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Mobile Dating: Match.com Gets Digital Facelift with Match 3.0

There’s good news for daters to make it easier to find love from their mobile phones. Today Match.com released their long-awaited and very user-friendly Match 3.0 for iPhone users. The message is very clear. The success of finding love online is all in the hands of your mobile phone.

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What’s New in Match 3.0?

The Match 3.0 mobile differs from their previous mobile app, as it no longer emulates the desktop version of the online dating site. The new app now includes a “Discover” page, where you’ll find two new features, “Stream” and “Mixer. The “Stream” feature allows you to scroll through many profiles with multiple photos of the daters based on location. You’ll see a familiar style as each profile has a cover photo, which reminds you of Facebook. You can easily send a message to the person who captures your eye as you scroll down through a stream of potential matches. There are also multiple places for you to upload photos directly on the app.

The new “Mixer” will look familiar to mobile dating users, as it may remind you of Tinder. Users can view a single profile and now swipe left to take a pass or swipe right to give your potential date the thumbs up to start communicating. The swipe-effect is now becoming a prominent feature for many mobile dating apps.

Match reports that over 55% of their members are using their mobile app to send emails, with 50% of their signups come from mobile. As a result, for the first time, they’re allowing users to sign up on the mobile phone, as compared to using the desktop version. They’ve now prominently displayed their membership fees along with the features for those ready to pull out their credit card to pay.

At the end of the digital day, we’re living in a swiping world when it comes to finding love on your mobile phone.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She was an early adopter of the Internet and creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene. Julie is the host of Mobile Dating BootCamp and Online Dating BootCamp.

Dating in a Tinder World

Tinder, now into its second year has captured the hearts of millions and has a flame that seems to be burning hot. Once suggested as a hook up app, Tinder is now a social discovery and dating app that’s responsible for many relationships. Recently, Tinder was estimated at a value of $5 billion. That’s a big number for the new kid in town. They’re also now validating celebrity profiles, because even many in Hollywood have jumped on the Tinder bandwagon.

So how does one find love on the fastest growing mobile dating app?

Finding love on your mobile phone has become all the rage. We no longer have to go home to check our inboxes to see if there’s been an email received by a potential suitor. I believe the reason that Tinder is so successful is because it’s so simple to use.

1. Singles download the mobile app to their phone and sign up through Facebook. The app will grab your profile and some photos, of which you can edit to your liking and you’re ready to start swiping left or right to find your dream match.

2. Make sure you use the filters available to select your age range, distance, and preference of meeting a man or a woman.

3. When you swipe to the right or click on the “heart” icon, you’ve accepted the profile as a potential match and lets you know that you’re a mutual match and can start chatting privately. When you swipe to the left or click on the “x” icon, you anonymously take a pass on the profile.

4. Those who are serious about finding a relationship, should take the time to read the profile by clicking on the “i” icon to see shared interests from Facebook and also see if you have mutual friends in common.

5. Tinder sends you a push notification if you receive a message from a match or if you’re a mutual match so you can start chatting privately.

6. If someone is bothering you on Tinder, you can block their profile or report it.

Is it a game or are you dating?

It’s quite simple, but how do those get out of the frenzy game approach? After all, it does give you a choice to “keep playing.”

Those who are having fun with the app or are using it as a distraction at lunch, may be taking a more voyeuristic approach to see if they’re a mutual match or not. Sure it can boost your ego, but if you’re not taking the relationship from online to offline, plain simply, you’re not dating.

In a recent conversation with two of the co-founders, Sean Rad and Justin Mateen at the LA Tech Summit, Rad explained that when they started Tinder, they had the fundamental belief that in a couple of years, the computer will be extinct and every application will be on the mobile phone. This is a huge shift in social behavior and Tinder is riding this wave.

My hairdresser met her boyfriend on Tinder. I know many successful relationships that credit Tinder for helping them to find love from the convenience of their mobile phones. I’m helping singles who are connecting on Tinder with the dating process and the trend is going to continue to rise.

Is there Tinder Anxiety Disorder?

But can someone suffer from Tinder anxiety disorder? What happens if you swipe the wrong way? A single man from Los Angeles called me with this very dilemma. He swiped to the left in error and had meant to swipe right. He was quite upset because he really liked this girl’s profile. He managed to find her on Facebook and wrote her a lengthy email on Facebook to let her know he swiped the wrong way and was hoping that she had swiped to the right and would remember him. He didn’t hear back. When you’re playing the game of Tinder, I caution you not to rush into the process and be caught up in a swiping frenzy.

