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Tyra Banks on Online Dating

Tyra Banks featured a segment on her show about online dating, hook ups, and sexting.

She started The Tyra Show by stating that 60% of women say the Internet has changed their sex lives. She asked the audience to stand up if they had ever sex texted. Very few were willing to admit they had indulged in the habit. Tyra said she had an audience full of liars.

On the program Tyra said, “Personally I am not against online dating. There are a million steps you need to take before meeting that person, in person.”

Tyra doesn’t recommend meeting someone online if you are a teenager. “Please do not do that. It’s not safe,” she said. I have to agree. Most online dating sites require you to be 18 years or older to sign up.

Tyra’s panel consisted of four women in favor of sexting, and four who were vehemently against it for safety and self-esteem reasons.

One panelist said she likes to sex-text her boyfriend before he goes to sleep at night. Another panelist says it helps her relationship with her boyfriend while she is away at college.

I subscribe to the safety first theory. Just last week I was a guest on WPIX in New York with Tamsen Fadal and the subject was, cyber-dating safety. I provided some ways to date online, safely, which included:

  • Don’t give out your last name
  • Don’t give out your home address
  • Don’t talk about  money
  • If you’re uncomfortable, leave

Keep in mind,  your online communication often becomes public record and can be indexed by Google and the search engines. Think twice before pressing the send button, turning on your webcam, or uploading that risky video. If your relationship doesn’t end well, you don’t want your sexting history out there for the world to see.

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Julie Spira is known worldwide as the Cyber-Dating Expert. She is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com

Flirtexting – How to Text Your Way Into His Heart

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After a fun and fabulous interview with authors Debra Goldstein and Olivia Baniuszewicz on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show, I’m pleased to add their dating advice book, Flirtexting: How to Text Your Way to His Heart to the Cyber-Dating Expert Reading Room.

Their mantra in the book is, “We date,  therefore we text.” Flirtexting, according to the two, has become the new “first step” in dating.

Deb and Liv describe Flirtexting as “Any text message sent between you and a boy you would like to date or are currently dating (i.e., someone you would like to make out with or are currently making out with). These texts are normally comprised of the flirty, witty banter that you throw back and forth with each other that typically leads to a date and, if you’re lucky, then some.”

If you aren’t sure who should make the first move in the electronic generation, then this book is for you. You’ll learn about some fun and flirty ways to communicate with the opposite sex.

Some questions you’ll get answered include:

  • Should a woman send a text message to a man to thank him after a date?
  • What are the benefits of texting while dating?
  • What are the do’s and don’ts of texting
  • What is sexting and should you press the send button?

You’ll also find out which of the two authors actually was asked to the prom via text message.

It’s a fun and easy book to read and fits in nicely with our theme of dating in a Web 2.0 World.

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Flirtexting on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show

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Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert

Listen to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show where Debra Goldstein and Olivia Baniuszewicz, authors of Flirtexting: How to Text Your Way to His Heart discussed the fine art of flirting on your BlackBerry’s and iPhones.

You’ll hear about the benefits of Flirtexting and why it works so well in our faced paced lives. The authors dished out dating advice and their thoughts about how to use text messages to improve the quality of your relationship.

Listen to find out just which one of the two was asked out to the prom via text message and how she felt about it.

Find out some texting do’s and don’ts and remember to put March 11, 2010 at 10:00am on your calendar, where the authors will be talking about sexting for the over 50 crowd on the Today show with Kathy Lee and Hoda.

Learn all of this and more on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio show where we talk about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.