doesn’t come through in a text, and that can lead to misunderstandings, especially when a comment gets misconstrued and “your text may not get returned,” suggests cyber-relations and netiquette expert Julie Spira of Los Angeles. She’s author of the 2009 book The Perils of Cyber-Dating, which includes a chapter on netiquette.
The risk of misinterpreted texts is especially high in new relationships.
“There’s so little you know at that point,” Spira says. “You make all these digital assumptions that it’s one-size-fits-all — and it’s not.”
Sure, many celebrities have done so, including Russell Brand who notified Katy Perry of their divorce in a text message, but is it right?
Would you break up with someone in a text message? Your comments are welcome.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating. She writes about the marriage of love and technology and coaches singles on the dating scene. Follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.
With Tinder becoming the fastest growing mobile dating app since its launch last October, it’s no wonder that everyone is checking out this fun and flirty free dating app.
When New York Magazine’s The Cut reported that 2012’s Miss USA, the gorgeous Nana Meriwether, had a profile on Tinder, people started to wonder why such a beauty needed to resort to creating an online dating profile. Most of the media joined in and the story became viral.
This actually bothered me a lot. It gave the impression that online dating and mobile dating apps are just for those who can’t find a date on their own. I couldn’t disagree more.
Meriwether shared with The Cut, that she’s been a member of Tinder since April, but she doesn’t take online dating very seriously, and only browses Tinder while hanging out with her girlfriends.
In the article, Meriwether what many singles in New York are frustrated with, that dating is just hard, even in a big city with so many options.
“Here’s the thing about dating in New York: It doesn’t exist,” she tells NY Magazine. “There’s so much going on in the city, there are so many distractions that people just forget to go on a second date.”
Tinder makes online dating more fun and more of a social experience. Like many others, Meriwether isn’t actually dating on Tinder, but she’s looking at men and even checking off a few that she liked.
Meriwether told The Cut, “I’m like, ‘Yeah, of course.’ Even pageant-title-holders get lonely.” Even though she’s approved a few profiles, she hasn’t actually gone on an online date.
During my most recently held Mobile Dating BootCamp, four out of six singles used the Tinder mobile dating app to find a date or love, but mostly out of curiosity to find out what the rage was all about. One of the daters actually did meet someone from Tinder. Others felt it was more for hooking up and deciding if someone was attractive or not.
Are you one of the millions of people using Tinder? Do you find it to be a fun game or do you think you can meet someone from the app.
Julie Spira is a top online dating expert and was a very early adopter of Internet dating. She’s the host of Mobile Dating BootCamp and Online Dating BootCamp. Julie creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene and is the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating. For more online dating advice, sign up for the free Weekly Flirt and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.
With online dating, we’ve been told it’s all about the photo, as both men and women are visual.
Today, our friends at OkCupid have launched their Crazy Blind Date mobile app, where you go back to the basics of when your grandmother fixed you up, along with a technology twist.
In honor of the launch, you’ll feel a bit naked when you log on to OkCupid today, as the site celebrates “Love is Blind Day.” OkCupid has removed all ten million photos on their members’ profiles to create awareness of their new app.
Sam Yagan, OkCupid founder and Cyber-Dating Expert friend says, “People will say that Crazy Blind Date is too crazy.” He adds, “But for a whole generation of young singles, it’s going to be a great adventure, and a great compliment to online dating.”
One thing we know for sure, is that mobile dating does speed up the process to meet someone IRL. In our recent Mobile Dating BootCamp, several of the participants used OkCupid’s mobile app and other mobile dating apps to try to find love from the convenience of their mobile phones. This app could help you if you’re looking for a last minute date or don’t want to be dateless on Valentine’s Day.
OkCupid says that Crazy Blind Date takes less than a minute of work:
- Download the Crazy Blind Date app for iPhone or Android
- Choose which nights this week you want to go on dates.
- Pick your favorite bar or coffee shop.
- Go on with your day; Crazy Blind Date does the rest.
Users are encouraged to share their dates on Twitter with the hashtag of #CrazyBlindDate and fees for the dates will apply.
Are you ready to go back to blind dating?
Julie Spira is a top online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She’s the host of Online Dating BootCamp and Mobile Dating BootCamp. Julie creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice, follow @Juliespira on Twitter and at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.
The 2012 list of the 10 Best Dating Apps selected by CyberDatingExpert.com now includes social discovery apps, which are becoming the new trend for dating and social networking. With the release of the iPhone 5, more singles than ever can have the opportunity to meet more quickly and on-the-fly. GPS or location-based dating apps are no longer for just hookups anymore.
