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Julie Spira to Provide Online Dating Advice at West Hollywood Book Fair

The Perils of Cyber-DatingOn Sunday, September 30th, online dating expert and bestselling author Julie Spira will appear at the West Hollywood Book Fair.

Spira, author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online and Editor-in-Chief at will be providing free dating advice and critiquing online dating profiles from 12pm – 2pm at booths #A11 and A12.

Known as one of America’s Top relationship experts, Spira has been featured and quoted in ABC News, BBC, CBS News, CNET, Cosmopolitan, E! Entertainment, Elle, FOX, Glamour, Los Angeles Times, Men’s Health, NBC, New York Times, NPR, and Woman’s Day with her expertise in online dating. She was named one of the “Top 10 columnists to follow on Twitter” and ranks in the “Top 10 Most Influential People in Dating” on Klout, a social media measurement site.

Her advice has appeared on numerous dating advice sites including eHarmony, JDate,, Your Tango, and Zoosk, as well as in her column on Huffington Post. She’s currently writing the film adaptation of “The Perils of Cyber-Dating” and as well as her second book, “The Rules of Netiquette: How to Mind Your Manners on the Web.”

Spira will be signing copies of her bestselling book and will be joined by several other Los Angeles based authors and members of the Women’s National Book Association at Booths A10-A11.

Who: Author, Julie Spira

Where: West Hollywood Book Fair, 647 N. San Vicente Blvd. West Hollywood, CA

When: Sunday, September 30, 2012 Time: 12pm to 2PM (Booth A 11 and A 12)

Cost: *Free*


“The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online” is a romantic tell-all memoir spanning over 250 online dates in almost 15 years. The book is filled with heartfelt, witty, and hilarious stories. Julie Spira, a pioneer in the Internet industry, became the first on her block to post an online dating profile. You’ll follow her journey as she skillfully navigates the web, hoping to replace what she once thought was the love of her life with a new Internet mate. Combining her fairytale romances and disappointing heartbreaks with her personal “rules of netiquette,” Spira provides priceless knowledge about the most effective ways to date online.


“Hilariously funny. Singles of all ages need to read this book.” ~ Joan Rivers

“The Perils of Cyber-Dating gives hope to singles that they can successfully meet someone online.” ~ Dr. Pat Allen, bestselling author, “Getting to I Do.”

“It’s like Sex and The City in a Web 2.0 World.” ~ E. Jean Carroll, Elle Magazine

“This book is a must for this generation of singles, both male and female, who are into cyber-dating.” ~ Santa Monica Daily Press

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4th Anniversary Tribute ? The Joys and Perils of Cyber-Dating

The Perils of Cyber Dating

Today is a momentous day for me.

It?s a day of great reflection and a day of digital pride.

It was four years ago today on July 31, 2008, that I started writing my first book,?The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.

Four years later, on July 31, 2012, I?m now sending out my 15,000th tweet to 25,000+ loyal followers on twitter. I?m humbled. I?m grateful. I?m filled with joy. I want this digital milestone to be meaningful and I?m honored to share this story of a powerful and passionate reinvention you. My life changed dramatically four years ago. It?s an honor and joy to help singles find love on the Internet. It?s time to share my journey. I hope you enjoy the ride.

In the beginning

How did a broadcaster turned technology executive become an online dating expert?

It wasn?t a childhood dream of mine to be an online dating expert or create Cyber-Dating Expert. It was my dream as a young child to become a music radio DJ. I considered myself a ?musicologist,? listened to the radio non-stop and knew that was my calling. I was fortunate to have lived that dream as the first female DJ at a big FM rock station in Upstate New York, where I wanted my listeners to be enriched by sharing my favorite songs on the radio. I believed my listeners would be my forever friends. There was no such thing as BFFs, tweets, updates, and broadcasting was a unilateral. I spoke. People listened. That all changed with social media, where it?s now about the conversation and community. It appears I now have the digital gift of gab.

My love affair with technology started many years ago when I became a network executive. At RKO, we were the country?s first digital-delivered satellite radio network. I was, and still am a hopeful romantic and my life was filled with music and love. I had no idea that my future would include the marriage of love and technology. It makes perfect sense now, of course. I was an early adopter of the Internet and an early adopter of online dating. Why not marry the two things I was so passionate about?