Just like those who thought online dating was something to be hush-hush about ten years ago, those who are embracing Tinder and other mobile dating apps are finding this an efficient way to date, while having fun in the process. As with all dating sites and apps, you must state your dating goals and intentions. After you start chatting with someone for a while, it’s time to meet in person. Even if there’s not a love connection, you just might have made a new friend in the process.

Are you using the Tinder dating app?

Your comments are welcome.

Julie Spira is an online dating and mobile dating expert who’s been helping singles find love online for 20 years. She’s the founder of Cyber-Dating Expert and is the host of Mobile Dating BootCamp. For more dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter.

Dating in an Instagram World

instagramworld 150x150Most people seem to be obsessed with photo sharing sites these days.

If a picture tells a thousand words, how does this digital habit affect your dating and love life?

With over 200 million users and 20 million photos shared daily on Instagram, dating can bring authenticity for single daters who are looking for love online on their mobile phones. These days, it’s not unusual for singles to check out both Facebook and Instagram photos of potential dates so see their recent activity, favorite restaurants, what interests and passions they have, and to find out if they have friends in common.

Are you ready to hop onboard for a tutorial on photo love?

In a recent interview with the New York Post, I explained how to successfully date with the help of Instagram.

How to Find Love on Instagram

1. First find someone who interests you, and start following him or her.
2. Start liking a couple of his or her photos.
3. After a week or so, start commenting on the photos.
4. Finally, find your potential crush on Facebook and send him or her a private message.

New Mobile App Glimpse Helps Daters Find Love on Instagram

If you’d like to find a simple way to flirt and date on ‘Insta’ without approaching someone who isn’t single, there’s a new mobile dating app called Glimpse, which helps singles get to know each other with more than a swipe.

How it works, is you’ll sign up with your Instagram account and select a primary photo from your Instagram account or your Camera Roll on your mobile phone.

Then you can select nine of your favorite photos that describe your personality and you?re ready to go. Users can specify their age filters and sexual orientation to help find the best matches.

Once you’re signed up, they’ll send you profiles of people nearby first. Then you’ll start receiving profile matches from singles in other cities to expand your horizons. When you view a profile that interests you, swipe up to see their nine selected photos. Sure there are a lot of food shots, but if you’re a sushi lover, you just might find the perfect date based upon his or her photos. If you think you’ll click, tap on the smile button and your potential date will be notified and you can start chatting.

Elan Miller, co-founder and CEO of Glimpse says the reply rate to first contact is over 70%. “I can tell you that number is huge as compared to most traditional online dating sites and many mobile dating apps. Photos (of how we see the world) are really effective icebreakers. Instead of the generic “hi” or “pickup line” people have something natural to talk about. Early feedback has been the tone/environment of Glimpse is way different from anything else out there,” says Miller.

With over 200 billion photos now shared on Instagram, isn’t it time you gave it a shot for dating?

Would you use Instagram to check out a date or to actively pursue a relationship? Your comments are welcome.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She was an early adopter of Internet dating and coaches singles on the dating scene with her Irresistible Profiles programs. For more dating advice, sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.

ABC News – Mobile Apps to Speed Up Your Search

BZ ej5vIcAAMJVM 150x150It was an honor and joy to be interviewed by Elex Michaelson of ABC-7 television in Los Angeles about the popularity of mobile dating apps.

As Tinder continues to take the world by storm, the feature included an interview with Tinder’s co-founder, Justin Mateen, as well as featured other mobile dating apps including eHarmony, JDate, Match, OkCupid, Grouper, Grindr, and Coffee Meets Bagel.

Mobile dating is now over a $200 million dollar industry. Are you wondering how it all works?

Watch the video below for highlights.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and mobile dating expert who was an early adopter of Internet dating. She created her first profile almost 20 years ago and coaches singles on the dating scene with her Irresistible Profiles programs and her Mobile Dating BootCamps. For more dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the Free Weekly Flirt newsletter.

Top 10 Best Mobile Dating Apps in 2013

mobiledaing2012 300x300 1 300x300Hi. I’m Julie Spira. Every year my team and I curate a list of some of the best and newest mobile dating apps. It’s time to grab your SmartPhones as we’re proud to announce the 4th annual Cyber Dating Expert “Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps” list.

As online dating continues to be embraced by singles of all ages, mobile dating apps have taken the spotlight in 2013.

A recent Pew report on Online Dating & Relationships looked at the impact of social networking and mobile dating on singles looking for love.