According to Juniper Research, the mobile dating market is expected to be worth $2.3 billion by 2016. Earlier this year, online dating expert Julie Spira held the first-ever Mobile Dating Bootcamp to help singles find love more quickly and from the convenience of their mobile phones.
Since last year, the popularity of social discovery apps are taking center stage and most apps let you sign up directly from their Facebook page, so without further digital ado, here’s our list of the best mobile dating apps for 2012.
The 2012 List
1. Badoo - Android, BlackBerry, iOS and Windows Phones
Badoo has a community of over 150 million people worldwide using their mobile app. In March of 2012, they officially launched in the U.S. Free users can contact up to 10 people a day. Premium users can use “Superpower” features including Spotlight, where you can be featured more prominently, and “Spotlight”, which enables you to rise to the top of a search listing.
2. MeetMoi – Android and iOS
MeetMoi’s mobile app was first launched in 2010. Over three million users of this popular app can use their free services, including creating a profile, sending winks, and replying to messages. Users receive a push notification when there’ s a match nearby. If they choose to accept the match, they can chat for up to 60-minutes before deciding if they want to meet in person. Premium users can chat with all users and see who’s viewed their profile. Facebook Connect allows users to see if they have any Facebook friends in common. Their new “Wingman” feature makes introductions for groups of people, taking advantage of the new trend of group dating.
3. OkCupid – Ok Locals – Android and iOS
OkCupid’s Locals launched in 2011 to help singles meet in-real-life. Their location-based app combines a Twitter-like broadcast feature with a FourSquare type location database. Users can broadcast their intentions, such as meeting at a bar or a sporting event, which will appear on the mobile phones of singles near by with like-minded interests. Singles can meet people near by and receive suggestions from their database. It’s flirting on-the-fly. Although two-thirds of their mobile users activate the GPS-positioning feature, users do have the ability to turn off the GPS functionality.
4. Grindr – Android, BlackBerry, iOS
Grindr is the #1 location-based mobile only app for gay, bi and curious guys with over four million users in 192 countries around the world. Over 1.1 million users log on to the Grindr app on a daily basis. Free members can view 100 guys in their area. Grindr Xtra, the premium paid version features a push notification even if the app is closed, has an online only view to see who’s currently online and does not include banner ads. Other premium features include “Profile Swipe,” where you use your left finger to display the next guy or right finger to view the previous profile, and the ability to view 300 profiles in the area.
5. Zoosk – Android, iOS, and web-based app
Zoosk is the top grossing social networking app in Apple’s iTunes store. Their service is available in 25 languages with members in over 70 countries. Since last year, Zoosk’s mobile traffic on HTML5 and mobile apps has increased by 148%, with 15% of their users engaging through their mobile apps. More members (55%) are using the Android app as compared to iOS (45%).
6. Plenty of Fish – Android, iOS, Windows
Plenty of Fish launched their mobile app in 2012. To date, over 900,000 people use POF apps each day in the United States. POF generates over 5 billion pageviews/month and 70% of their members who accessed POF.com did so from a mobile device. The app is completely free and is available in five languages, including English, French, German, Spanish, and Portuguese. POF has jumped on the local events bandwagon and sends push notifications of events in their members’ local area. Their Android app has a “Places” feature to provides users with a list of potential date hot spots.
7. Match Mobile – Android, BlackBerry, iOS, Windows 7, Palm, Web-based app
Match mobile was launched in 2007 as a mobile web feature. They’re available on a wide variety of platforms, as well as an HTML5 site to provide access to iOS devices. Free features allow members to wink, create and view profiles, and add users to their “Favorites.” In September of 2012, they created their Stir events mobile site for premium users. Other Premium features include reading and writing emails, and the “Who’s Viewed Me” feature. Users can sign up on Facebook and Android users can say “No Thanks” as well as view an enhanced photo gallery.
8. eHarmony - Android, BlackBerry, iOS, and iPad
The eHarmony iPhone app was launched in August, 2010, but what makes them stand out on the list is their stunning eHarmony HD iPad app. In May of 2012, eHarmony added retina support for their iPad app. An average of 471, 338 mobile sessions take place among their apps every day, a significant growth since 2011. Free service included the ability to sign up and complete their relationship questionnaire, as well as receive daily matches. Premium members can view their matches’ photos, send and receive email, and see when a match last logged on. In October, they will be launching a new enhanced look and feel for their mobile apps.
