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Is Facebook Really a Social Dating Site?

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Internet dating has evolved from the early days of chat rooms and dial up Internet to high-speed wireless Internet and now to a social dating experience. From getting dating advice on Twitter from @Match or @eHarmony to checking out your potential date?s Facebook page, while still chatting on the phone with him or her, digital dating has ramped it up a big notch.

Let’s face it. You?re hanging your digital hat on Facebook and Twitter a bit more often than logging into your online dating account, and with good reason. You like to see what your friends are up to and cheer them on with an occasional like or two. Staring at Selfies photos can be fun, and watching someone change their relationship status is a golden moment.

Most online dating sites are now entrenched with social media allowing you to upload your photos directly from Facebook and even using the like button for people to vote on their favorite photos of you. This is quite helpful as you can and should change your photos around a bit. If you notice that some are getting more attention, then they?re keepers.

When Facebook launched their Social Graph search in January, I spoke with USA Today. The article, Facebook Unleashed Cupid Potential came out while many of the Internet dating executives were at the Internet Dating Conference.

I was quoted as saying:

Dating norms, however, have already taken root on Facebook. People have long-perused the photos and postings of members in the game of attraction, says Julie Spira, a digital-dating maven who runs CyberDatingExpert.com.

“It’s the world’s largest social network, and they could be the world’s largest dating network if they want to go there,” Spira said.

No longer could online dating sites and singles ignore the big digital gorilla in the room. A few weeks later, we debuted Facebook Love Stories, featuring real world couples who met or reconnected on Facebook and fell madly in love.

Cyber-Dating Expert friend Cliff Lerner, the CEO of Are You Interested wrote an interesting piece in Huffington Post entitled, Why Facebook Graph Search Will Make Online Dating Cool.

I have to agree with Lerner. There are some that still think there?s a stigma with online dating, but have no problem contacting other singles on Facebook chat. This my friends is social dating at its best.

At the end of the digital day, you need to cast a very wide net. If you?re uncomfortable saying that you?re an online dater, tell people that you?re a social dater. Do whatever it takes to find love, online, offline, and on Facebook.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, on Facebook, or wherever you may roam.

Follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and check out FacebookLoveStories.com.

 

Social Dating: Is Facebook Really a Dating Site?

socialdatingfacebook 150x150Let’s face it. You?re hanging your digital hat on Facebook and Twitter a bit more often than logging into your online dating account, and with good reason. You like to see what your friends are up to and cheer them on with an occasional like or two. Staring at Selfies photos can be fun, and watching someone change their relationship status is a golden moment.

Most online dating sites are now entrenched with social media allowing you to upload your photos directly from Facebook and even using the like button for people to vote on their favorite photos of you. This is quite helpful as you can and should change your photos around a bit. If you notice that some are getting more attention, then they’re keepers.

Internet dating has evolved from the early days of chat rooms and dial up Internet to high-speed wireless Internet and now to a social dating experience. From getting dating advice on Twitter from @Match or @eHarmony to checking out your potential date?s Facebook page, while still chatting on the phone with him or her, digital dating has ramped it up a big notch.

When Facebook launched their Social Graph search in January, I spoke with USA Today. The article, Facebook Unleashed Cupid Potential came out while many of the Internet dating executives were at the Internet Dating Conference.

I was quoted as saying:

Dating norms, however, have already taken root on Facebook. People have long-perused the photos and postings of members in the game of attraction, says Julie Spira, a digital-dating maven who runs CyberDatingExpert.com.

“It’s the world’s largest social network, and they could be the world’s largest dating network if they want to go there,” Spira said.

No longer could online dating sites and singles ignore the big digital gorilla in the room. A few weeks later, we debuted Facebook Love Stories, featuring real world couples who met or reconnected on Facebook and fell madly in love.

Cyber-Dating Expert friend Cliff Lerner, the CEO of Are You Interested wrote an interesting piece in Huffington Post entitled, Why Facebook Graph Search Will Make Online Dating Cool.

I have to agree with Lerner. There are some that still think there?s a stigma with online dating, but have no problem contacting other singles on Facebook chat. This my friends is social dating at it?s best.

At the end of the digital day, you need to cast a very wide net. If you?re uncomfortable saying that you?re an online dater, tell people that you?re a social dater. Do whatever it takes to find love, online, offline, and on Facebook.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, on Facebook, or wherever you may roam.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com and FacebookLoveStories.com. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene and coaches them on finding love online and on Facebook. For more dating advice follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and like her at at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.

 

 

 

 

Countdown to Valentine’s Day – Can You Find a Date Online?

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According to CNN, some online dating sites have surged by up to 350% in the past two months, so singles looking for love online can have more choices to find a date or mate for the holiday season.

So how can you ramp up your search in the next 30 days?

Here are 5 tips that will shorten the search so you can ride into the digital sunset together.