Pew reported that 7 percent of mobile phone apps users (representing 3 percent of all adults) say that they have used a dating app on their cell phone. The convenience of dating from your mobile phone will not only results in meeting more people, but also speeds up the process from initial contact to meeting in person.

Mobile dating has truly become a social dating experience, with many apps considered social dating, social networking and social discovery experiences.

Without further digital ado, we?re proud to present the “Cyber Dating Expert Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps of 2013” for your viewing and downloading pleasure.

This year we’ve added three new mobile dating apps, which were featured in our Mobile Dating BootCamp.

1. TinderiOs and Android

As Tinder celebrates its 1-year Anniversary, we?re happy to list their mobile app as our top choice for 2013. Tinder is now the fastest growing location-based mobile dating app and is becoming a household name. While early adopters were found on college campuses, now everyone from Lindsey Lohan to the former Miss USA, along with your neighbors as well can be found flirting on the Tinder app. During this year’s Mobile Dating BootCamp, just about every participant requested to use Tinder while looking for love online. Tinder reports that 54 percent of their members are between 18-24 and 31.6 percent are between 25-34.

How it works. Users download the mobile app on their iPhone or Android phones and connect through Facebook to create a profile. You can anonymously scroll through potential matches nearby. If there’s a mutual match, then you can start chatting in text message style directly through their app.

Why we like it: It’s simple to use, free, anonymous, and is the fastest growing mobile dating app. Tinder has given credibility to mobile dating as the way to meet in a digital world. It’s also a fun way to make new friends. You can view a variety of potential dates in a ‘hot or not’ style and anonymously decide whether you’re interested in or not. Tinder boasts 400 million matches to date with approximately 4 million new matches per day. Download Android? Download iOs

Screen Shot 2013 04 01 at 1.11.09 PM 150x1502. Let’s Date – iOs

Let’s Date call itself the ‘instagam’ of dating. Users sign and create their date card through Facebook connect. Once your profile is created, you’ll have the ability to edit your profile if you don?t want it to mirror your Facebook profile. Let’s Date reports that 55 percent of their users are between 18 to 24 years old and 40 percent are between 24 and 35 years old.

How it works: Let’s date uses science to help match you with someone compatible on their mobile dating app. Users can click on “Yes” or “No, Thanks” to profiles they’ve been matched with. If there’s a mutual match, users can be notified by email to let you know that it’s time to start chatting with your digital crush. You can also speed up the process by sending a flirt to the person you’ve selected for $.99 in the iTunes store.They also have a ‘wingman’ feature, which allows non-daters to view profile and share them with their single friends through email, SMS, or Twitter.

Why we like it: Its easy to create a profile for free and scroll through those that are sent to you. If you’re traveling you can change your location to the city you’d like to start dating in and fill up your date card before your arrival. Plus, you can link to your Facebook or Twitter accounts to create a more robust profile. Download iOs

Screen Shot 2013 11 19 at 10.11.16 PM 300x2953. Zoosk – iOs and Android

For the fourth year in a row, Zoosk has made it to our “Top 10 Favorite Mobile Dating Apps.”  Zoosk is a top mobile dating app for iPhone users and a top 10 overall grossing app in the iTunes store. More members, 55 percent are using the Android app as compared to 45 percent on iOS.

How it works: Users sign up for free, but if you pay for a subscription to Zoosk you’ll get unlimited winks and messages, full access to the ZSMS feature, can see who has viewed your profile, and you can chat with the connections you make. The cost of subscriptions are: 1 month for $29.95, 3 months for $19.98 per month, or 6 months for $12.49 per month.

Why we like it: It’s also hugely popular as a Facebook app and is available in 25 languages with members in over 70 countries. Download Android?? Download iOs

Screen Shot 2013 11 19 at 10.22.36 PM 150x1504. Badoo – iOs and Android

Badoo is a free dating app and was launched in 2006. They have over 197 million members worldwide in 180 countries with over 41 languages available. Over 100,000 new mobile app users added every day. It’s a fun way to meet new friends and dates in a game-like environment.

How it works: Users can sign in through Facebook and use the service on the web, as well as on their mobile dating apps. Users can find singles with similar interests nearby to chat with and their “Encounters” game helps connect you with possible matches. Their premium paid service includes a “Spotlight” and “Rise Up” feature to be able to be seen by more members. With “Spotlight,” the member’s photo and brief profile info appear at the top of every main Badoo page within their area or region. “Rise Up” instantly puts the member?s profile at the top of the search results within their region. The “Super Powers” feature is a monthly service fee which gives users more control.