9. MeetMe – Android and iOS (Social Discovery App)
MeetMe is a leading social network and social discovery app for meeting new people. Although not entirely a dating app, it’s the #1 top grossing Android app with over 40 million members worldwide and one-million daily active users in the U.S. MeetMe reports that 60% of their traffic comes from mobile with an even distribution of men and women. The app is free to use with features including “Locals” to find singles close by and “Ask Me.” Premium services include the ability to purchase credits to supercharge the social discovery experience, including featuring a photo in a spotlight bar. Users can sign up on Facebook. The app is now available in Spanish and Portuguese.
10. Tagged – Android, BlackBerry, iOS, Windows mobile (Social Discovery App)
Tagged is a social network and social discovery app to meet new people, make new friends and even find love. Their mobile app has been downloaded over six million times with over 300 million profiles to browse. Free membership allows for unlimited messaging, chatting, winking, and advanced people browsing, both worldwide and locally.Premium members can buy gold, send gifts and play in-app games. Users can login on Facebook and play an online game or share their interests. Tagged was listed in the Forbes “Top-100 Up-and-Coming Companies” in 2011.
Honorable mentions – Social Discovery honorable mentions this year go to Singles Around Me and Are You Interested. Singles Around Me differentiates itself from other mobile apps because they are geo-location centric and use maps in addition to distance. They’ve had over 1 million downloads and we give them a thumbs up for addressing privacy issues. With their “Approximate Location” singles can opt to find out where other members are in a 3-6 mile radius of their location, hide their location entirely, or show their exact location. Are You Interested rebranded their mobile dating app to a social discovery app in August of 2012. They have over 6 million mobile app users and are focusing on friendship and dating based on users with similar interests
Is your favorite mobile dating app on the list? If not, feel free to add it to the comments.
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Is it possible to find love from your mobile phone?
Within 24 hours after we completed the first season of Mobile Dating Bootcamp, I was contacted by the Washington Post as an expert in mobile dating for a featured story they were writing on the subject. With the rapid growth and popularity of mobile dating apps, their in-depth piece on the subject entitled, “Love on the run: the fast rise of mobile dating apps” appeared on the cover of the business section of the Sunday paper on August 19, 2012.
Franklin, one of our contestants, was more than happy to share his experience with the Washington Post. After all, he’s truly looking for his wife and is hoping that by using mobile dating apps, it will speed up his search.
Full story @Washington Post by Amrita Jayakumar
At a swanky Los Angeles hotel in June, six single people sat before a roomful of industry executives to discuss that issue.
This annual conference is a gathering of the biggest players in the dating app business. The six participants had signed up for a first-of-its-kind mobile dating boot camp, organized by Julie Spira, an author and cyber-dating expert.
Their mandate was simple: Try out two apps for two weeks and provide honest feedback.
While developers collect their own statistics and user responses, this was the first time this sort of focus group was organized, she said.
Franklin Horn had never tried mobile dating before.
“I don’t think I would have started it on my own, and I’m in the software industry,” said Horn, 27, who works at a tech startup in Santa Monica. “It’s a hard thing to put yourself out there.”
He used three apps: eHarmony, Skout and MeetMoi. While he didn’t go on any dates, Horn said he exchanged about 150 casual messages with a few women.
“Since I’m single and busy, I wanted to use it as a way to practice flirting and see the technology behind the apps,” he said.
Another participant, Joe, 30, from Chicago, described his experience in a blog.“With these apps it feels like, ‘Hey, I’m in the area, I’m looking to hang out,’ he wrote. “You know what somebody’s intention is. It’s a little more explicit up front.”
Spira says that just like online dating, people should apply common sense with an app.
“You have to use intuition and act the way you would in real life,” she said. “Like meeting in a public place.”
All the dating app users were clear that they’d prefer meeting someone the old-fashioned way, without technology. Even if they did use an app, they wanted to take the relationship from online to offline as soon as possible, said Spira, the cyber dating expert.
“I’m sure Mrs. Horn is out there somewhere,” Horn, the boot camp participant, said. “The app is just a way to meet her.”
The next season of Mobile Dating Bootcamp will take place in January, 2013 in Las Vegas at the Internet Dating Conference. We’ll be casting contestants in October, 2012.
Julie Spira is an online dating and mobile dating expert and host of Mobile Dating BootCamp. She’s the CEO and founder of Cyber-Dating Expert and was an early adopter of online dating from dial-up to mobile. Julie creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene to shorten their search while looking for love online. For more dating advice, sign up for the Weekly Flirt and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert