Words can’t describe how super-thrilled I am to be a part of this wonderful community.
Being in the business of love and helping singles find love on the Internet since 1994 is something I’m so proud of. Every day I hold the digital hands of singles and help them ease into taking their relationships from online to offline. I give them the strength and confidence to start over when their relationships run their course and I feature their success stories in our Cyber Love Story of the Week.
Many thanks to the Editors at DatingAdvice.com for acknowledging my passion in this industry that I love so very much and for selecting me as their featured Online Dating Expert. I invite you to sign up for our Free Weekly Flirt newsletter for more online dating advice and to stay in touch.
I thank you from the very bottom of my heart.
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I’m super-excited to have been selected by GenConnect to host their live Valentine’s chat this week, “For Lovers and Lovers in Waiting.”
Click on the link below on Thursday, February 3rd at 3:30pm, EST/ 12:30pm/PST for a live Q & A, where I’ll answer all of your relationship questions leading up to Valentine’s Day. I know how stressful Valentine’s can be. I see all the red candy hearts in the grocery store. Regardless of your relationship stage, take a moment and join our live chat. The best part is, one person will win an Irresistible online dating profile, valued at $495.
Our hashtag on twitter is #gCLove so you can follow the conversation.
One of my favorite dating advice and lifestyle sites, Your Tango is having a challenge that you must sign up for. Their 31-Days to a Better Sex Life will feature some of the top relationship and dating advice experts in the world.
It’s an honor to be included in this list of dating experts along with John Grey from Venus and Mars fame, my friend and author Dr. Diana Kirschner, and Dr. Ava Cadell.
My article, 5 Steps to Being a Sexier New You appeared on day 3 of the 31-day challenge. So while you’re waiting for that perfect online date to appear in your Inbox, check out my article and all of the other awesome advice during the month of October and practice these simples steps. I look forward to hearing your comments and progress.
Are you single and still sleeping in your flannel pajamas while waiting for Mr. Right to sweep you off your feet? Throw away the Cinderella dreams along with your outdated nightie and get ready to learn the art of flirting before you walk out the door for the evening.
Often, when you aren’t in a relationship, you don’t dress as if your dream guy was picking you up for dinner. Let’s face it. It’s easy to get lazy and end up in a rut. You can’t remember your last kiss. You’ve gained a few pounds since your last relationship. You’ve started to wear less makeup. Your favorite dress never made it to the dry cleaner and still has a spot on the side from the night you spilled red wine on it. The last time you got waxed was when someone detailed your car a year ago.
Sound familiar? My advice is very simple. Start creating rituals at home that will prepare you to feel great about yourself. You can create a sexier new you before having a crush on that someone special. You’ll be surprised at how you’ll start attracting men. Won’t it be fun when suddenly you can pick and choose?
Here’s my step-by-step guide to get in the mood for love without even having to leave the house most of the time. Don’t worry, love will find you when the time is right.
Step 1. Toss away a few pieces of old lingerie that’s cluttering your bureau. Do this right away. It’s time to erase the memories of your past passionate affairs. Out with the old, and in with the new.
Step 2. Invest in one new piece of lingerie. Find a great sale at Victoria’s Secret or go online and select one that fits within your budget. Pick out your favorite color. Think of your new purchase as your favorite little black dress. Before you go imagining wearing it with your new dream guy someday, wear it for yourself first. For now, you’ll be wearing this to sleep at night at least once a week. You’re on your way to a sexier new you.
Step 3. Take a look at your makeup drawer. When was the last time you invested in a simple lip-gloss? Toss away the old makeup and head over to your local department store. Walk around the cosmetics department and find a comfy stool to sit on. Get ready for a free makeover. Imagine yourself going on a date night, while your makeup is being professionally applied. The date night is with your number one fan, yourself. Make sure to get a list of the colors and pick up one item. My suggestion is to replace your outdated lip-gloss with a new color for the season. There’s something very sexy about luscious lips and it’s time your lips are made for kissing.
Step 4. Back at the ranch, it’s time to set the scene in your romantic bedroom. Put away the photos of your family and friends in your bedroom. Move your computer to another room in the house. You’ll be creating a romantic atmosphere and will leave the boardroom behind. Light some candles. Put on some relaxing music, and grab some massage oil. There’s no need to purchase Kama Sutra oils if you don’t have them handy. Baby oil will work just fine. Give yourself a well-deserved foot massage and then curl up with a romance novel.
Step 5. On the following week, change the ritual slightly and if you have a bathtub in your home or apartment, take a bubble bath. Light your candles and have the music going in the background. Put on your new sexy signature piece of lingerie afterward and fall asleep in dreamland. You’ll wake up every morning and start to feel sexier just from creating these rituals.
Now, go out in public and smile at everyone you meet. It’s time to practice the art of flirting. I’ve been flirting since my first crush when I was four years old. It never goes out of style. You’ll appear happier, more confident, more approachable, and there is nothing sexier than a confident woman to attract a quality man. You’ll walk into a room and people will wonder, “Who’s that girl?”