Why we like it: The added bonus of uploading videos.

Download Android? Download iOs

POF 150x1505. POF – iOs and Android

PlentyOfFish has made it to our “Top 10 Favorite Mobile Dating Apps” list for the third year in a row. POF is one of the largest free dating sites in the world with over 2 million Americans logging on to the site each day. POF reports that 80 percent of people who access POF from a mobile device do so from their mobile Apps.

According to comScore, PlentyOfFish has captured 67 percent of the market share among mobile dating apps in the U.S. The app is completely free and is available in five languages, including English, French, German, Spanish, and Portuguese.

How it works: Users sign up for free and can search for singles from their mobile app using new filters such as education, height, and body type. Their Android app has a “Places” feature to provides users with a list of potential date hot spots. PlentyOfFish has also created a premium feature called “View Interaction” which tells singles if they’ve already interacted with a user; messaged back and forth, added each other to their Favorites list and viewed each others’ profiles. This ensures you’re not wasting time messaging someone you’ve already reached out to Users can also search for singles from their mobile app using new filters such as education, height, and body type.

Why we like it: PlentyOfFish has always understood the importance of singles meeting face to face. Their new “Date Night” feature will tell other singles in your area that you’re available for a date this weekend. The feature resets itself every week.? Download Android  Download iOs

meetmoilogo 150x1506. Meet Moi – iOs and Android

Meet Moi calls themselves the mobile matchmaker and states clearly that they are not an online dating service, and fall into the category of social discovery. Meet Moi does the searching for you and sends you a notification of a compatible date nearby to your mobile phone. They matches users with one another based on preferences and proximity by leveraging uniquely mobile capabilities like location awareness and push communication channels.

How it works: Users can sign up for free with features including creating a profile, sending winks, and replying to messages. Users receive a push notification when there’s a match nearby. If you choose to accept the match, you can click on “Has Potential” to show interest. If your match likes you back, you can chat for up to 60-minutes before deciding if you want to meet in person. Premium users can chat with all users and see who?s viewed their profile.

Why we like it: Their “Wingman” feature encourages group dating and makes introductions for groups of people, so if you’re hanging out with your friends, you can meet a group of other people nearby. They’re also available on the mobile web.? Facebook Connect allows users to see if they have any Facebook friends in common. Download Android? Download iOs

skoutlogo 150x1507. Skout iOs and Android

Skout is one of the earliest mobile dating apps and their iPhone app was launched in 2008. Their mobile app is a global network for meeting new friends or dates in over 100 countries around the world.

How it works: Skout is free to download with features include chatting and exchanging photos or notes Users can see who has checked them out. The app identifies singles in your immediate vicinity and gives you the opportunity to flirt and meet up with them. Though the app is free to use, members have the option of purchasing virtual gifts, premium memberships, or sending ?wink bombs? which reach up to 500 potential sweethearts in your area at once. Their premium model, Skout Pro is priced at $6.99.

Why we like it: Skout now has two separate and distinct communities for teens and adults, making it easy to safely make new friends. They’ve tackled the safety issue well. Download Android ?Download iOs

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For the third year in a row, Grindr has made it to our “Top 10 Favorite Mobile Dating Apps.” Their mobile app launched in 2009 and they’ve been a leader in the mobile app only service. Grindr has 7 million male users in 192 countries around the world. The average user spends 2 hours a day on the app and logs in 8 times a day. Over 200 million photos are sent every day from guys to guys using their mobile apps.

How it works: Grindr is a location-based app where users can create a profile for free, upload photos, chat, and meet.  Users can view 100 profiles of men in their area. Premium users of Grindr-Xtra have an advertising-free service and can receive push notifications even when the app is closed. Other benefits of Grindr-Xtra include? the swipe feature to easily scan through profiles. The premium service costs between $12.99/mo. to $64.99/yr.

Why we like it: It’s been the most innovative and successful niche based mobile dating app in the world. With 1 billion chat messages being sent in a given month, need we say more?  Download Android  Download BlackBerry  Download iOs

okcupidlogo 150x1509. OkCupid – iOs and Android

OkCupid is free and makes it easy to access the web version of their site on your mobile phone, as well as providing a mobile-only app that is location-based and simple to use.