1. Become a Social Dater. If you?re constantly updating your status on Facebook and posting new photos on Instagram, Pinterest, and Flickr, go ahead and share some of those on your online dating profile as well. Toss out the outdated blurry photos, group shots, and the arm hanging over your shoulder and replace them with newer photos that reflect who you are today. Remember to post a caption under the photos and add the date they were taken, so your potential suitors can see there’s truth-in-advertising

2. Don’t Wait, Initiate. I know The Rules book says a woman should never ever contact a man, but I disagree with this one. There’s a fine line between chasing a guy and playing hard-to-get. Playing the waiting game won’t fill your date card. Sure if you call a guy all the time, you might be considered needy, but most men are so frustrated with writing to women online who never respond. Your quick introduction email will be refreshing to him. Send a flirt, wink, or a nudge, if you?d like to subtly get his attention. Rate his profile or let him know you’ve viewed it, so he can see you’re interested.

3. Flirt on Facebook. Finding love on the world’s largest social network will expand your search. Facebook reported that 40.5% of their members changed their relationship status in 2012 to ‘Single,’ as compared to 29.2% who changed their status to ‘In a Relationship.’ Check out Facebook chat and see if someone who captures your eye is online and start the conversation. Go ahead an Poke someone and see if it’s returned like a digital boomerang.

4. Log on Daily. If you keep your online dating profile hidden with the fear that you’ll look desperate, the result is you just won’t get found as easily. Change your settings to being visible while logged on, so you can show up higher in a search. Take it one step further and turn on the chat and instant message feature. It’s time to start flirting online.

5. Practice the Magic of 5. If you’d go on a few job interviews every day to find your dream position, shouldn’t you do the same with your personal life? Go ahead and book five dates a week. Sound overwhelming? Not really. Schedule two coffee dates, one lunch date, and two dates for drinks to fill your calendar with potential male suitors. By the weekend, you should have date number two on your calendar. Even if you don’t meet ‘the one,’ you’ll be expanding your social network. I call it casting a wide net. You never know if a party invitation will follow.

Practice these five tips from now until Valentine’s Day and look forward to the possibility of finding love online.

Julie Spira is a top online dating expert, bestselling author and the founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.

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Cyber-Dating Expert 4th Irresistible Anniversary Celebration

CDEannivlogoEvery year at Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters, we have our Irresistible Anniversary Celebration. It was four years ago on October 15, 2008, that CyberDatingExpert.com, an online dating advice magazine was officially launched. Today, we’re honored to be considered the TOP online dating advice site on the planet and are helping more and more singles find love online.

It’s a joy to share with you our year-in-review and a few special announcements and offers for our Anniversary Week.

When we launched as a site to help singles while dating in a Web 2.0 World, we knew we could help singles in their cyber journey. We’d like to thank you for helping us remain the #1 online dating expert site on the Internet. In honor of our birthday, we’d like to give you a gift to help you while looking for love online and the largest discount ever on our Irresistible Profiles.

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Also during our irresistible anniversary celebration week, Like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert and post your update of “Happy Anniversary Cyber-Dating Expert. I’m looking for love online” to receive a free copy of The Perils of Cyber-Dating.

In addition, we’ll be answering your dating questions for FREE all weekend long. So do take a moment and join in on the fun. If you have a dating dilemma, let us know!

50% Off Irresistible Profiles

Need some extra hand-holding? We’re offering our readers 50% off our Going Steady and Totally in Love Programs, where we’ll create an irresistible online dating profile to help you shorten the search and ride into the digital sunset together. But don’t wait. This offer is only valid for new orders placed between October 15, 2012 – October 22, 2012. Click here to get started.

Bloomingdales – Beauty 101: Meet Your Match

October 20, 2012, 1PM To 2PM – 4PM To 5PM

Our week long celebration will end at Bloomingdales in Century City (Los Angeles), where it’s an honor to partner with Bloomies for their “Turn Your Beauty On” Promotion. We know you might need some help with finding your perfect makeup match to look super-beautiful on date night. Come see Cyber-Dating Expert Julie Spira at the Meet Your Match speed-beauty event. Julie will provide personalized dating and relationship advice. With your $25 ticket, redeemable in Cosmetics merchandise, you’ll receive free samples, light refreshments, and enter to win one of the many luxurious Cosmetics gift baskets. Stop by any Cosmetics counter to get your ticket now!? This is going to be a lot of fun and tickets are limited. Call 310-772-2144 to reserve your spot!

Now for a few bragging rights and in case you missed some of our highlights, we’re sharing our year-in-review for you.

Best Dating Blog Finalist

You voted for us for the best dating blog in the world and we became a finalist. Yes, there were thousands of votes and the competition was steep. CyberDatingExpert.com was the only dating advice site to be a finalist in both 2011 and 2012.? It’s with heartfelt thanks that we acknowledge your support.