Four Years Ago Today

So what exactly happened on July 31, 2008, and why did I feel the need to open up my entire personal life for people to read about and comment? Basically, I lost a bet at girls night out at Jazz Night at the Hollywood Bowl. It could have been as simple as flipping a coin. One could say I lost the bet. Other’s say I won.? I was sharing some of funny dating stories while passing my BlackBerry around to my married girlfriends to view photos of a date I was considering going on. The odd thing about this particular date was, his mother selected me on behalf of her son on She said I was perfect for her never-married son. I found it quite odd that she was looking for love, while playing the role of wing-woman for her son.? Out of curiosity, I wanted to see how it would play out. That story ended up in Chapter 13 of my book, “The Perils of Cyber-Dating” in the story called, ?The Mother-in-Law.? We never met, but it made for humorous conversation.

Then the floodgates opened. I shared the story of the man who went berserk in a restaurant over 10 years earlier because he thought I looked like his recently deceased wife, the gentleman who told me graphic details of his colonoscopy while we were eating lunch, as well as the fairytale romances leading to marriage proposals. All of these stories were a result of online dating. Could I be alone, I wondered?

What we all realized on that important night was that singles everywhere were struggling to find love, both online and offline. These amusing dating stories weren?t unique to me. I had spent years perfecting the Irresistible Profile and helped singles throughout the U.S. shorten their search so they could ride into the digital sunset together. I knew I had a gift. I was told from my mentor that my storytelling skills from being a media personality could be transferred to literary works. I believed him because he believed in me.

When my girlfriends dared me to write a book, I laughed it off and said, “sure.” They were serious and I thought it was funny. However, I reflected to a day 13 years earlier when I decided to write a book about my online dating stories and came up with a the title of ?The Perils of Cyber-Dating.? This was as a result of being proposed to by a married man. That would be perilous, wouldn?t it? I shared the love for my book title with my girlfriends who all agreed it would be perfect. ?Of course someone must have written this book already,? I said to the girls. Then they made a bet with me. If this title had not been published, I must write the book. If it was already written, then being an author wasn?t in the cards for me. I agreed, thinking that I?d be off the hook. Certainly in all these years, there must have been others wanting to write about such perilous stories.

When I returned home, I received a call from my girlfriend who was determined to win the bet. I checked online. I checked on Amazon. Apparently no one had written The Perils of Cyber-Dating. However, as a marketing and communications strategist, I knew I?d need to have the corresponding domain name. I assumed someone was blogging under this title, or perhaps it was parked somewhere. I wasn?t sure how it would pan out. I jotted down chapter titles and a few stories and went to sleep exhausted but enthusiastic about writing the book I promised myself I’d do over a decade before.

The next day, I checked to see if was available. Much to my surprise and joy, the domain name was available! ?How could this be?? I asked. Then I knew it was meant to be. I had hundreds of stories that I had collected from almost 15 years. I was on the Internet before most people even knew the Internet. I had been a charter member of Love@AOL before the days of, eHarmony, and mobile dating.

From my Heart to Print

And so my love affair with my first book began. I wrote. I edited. I reflected. I laughed. I cried. It was empowering, healing, cathartic and more. I knew my story had to be told.? There was no one else with such a unique perspective from dial-up to mobile. I knew I needed to help other singles and that humor and wit would shine along with my authenticity. The first agent I contacted told me that no one would be interested in anyone?s dating stories. Apparently he was wrong and didn?t see the future on how dating blogs and television dating shows would rise in popularity.

When I finished writing the manuscript, I created as a place for singles and couples to share their online dating stories and to provide free dating advice for singles looking for love online. Readers started to submit stories for the Cyber Love Story of the Week and Peril of the Week features and commented with enthusiasm.

I remember how exciting it was to create my book cover. I had a vision of a girl getting ready for a date with a city background. The day my first copy of ?The Perils of Cyber-Dating? was delivered to my home. It was like giving birth. I was so very proud. I had received glowing advanced praise including Joan Rivers who said, ?Hilariously Funny! Singles of all ages need to read this book? and E. Jean Carroll from Elle magazine said, ?It?s Like Sex and the City in a Web 2.0 World.?

I started tweeting about my book?s progress using my social media marketing strategies and engaging like-minded singles leading up to my Valentine?s Day launch. On the day it was released, I was filled with tears of joy. ?The Perils of Cyber-Dating? became a best selling dating book in several categories. My passion for helping singles became known worldwide and I started coaching more and more singles every day by giving them the tools to be confident in the digital age.

Words can?t express how grateful I am to have been able to reach millions with my online dating advice. Every day I thank those who have supported me on my journey. Cyber-Dating Expert is now one of the top online dating advice sites on the Internet and has been nominated for numerous awards. I’ve been named “One of America’s Ultimate Experts” by Woman’s World magazine and “The Pioneer of Online Dating” by Cosmo. Our advice has been featured and quoted in and on over 450 stories around the world. I?ve had the opportunity to write for Betty Confidential, eHarmony, Huffington Post, JDate, Match, Your Tango, among others. It’s been an honor to have been quoted on ABC, CBS, Mashable, Men?s Health, and NBC and speak at the Internet Dating Conference.