How it Works: Users can sign in from Facebook or directly on the mobile app to find singles in your area. Accessing their “Locals” feature will show you people in your vicinity. The app allows you to swipe right to “like” a user or swipe to the left to “take a pass.” If it’s a mutual match, you’ll find out immediately and will receive an email. Users then can visit their profile or send a message. Other features you can access from your mobile phone include viewing the famous OkCupid questions, saving a profile as a favorite, viewing your visitors, and ranking your potential date from 1-5 stars.  Each user’s profile will state your Match, friend, and enemy percentages similar to what you’ll find on the web-based site. Upgrading to A-List, which includes anonymous browsing is an additional fee.

Why we like it: Having the percentages on a profile photo makes it easy for those who are intrigued by the computer algorithms to take a second look at a potential date.

Download Android ?Download iOs

Screen Shot 2013 11 20 at 11.41.35 AM 150x15010. How About We – iOs and Android

How About We now provides an online meet-and-greet with the goal of being an offline dating service for both singles and couples. Their mobile app lets you view full screen photos and dates of people in your area. Their premise is to connect online and meet offline at user created events.

How it works: Members can sign up for free and post ideas for dates. This helps speed up the process as often a member will have tickets for a specific concert or sporting event and will list the date/time of the potential date. You’ll also receive real-time notifications with recommended dates. To view your visitors, you can invite three friends for free to join the site, or upgrade to the premium membership. To send or read emails, you’ll need to pay for a membership which runs from $8.99/mo. to $34.99/mo.

Why we like it: How About We has partnered with AARP for the large number of single boomers over 50 who are looking for love online. AARP members can receive 50% off their membership. It makes members? think about a fun actual date and creativity is the key. You’ll find more than just suggested beach walks from their busy and active members. Plus their blog, The Date Report really rocks!

Download Android? Download iOs

CoffeeMeetsBagel 150x150HONORABLE MENTION:? Coffee Meets Bagel – iOs

Newcomer Coffee Meets Bagel (CMB) was created by three sisters Arun, Dawoon, and Soo Kang. CMB has won the hearts of many singles looking for love online. Originally a web-based service in a few cities in the U.S., Coffee Meets Bagel launched their iOs app in August of 2013.

How it Works: Every day at noon, you’ll receive one match from a friend-of-a friend, or one “bagel.” Users sign up through Facebook to create their profile and can “Like” or “Pass” on their bagels. If you missed one of your bagel dates, you can request to be rematched. Users can visit their bean shop to buy coffee beans for upgraded services at the cost of $4.99 to $99.99, but can also easily win free beans by recommending a bagel to a friend. Since the service is new, users might not get a bagel match every day, but we have our eyes on this site and hope that it continues to grow in membership.

Why we like it: Users look forward to receiving their daily “bagel” at lunch time. CMB believes your dating life, including name, birthday and email should be private, that your friends are the best conduits for your dates, and that meeting quality people doesn’t have to be so awkward or complicated. It’s also like a fun game to receive coffee beans when you respond to a match.Download on iOs

STILL OUR FAVORITES

These top web-based dating sites have terrific mobile apps that are worthy of downloading on your smartphones to speed up your search.

eharmonymobilelogo 150x150eHarmony - iOs and Android

eHarmony is responsible for over 1 million people getting married since they launched in 2000. That’s a number to brag about. Their mobile app downloads surpassed the 5-million mark over the summer. eHarmony reports that users tend to access their mobile apps 5+ times throughout the day, compared to twice a day on the computer. Over 40 percent of their user registrations take place in the mobile environment. The app is free to download where you can sign up, fill out your profile and questionnaire, upload photos from Facebook, receive daily matches, and communicate for free on specialty weekends. Paid members have the same functionality as the subscriber’s web version, where you can view photos, go through guided communication, see when a match last logged in, and read/write emails. Download Android Download iOS? Download iPad

matchmobile 150x150Match – iOs, Android, and BlackBerry

Match.com was launched in 1995 and is available in 24 countries around the world and in 15 different languages. Their mobile app is a service for paid subscribers on more platforms than any other app. Match reports that more than 40 percent of user logins come from their mobile apps.? Users can wink, create and view profiles, upload up to 24 photos, send and receive emails, add users to their “Favorites” and rate their “Daily Matches.” Other Premium features include the popular “Who’s Viewed Me?” feature. Users can sign up on Facebook and also be notified of upcoming Stir Events on their mobile app.? Download Android? Download iOs? Download BlackBerry

Previous Top 10 Mobile Dating apps lists can be viewed here.

Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps in 2012

Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps in 2011

Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps in 2010

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and mobile dating expert. She was an early adopter of Internet dating, having created her first profile almost 20 years ago. Today, she coaches singles on the dating scene and is the host of Mobile Dating BootCamp: Dating in a Mobile World.