Personally, I have practiced these steps and I know they do work. With very little investment, other than one piece of new lingerie and a lip-gloss, you will notice a shift in your attitude. I can’t tell you how many times I have felt better going to sleep just by lighting a few candles and reading an uplifting book or story, and falling asleep wearing my signature piece of lingerie. You’re now on your way to creating a sexier new you!
Vanessa moved from the east coast to the suburbs of Houston a few years ago. She wanted to meet new and interesting people, but was too busy with her job at NASA and didn’t have time to enter the dating scene.
Based upon recommendations from friends, she joined the online dating site BlackPeopleMeet.com as a free member. When she saw Ray’s profile, she decided to upgrade her membership immediately to meet him.
She sent Ray, a foster parent, an email introduction. Ray responded and the communication began.
During their first lunch date, they quickly realized that they both had a lot in common. Both Vanessa and Ray had children from their previous marriages. They also both enjoyed crossword puzzles and exercising.
The two easily blended their families together and two years after their first online date, they were married.
Congratulations to Vanessa and Ray who found love online on BlackPeopleMeet.
Do you have an online dating story to share?
Join me on Saturday, July 10, 2010 as I welcome Tina Tessina, Ph.D, author of The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again
to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show.
Tina has appeared on Oprah, Larry King Live as well as being quoted in Cosmopolitan, Time, and Newsweek with her dating and relationship advice.
Call in at 2pm/ET, 12pm/CT, 11am/PT at 646-929-0012 with your questions and to learn more about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.
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It’s with great pleasure and enthusiasm that I announce the summer lineup of guests for Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show.
Helping singles fall in love this summer, our season premiere will feature Match.com’s Relationship Insider, Whitney Casey on June 26, 2010.
Casey is an Emmy Award-Winning television personality, CNN-journalist and author of “The Man Plan.” Her dating advice has appeared on The CBS Early Show, The Today Show, FOX News, Cosmopolitan Magazine, and MTV.
“In our fast paced lives, we use the Internet to find out music, clothes and vacations,” says Casey. She adds, “It only makes sense that we should also look for love on our laptops.”
Match.com’s recent relationship study showed that one out of five relationships begins online. With over 40 million singles visiting online dating sites, dating and mating on the web has become more than twice as popular as meeting in bars, social events, or places of worship.
In an effort to speed up the search to find their perfect matches, the summer 2010 line-up of guests for “Ask the Cyber Dating Expert Radio Show” will include Tina Tessina – author of “The Unofficial Guide to Dating,” Dr. Pepper Schwartz – Chief Relationship Expert at Perfect Match, Debra Berndt – author of “Let Love In” and Sherri Langburt – founder of Single Edition.
Online dating is a terrific way to meet someone when your friends aren’t fixing you up anymore. However, you don’t know who is behind the computer screen just yet.
Today we talked about some of my recommended online dating safety tips.
• Never Give Out Your Last Name – Protect your identity
• Never Give Out Your Address – I suggest that singles consider using a P.O. box for their mailing address
• Never Talk About Money – First date conversations should be light and casual
• Always Meet In A Public Place – If you uncomfortable, you can always leave
• Use the “Buddy System” (Telling a Friend Where You’ll Be and Who You’ll Be With)
Practice these tips for safe cyberdating and enjoy the experience while looking for love online.
Dating and Relationship expert, Dr. Diana Kirschner has just released the paperback version of her bestselling book, Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love.
In this new version, she has added a chapter called, Dating Games Men Play 16 Deadly Dating Patterns You Need to Know Now. She provides instant insight into the minds of men!
Dr. Diana talks about the DUDs (Definitely Unworkable Dudes) and how to end up with a STUD (Seriously Terrific, Utterly Devoted Dude), who will help you make your wishes and dreams come true.
Chances are you will relate to some of these personality types including “the Geek”, “Peter Pan”, and the “Commitmentphobe.” She will also introduce you to some new terms such as, “Burnt Toast”, one who complains about his ex-girlfriend or ex-wife, and “Not perfect, I’ll Pass.”
Ready to hear more? Dr. Diana will be on The Today Show on Tuesday, February 9th and will be a featured guest on the Valentine’s edition of Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show scheduled for February 13, 2010 at 2pm/ET, 12 noon/CT, 11am/PT.
Julie Spira, bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online will be a featured guest on the radio show, The Rules of Engagement hosted by Amber Kelleher.
Spira will be providing her dating advice and relationship tips for singles who want to successfully date online as part of her Valentine’s media tour. She will be providing her secrets on how to create an irresistible online dating profile and give tips for men on how approach women on the Internet.
Kelleher is an internationally renowned relationship expert and the nation’s top matchmaker. Her show airs every Saturday on KFWB from 5:00pm – 6:00 pm.
Spira’s appearance will be on Saturday, February 6, 2010 at 5:00 pm/pacific time on KFWB – 980, Los Angeles.
To listen to the show go to KFWB.
For a list of Julie Spira’s media appearances visit CyberDatingExpert.com
Click here to book Julie Spira as a guest as an online dating expert for Valentine’s Week.