In the Future

As online dating continues to grow and evolve with mobile dating, our team is at the forefront. Our mobile app, Dating Expert is celebrating its third year and our annual ?Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps? list is highly respected by journalists and singles. Our team created Mobile Dating BootCamp in 2012 and we’ll be casting a second season to be held in Las Vegas in 2013. I?m in the final stages of finishing my second book,?The Rules of Netiquette: How to Mind Your Manners on the Web as well as an exciting screenplay.

I was just a girl with a dream, a huge heart, and hundreds of stories, who happened to be an early adopter of online dating. I now have dreams of seeing my story on the big screen and riding off into my very own digital sunset. I have a feeling my dreams will become a reality.

My message to all of you is to follow your heart. Dream big and be open to the possibilities of a new beginning in both love and work. Don?t discard someone who isn?t perfect. None of us are. Be honest and authentic. Remember that patience is a virtue and the best things in life are worth waiting for. Your shelf life does not have an expiration date on it and you can ask for forgiveness and give love another chance. One of our featured couples in the Cyber Love Story of the Week found love on eHarmony at the age of 70. Find your passion and it will welcome you with open arms. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping me share the love every single day among 6 continents. I couldn?t have done it without you.

At the end of the digital day, I wish you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.

~Julie Spira

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10th Annual West Hollywood Book Fair

The Perils of Cyber-DatingOn Sunday, October 2, 2011 from 10am – 6pm, join me at the West Hollywood Book Fair, where I’ll be autographing copies of my bestselling book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.

The event will be held at West Hollywood Park and at the new West Hollywood Library at 647 N. San Vicente Blvd. in West Hollywood.

Among the festivities and featured authors, you’ll have the chance to see Jane Fonda, Dyan Canon, Meredith Baxter, Jackie Collins, Marcia Clark, Julie Newmar, Hal Needham, Tatum O’Neal and more.

The event is free and will include 300 featured authors, 12 stages, and 25,000 guests.

I’ll be at the Womens National Book Association Booth # B8-B9. If you can’t find me, just sent a tweet to @JulieSpira.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert, social media strategist, and bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating. Visit her at, Rulesof, and





Win an Autographed Copy of the new eHarmony Book

Cyber Dating Expert

As part of our Irresistible Valentine’s Celebration and in anticipation of Dr. Gian Gonzaga’s appearance on Ask the Cyber Dating Expert Show, 10 lucky readers and listeners will win a signed copy of the eHarmony Guide to Dating the Second Time Around.

If you’re looking for a love that lasts, you’ll want to participate in this fun contest. All you need to do is Like our page on Facebook, and comment on the wall about your most romantic Valentine’s Date ever. Winners will be selected daily from now until Valentine’s Day.

Don’t forget to tune in to Ask the Cyber Dating Expert Show on Saturday, February 12, 2011 at 2pm/EST, 11am/PST at
Join in on the fun, share your online dating stories and win a rare autographed copy of Dr. Gian Gonzaga’s book during our Irresistible Online Dating Celebration.

*Winners will be notified privately and must be in the continental U.S.

Reading Room – eHarmony Guide to Dating the Second Time Around

It’s with great pleasure to add the?eHarmony Guide to Dating the Second Time Around to the Cyber Dating Expert Reading Room.

The book, edited by Dr. Gian Gonzaga, Ph.D, director of research and development at eHarmony Labs gives proven methods to finding a love that lasts. Many people are finding themselves single after a long term relationship or marriage. Whether through divorce, death, or a painful breakup, this book will give you some exercises and tools as you jump back into the dating scene. Like the online dating site eHarmony, the book is focused on serious minded singles who want a long term committed relationship or marriage.

For those of you starting over again, it’s a terrific guidebook to evaluate what you want in your relationship at this stage of your life. You’ll reflect on past relationships on what worked, what you didn’t like, and will take inventory of your personal life.

In addition, I’m delighted that Dr. Gonzaga will be my featured guest on the Valentine’s edition of Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show, scheduled for Saturday, February 13, 2011 at 11am/PST. He’ll be talking about the book in more detail, so I hope you do listen in.

Book Review – The Perils of Cyber-Dating

Cupid's Pulse Book Review - The Perils of Cyber-Dating

Read the latest book review from Cupid’s Pulse along with my personal interview about The Perils of Cyber-Dating.