Survey: Online Dating by the Numbers

onlinedatingbythenumbers 300x300A new study from Pew Research shows that online dating has risen in popularity. While most of us realize this from the everyday conversations we’re having with singles on the dating scene, we really need to credit the introduction and rise of mobile dating apps for the increase in acceptance to digital dating.

When Pew conducted their research study in 2005, more singles hid the fact that they were dating online. Eight years ago, 29% thought that dating on the Internet was just something those who were desperate had to do. Fortunately, the number has shrunk to 21% today.

So who’s dating the most online?

According to the study, single men and women from 25-34 are the most popular demographic for Internet daters.

Other important statistics from the survey include:

  • 42% know someone who has used online dating
  • 29% know someone who has been in a long-term relationships or marriage with someone they’ve met online
  • 66% of online daters have gone out on a date with someone they met on a dating site
  • 11% of adult American Internet users have used online dating sites
  • 38% of those who are single and looking have used online dating sites and mobile dating apps.

While these numbers continue to rise from Pew?s survey in 2005, over half of those who have dated online have had a bad experience. From misrepresentation of age, weight, marital status and more, we wish there was more truth-in-advertising with Internet dating.

Along with looking for love online, the Pew survey showed that many still felt the need to research their past relationships online. It’s hard not to be curious about what your ex is up to when he or she continues to post photos on Facebook or update their status on Twitter publicly. Suddenly social media makes it easy to do an impromptu background search to see if you’re former flame is single or in a relationship. The study showed that 30% of social networking users were researching those they were interested in dating. This proves that singles really need to make sure they keep their Facebook pages and date-friendly.

On Facebook Love Stories, we teach singles how to keep their Facebook pages more dateable. Think about it, your Linkedin Profile needs to help you find your dream job by being professional. It would make sense then that your Facebook page needs to reflect your single status.

*Hint: It might be time to do some digital housekeeping to remove photos of you with your kissing cousin or ex BF or GF.

At the end of the digital day, we’re creating a permanent digital footprint whenever we post. If you’re single, make sure you’re reflecting the real you, not the idealized person you think your date is dreaming to meet.

Julie Spira is a top Online Dating Expert and was an early adopter of Internet dating. She’s been helping singles on the dating scene for 20 years with her Irresistible Profiles. For more online dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the Free Weekly Flirt newsletter.

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Cyber-Dating Expert 5th Anniversary Celebration

CDEannivlogo 150x150We’re jumping for joy at Cyber-Dating Expert headquarters as we’re celebrating the five-year anniversary of our online dating advice site, CyberDatingExpert.com. Although we’ve been helping singles find love online for almost 20 years, the launch of our site? catapulted our services to the forefront in the Internet dating industry.

At this half-decade milestone, it’s time for us to take a moment or two and reflect on the past year and thank those who have made us proud to be in the digital love business and remain the go-to source for online dating expert advice.

Irresistible Coaching – Our signature online dating profiles and dating coaching has resulted in many love-birds who are riding into the digital sunset together. From eHarmony to JDate, Tinder to Facebook, we’ve held the hands of many singles before, during, and after their dates. It was a huge pleasure and joy to help several media personalities with their online dating journey, including Sirius-XM’s David Nelson on the Steve Malzberg Show and CBS Radio’s Kim, from the Jim and Kim Show who both took the plunge for the very first time on Match.com.? You can listen to the segments by clicking on the links above.

It’s with great enthusiasm to share that we’re in the middle of shooting a feature film where online dating expert Julie Spira is the real-life dating coach of an MTV reality star as he looks for love online. We hope to watch this on the big screen next year. Can we say Red Carpet?

Irresistible Profiles – Our signature online dating profile services help you when you need some extra hand-holding. Our Going Steady and Totally in Love Programs, include creating an irresistible online dating profile to help you shorten the search and ride into the digital sunset together. A New Pew Research study revealed that 32% of women and 17% of men actually enlisted help with their profiles.

In the News – We were interviewed many times in the media, from holiday dating to the Manti Teo fake girlfriend story and of course non-stop with Valentine’s coverage. When Martha Stewart joined Match, we chimed in with advice on how to beef up her profile on the FOX News morning show,? Good Day LA. Special thanks to the New York Post, Prevention magazine, Men’s Fitness, NBC News, AARP, Bottom Line Personal, Mercury News, Fashionista, Her Campus, WTOP Radio, Marsha Collier of the Computer & Technology Show, Detroit Free Press, USA Today, Boston Globe, Huffington Post, BBC, eHarmony, Healthy Living, Shape magazine, HLN-TV, Dr. Drew on HLN, CNN, NBC – St. Louis, FOX News – Las Vegas, Prevention magazine, WLW-Radio, Contra-Costa Times, Pro Football Central, Singular City, Kixi – Seattle, Citibank’s Women & Co., Huffington Post, Tonya Hall Radio, Voice of America, WCCO Radio, Ventura County Star, Tech Talk Radio, Hawaii Reporter, Larry Magid, CBS News, Glamour, My Fox Parents, Mashable, LA Weekly, CCTV, Metro News, FOX News magazine, Business Insider, ABC News, Pittsburgh Tribune News, Home & Family on the Hallmark Channel, TodayShow.com, WGN, Christian Science Monitor, iVillage, Look Better Online, Jennings Wire, She Knows, Mobile Dia, San Francisco Chronicle, The Daily Beast, Game n Guide, San Antonio Press News, Match.com’s Happen magazine, Hawaii Reporter, Sci-Fi Today, ABC News – Philadelphia, Babble, Your Tango’s Online Dating BootCamp, Betty Confidential, NY Daily News, Toledo News, Al Jazeera America, Washington Post, Daily Collegian, Take Part Live on PivotTV, and the list goes on. You can check out these stories in our Press Room.

On the Newsstand – Many thanks to Glamour magazine for including our online dating advice in their April issue – Stop Googling Your Dates, Elle magazine in the August issue – The Social Stigma of Online Dating, Men’s Health in the February Issue, Boston Globe, New York Post, and in USA Today twice, among others.

In-Real-Life – It was an honor to host and curate Online Dating BootCamp and Mobile Dating BootCamp at the Internet Dating Conference, iDate and to be a presenter at the iDate awards. Bloomingdales named Julie their dating expert for Makeup-101: Meet Your Beauty Match and Facebook called on Julie to become their dating expert. With the collaboration of Facebook, we launched Facebook Love Stories on Valentine’s Day to highlight those couples who met on Facebook. We hope you take a peek at FacebookLoveStories.com. A huge thank you to DatingAdvice.com who named Julie their Online Dating Expert. We hope you read some of the dating advice articles. It was a thrill to be a panelist at Digital LA’s Love Goes Digital, Social Media Club’s: Social Media and Dating Online: It?s Big Business, and at Social Media Week. We hosted the “Pimp Your Profile” seminar with Hurry Date in Los Angeles, and more.

As we look into the future, plan to see more of us featured on television and film, with several big surprise announcements in store in the coming months.

As always, we wish you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.

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Julie Spira Quoted in USA Today Love 2.0 Story

usatodayweekendlogo 300x161As one who has studied and coached singles on the intersection of love and technology for 20 years, it was an honor to be called upon by behavior and relationship reporter Sharon Jayson for her in-depth story in Love 2.0: The Tech Effect on Romance.

Appearing as the cover story of the USA Today Weekend edition, Jayson wrote about a recent study conducted by online dating sites JDate and Christian Mingle in which 1500 singles aged 21-50 shared their thoughts on how mobile phone technology and texting when it comes to matters of the heart.

The USA Today article makes a bold statement. Jayson reports that “Cellphones and texting have blown up the dating culture.”

With the growth of smartphones, popularity of unlimited texting and data plans, it’s no wonder that singles are relying on their mobile phones to set up a date, cancel a date, make dinner reservations, order theater tickets, and yes, unfortunately break up.

In my conversation with Jayson, she asked me how long I believed a person should wait to return a text message. In my expert opinion, I thought 1-4 hours is polite.

The survey showed a surprising amount of singles (25%) believed that a text from a potential date or romantic partner should be returned within one hour. One hour? Think about it. If you’re in a meeting, on a conference call, on an airplane, or your phone is charging, does that mean you’re not interested? My big concern is the growing anxiety associated with response time for text messages, which appears to be shrinking. Another 25% thought 1-3 hours would be appropriate, followed by 12% who believed 4-6 hours would be fine. Responding immediately came in fourth place at 10%.

Does this mean your significant should go into the digital doghouse if you don’t hear from him or her in 1-6 hours?

When I was asked about my thoughts on breaking up in a text message, I was completely against it. However, the survey found that 59% might break up via text and even 24% had no problem breaking up with someone they were exclusively involved with.