Perils of Cyber-Dating


More than 40 million singles are dating online. With around 2,500 online dating sites to choose from, how can you navigate your way safely and find love on the Internet? Julie Spira?s tell-all memoir, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, can help. You’ll follow her on her 15-year journey, which included 250 online dates as she navigates the web in hopes to find an Internet mate to replace someone she thought was the love of her life. Through her romances, heartbreaks, and personal rules of ‘netiquette,’ Spira shares invaluable first-hand knowledge on the best ways to date online.

Cupid’s Take:

Online dating has it’s own set of rules. Remember to be safe and savvy when on the web. Cupid caught up with the Spira via e-mail this week. Here’s what the author had to say:

Cupid: You were one of the first people to delve into the world of online dating. Were you scared? What were other people’s reactions?

Julie Spira: At the time I created my first online dating profile in 1994, I wasn’t scared at all. I fully embraced the Internet both personally and professionally. But, since online dating was not mainstream at that point, I told very few people that I was meeting my dates from online dating sites. I told some close friends who I thought could benefit from online dating and helped them with their online dating profiles and then started coaching singles professionally.

Cupid: What’s different about cyberdating (as compared to traditional dating), and how can people adapt to it?

JS: The main difference between cyberdating and traditional dating is that you are meeting someone that you haven?t met before in real life and you are getting to know them from behind their computer screen. Online dating, Internet dating, and cyberdating are all terms used for those using online dating sites, chat rooms, video dating, and social dating sites. This also includes social networking sites such as Facebook and MySpace. In order to completely embrace online dating, one needs to be comfortable using their computer. It’s also important to be very organized as you may receive hundreds of emails in the first day or two. In order to be successful, if you create a system that helps keep all of the replies and emails sent, you’ll be able to communicate with your dates with their background information. If you are already using Facebook to communicate with friends, it’s the next logical step.

Cupid: What have you seen change about the online dating world since you started?

JS: When I first started dating online, hadn’t been launched yet. There were very few sites to pick from. It was a much simpler process without all the Web 2.0 bells and whistles. You weren’t seeing video dating and text messaging wasn’t an option in the U.S.

Cupid: What is your relationship to online dating now?

JS: As an online dating coach, I help singles create their irresistible online dating profiles and work with them to search the best possible matches. I also help them decide which sites to join and teach them how to craft and email introduction and response that will grab the attention of those profiles they select.

Cupid: What are your top 5 netiquette rules for cyberdating?

JS: My Rules of Netiquette from my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, include:

1. The Google Rule.  If you Google your date before you meet them, don’t let them know on the first date. You’d be surprised how some people actually print out the Google results and start questioning their date about specific entries. It’s not appropriate first date material and no one wants to feel like they are on a job interview or under the microscope.
2. The Food and Beverage Rule. If you ask a date out for coffee, be prepared to order a beverage for her and yourself. I have heard stories many times where either someone arrives with their own water, or simply does not order a coffee or tea for their date. You should assume that a coffee date includes a drink, and a dinner date includes some form of food.
3. The Ex Rule.  Don’t talk about your ex-wife or husband, ex girlfriend or boyfriend, or spend time talking about the past. You’d be surprised that some talk about their spousal support, or a relationship that didn’t work out on the first date. Keep it light and leave the baggage at home.
4. The Send Button Rule.  My mother always says, “If you don’t have anything nice to say about someone, don’t say anything at all.” Too often someone gets mad and drafts an email and pushes the send button. When in doubt, send it to yourself. You might feel differently in the morning. Once you push the send button, you can’t take it back.
5. The Break Up Rule.  Never break up with a significant other in an email or a text message. It’s just common courtesy to have a conversation and preferably in person. Do you really want to go down in history as the one who frequently dumps their dates in an email or text?  Sure, celebrities are ending relationships in text messages and on Twitter these days. But is it right?

Most importantly, be authentic. Authenticity is really in style now. With over 400 million members on Facebook, it’s easy for someone to see if your photo on your online dating profile does not match the recent birthday or vacation pictures on Facebook. We know that many singles lie about their age in their online dating profiles to fit into a search, but the truth will come out when you meet in real life. You start out on a bad foot if you are lying about your age, weight, and height. Enjoy the process and look at cyberdating as a way to increase your social and business networks in the event it doesn’t turn into a romantic relationship.

Cupid thanks Spira for her time!? For more information and dating advice, visit her site,

Meet Author Julie Spira at the West Hollywood Book Fair

Join bestselling author and CyberDating Expert Julie Spira at the West Hollywood Book Fair on Sunday, September 26, 2010.

Spira will present and sign copies of her book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online from 10:00am – 12:00pm at Booth E63 and E64.