Tone doesn’t come through in a text, and that can lead to misunderstandings, especially when a comment gets misconstrued and “your text may not get returned,” suggests cyber-relations and netiquette expert Julie Spira of Los Angeles. She’s author of the 2009 book The Perils of Cyber-Dating, which includes a chapter on netiquette.

The risk of misinterpreted texts is especially high in new relationships.

“There’s so little you know at that point,” Spira says. “You make all these digital assumptions that it’s one-size-fits-all, and it’s not.”

Sure, many celebrities have done so, including Russell Brand who notified Katy Perry of their divorce in a text message, but is it right?

Would you break up with someone in a text message? Your comments are welcome.

Read full article Would you break up by sending a text in USA Today

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating. She writes about the marriage of love and technology and coaches singles on the dating scene. Follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.

Mobile Dating ? If Miss USA is on Tinder, Should You Be?

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Miss USA 2013 – Source: Wikipedia

With Tinder becoming the fastest growing mobile dating app since its launch last October, it’s no wonder that everyone is checking out this fun and flirty free dating app.

When New York Magazine’s The Cut reported that 2012′s Miss USA, the gorgeous Nana Meriwether, had a profile on Tinder, people started to wonder why such a beauty needed to resort to creating an online dating profile. Most of the media joined in and the story became viral.

This actually bothered me a lot. It gave the impression that online dating and mobile dating apps are just for those who can’t find a date on their own. I couldn’t disagree more.

Meriwether shared with The Cut, that she’s been a member of Tinder since April, but she doesn’t take online dating very seriously, and only browses Tinder while hanging out with her girlfriends.

In the article, Meriwether what many singles in New York are frustrated with, that dating is just hard, even in a big city with so many options.

“Here’s the thing about dating in New York: It doesn’t exist,” she tells NY Magazine.? “There’s so much going on in the city, there are so many distractions that people just forget to go on a second date.”

Tinder makes online dating more fun and more of a social experience. Like many others, Meriwether isn’t actually dating on Tinder, but she’s looking at men and even checking off a few that she liked.

Meriwether told The Cut, “I’m like, ‘Yeah, of course.’ Even pageant-title-holders get lonely.” Even though she’s approved a few profiles, she hasn’t actually gone on an online date.

During my most recently held Mobile Dating BootCamp, four out of six singles used the Tinder mobile dating app to find a date or love, but mostly out of curiosity to find out what the rage was all about. One of the daters actually did meet someone from Tinder. Others felt it was more for hooking up and deciding if someone was attractive or not.

Are you one of the millions of people using Tinder? Do you find it to be a fun game or do you think you can meet someone from the app.

Julie Spira is a top online dating expert and was a very early adopter of Internet dating. She’s the host of Mobile Dating BootCamp and Online Dating BootCamp. Julie creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene and is the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating.? For more online dating advice, sign up for the free Weekly Flirt and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.

Love is Blind, But OkCupid Isn’t – Crazy Blind Date Mobile

CBDlogo21 150x150With online dating, we’ve been told it’s all about the photo, as both men and women are visual.

Today, our friends at OkCupid have launched their Crazy Blind Date mobile app, where you go back to the basics of when your grandmother fixed you up, along with a technology twist.

In honor of the launch, you’ll feel a bit naked when you log on to OkCupid today, as the site celebrates “Love is Blind Day.” OkCupid has removed all ten million photos on their members’ profiles to create awareness of their new app.

Sam Yagan, OkCupid founder and Cyber-Dating Expert friend says, “People will say that Crazy Blind Date is too crazy.” He adds, “But for a whole generation of young singles, it’s going to be a great adventure, and a great compliment to online dating.”

One thing we know for sure, is that mobile dating does speed up the process to meet someone IRL. In our recent Mobile Dating BootCamp, several of the participants used OkCupid’s mobile app and other mobile dating apps to try to find love from the convenience of their mobile phones. This app could help you if you’re looking for a last minute date or don’t want to be dateless on Valentine’s Day.

OkCupid says that Crazy Blind Date takes less than a minute of work:

  1. Download the Crazy Blind Date app for iPhone or Android
  2. Choose which nights this week you want to go on dates.
  3. Pick your favorite bar or coffee shop.
  4. Go on with your day; Crazy Blind Date does the rest.

Users are encouraged to share their dates on Twitter with the hashtag of #CrazyBlindDate and fees for the dates will apply.

Are you ready to go back to blind dating?

Julie Spira is a top online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She’s the host of Online Dating BootCamp and Mobile Dating BootCamp. Julie creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice, follow @Juliespira on Twitter and at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.

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