In addition, she will be providing online dating profile critiques and dating advice for singles on the dating scene.


Who: Author, Julie Spira
Where: West Hollywood Book Fair, 647 N. San Vicente Blvd. West Hollywood, CA
When: Sunday, September 26, 2010
Time: 10AM to 12PM (Booth E 63 and 64)
Cost: *Free*


“The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online” is a romantic tell-all memoir spanning over 250 online dates in almost 15 years. The book is filled with heartfelt, witty, and hilarious stories. Julie Spira, a pioneer in the Internet industry, became the first on her block to post an online dating profile. You’ll follow her journey as she skillfully navigates the web, hoping to replace what she once thought was the love of her life with a new Internet mate. Combining her fairytale romances and disappointing heartbreaks with her personal “rules of netiquette,” Spira provides priceless knowledge about the most effective ways to date online.

Full Press Release>>>

Single Edition Solo Spotlight: Julie Spira

This week, Single Edition interviewed me about my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.

Read about one of the funniest dates I had experienced in the 1990s, how to find the right dating site for you, and how I differentiate myself from other dating coaches. I discuss the changes in the Internet dating landscape in the past 15 years as well as social media marketing tools that helped define my brand of Cyber-Dating Expert.

Click here to read full article>>>

Author, Julie Spira Appeared at the New York Public Library

As part of the first-annual New York Book Week, Julie Spira, bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, was selected as the first of ten authors to be featured in the Library’s?Meet the Author Series.

Spira talked about why she wrote her book on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 and read excerpts from two chapters. Following her presentation, she answered questions from the audience about the Internet dating industry as well as provided dating advice and tips for singles looking for love online.

“It was an honor to be selected by the New York Public Library at their “Meet the Author Series” during New York Book Week and to engage with the readers,” said Spira.

Spira donated a copy of her book to the New Amsterdam branch. She also signed copies of her book at Book Expo America on May 26, 2010.

New York Book Week was created by Book Expo America (BEA) to coincide with the publishing industry’s largest conference in North America.

New York Book Week included public “main stage” author programs at venues such as Times Talks, the 92nd Street Y, and the main branches of the New York Public Library and Brooklyn Public Library, as well as smaller events at other libraries in the NYPL system and chain and independent bookstores throughout New York City and its boroughs.

New York Book Week embraces all literary and book activity, and expands the awareness of authors, books and publishing.

To purchase a copy of The Perils of Cyber-Dating, click here>>>

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Media Alert – Julie Spira Booking New York Media Trip in April


Julie Spira?Cyber-Dating Expert?Now booking Media Appearances in New York City from April 19-24, 2010 and May 24-27, 2010

Best-Selling Author to be Featured-Speaker at?The 140 Characters Conference

Los Angeles, CA, March 23, 2010 ? Julie Spira, best-selling author and online dating expert will share her expertise on dating in a Web 2.0 world along with other distinguished guests on the panel ?Experiencing: Love, Dating and Romance in the Real-Time Web? at the Twitter 140 Characters Conference on April 21, 2010.

A worldwide authority on online dating, Spira will share with an international audience of social-media enthusiasts, Twitterholics, tech-heads, and cyber-singles her tips for finding love online.

Spira, recently named one of the ?Top 10 Dating Advice Columnists to Follow on Twitter? by, is honored to participate on this first-time panel to discuss online dating in real time. The cyber-dating expert has been a frequent media guest and has been quoted/featured in/on The New York Times, CBS News,, FOX News, the Los Angeles Times,, and Men?s Health. She was a recent guest on The Mark and Brian Radio Show on KLOS-Los Angeles and was featured in the Woman?s Day Guide to Online Dating.

Online dating is HOT TOPIC and a multi-billion dollar industry.


Julie Spira will share her secrets with your audience including:

How to create an IRRESISTIBLE Online Dating Profile
How to become the woman EVERY man wants
The 5 Secrets to Finding Love Online
The Top 10 Rules of Netiquette for Online Daters
How to Attract More Quality Dates and Become a Man-Magnet
How to spot the RED FLAGS in an Online Dating Profile

An early proponent of online dating and social networking, Spira is a source of expert advice, authoritative information, and inspiration to millions of singles searching for meaningful love-connections through online dating sites and social networking.

Spira is the author of the best-selling book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. She is the host of the radio show ?Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert.? Her dating advice appears on eHarmony Advice, The Huffington Post, Your Tango, Date Daily, LA Dating Advice ?, and on ZOOSK ? the largest social dating site on the Web.

Spira will be appearing at Book Expo America in May, 2010 where she will be signing copies of her book.

To book an interview, contact or call (310) 433-7786.


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