In the News

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From Facebook to mobile dating, online dating safety to breaking up,? our dating advice reached millions on multiple continents! It was an honor to be named one of America’s Leading Relationship Experts in Woman’s World magazine.? Most of our media appearances can be found in our press room.

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Mobile Dating BootCamp

We hosted the first-ever Mobile Dating BootCamp and it was featured in the Washington Post. Mobile is the hot topic and we’re helping singles find love from the convenience of their mobile phones. We’re gearing up for Season Two of Mobile Dating BootCamp, and our mobile dating advice has been featured in/on Canadian Living, Mashable, Mobile Dia, NBC, and NPR.

Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps

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Back by popular demand and in conjunction with Social Media Week, we announced the Cyber Dating Expert Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps for 2012. This year, we expanded the list to include social discovery apps. Why wait until you get home to find a date? It’s time to start dating on your cell phone.? View our post to see all the features of our favorites this year.

Your Online Dating Stories

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From the bottom of my heart, all of us at Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters thank you for another amazing year of letting us help you find love in a Web 2.0 World. Do remember to like us on Facebook and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.

Testimonials

?I had spent several months waiting to hit ?go? on my online dating profile, unsure about my photos and insecure about the the wording of my responses. After spending just a few hours with Julie, we were able to craft a profile that truly reflects the real me. She insisted we post it live as soon as we were done. The results were unbelievable. Within hours, I received 5 thoughtful emails from men who fit my criteria. Several more soon followed and continue to pour in. Without her invaluable advice, I would have never had the kind of success I?ve been able to have. Thank you Julie!?
~Maggie, 35

?I had been happily married for 25 years and was nervous about starting over again. After healing from my husband?s death, I worked with online dating coach Julie Spira who gave me the confidence and tools for dating online. I signed up for the ?Totally in Love? package, where Julie created my profile and held my hand along the way. Within a week I met someone who I really liked. I became optimistic about finding love again. A few months later, I was pleasantly surprised as I fell in love with my Soul Mate.?
~Gail ? 56

?I worked with Julie Spira to rewrite my online dating profile. With her help and coaching, I was able to find more quality women to write to online.?
~Dean ? 35

 

Top 10 Best Mobile Dating Apps – 2012

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The 2012 list of the 10 Best Dating Apps selected by CyberDatingExpert.com now includes social discovery apps, which are becoming the new trend for dating and social networking. With the release of the iPhone 5, more singles than ever can have the opportunity to meet more quickly and on-the-fly. GPS or location-based dating apps are no longer for just hookups anymore.

According to Juniper Research, the mobile dating market is expected to be worth $2.3 billion by 2016. Earlier this year, online dating expert Julie Spira held the first-ever Mobile Dating Bootcamp to help singles find love more quickly and from the convenience of their mobile phones.

Since last year, the popularity of social discovery apps are taking center stage and most apps let you sign up directly from their Facebook page, so without further digital ado, here’s our list of the best mobile dating apps for 2012.

The 2012 List

1. Badoo -? Android, BlackBerry, iOS and Windows Phones

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2. MeetMoi – Android and iOS

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3. OkCupid – Ok Locals – Android and? iOS

oklocals 150x150OkCupid’s Locals launched in 2011 to help singles meet in-real-life. Their location-based app combines a Twitter-like broadcast feature with a FourSquare type location database. Users can broadcast their intentions, such as meeting at a bar or a sporting event, which will appear on the mobile phones of singles near by with like-minded interests. Singles can meet people near by and receive suggestions from their database. It’s flirting on-the-fly. Although two-thirds of their mobile users activate the GPS-positioning feature, users do have the ability to turn off the GPS functionality.

4. Grindr – Android, BlackBerry, iOS

Grindrlogo 150x150Grindr is the #1 location-based mobile only app for gay, bi and curious guys with over four million users in 192 countries around the world. Over 1.1 million users log on to the Grindr app on a daily basis. Free members can view 100 guys in their area. Grindr Xtra,? the premium paid version features a push notification even if the app is closed, has an online only view to see who’s currently online and does not include banner ads. Other premium features include “Profile Swipe,” where you use your left finger to display the next guy or right finger to view the previous profile, and the ability to view 300 profiles in the area.

5. Zoosk – Android, iOS, and web-based app

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6. Plenty of Fish – Android, iOS, Windows

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Plenty of Fish launched their mobile app in 2012. To date, over 900,000 people use POF apps each day in the United States. POF generates over 5 billion pageviews/month and 70% of their members who accessed POF.com did so from a mobile device. The app is completely free and is available in five languages, including English, French, German, Spanish, and Portuguese. POF has jumped on the local events bandwagon and sends push notifications of events in their members’ local area. Their Android app has a “Places” feature to provides users with a list of potential date hot spots.

7. Match Mobile – Android, BlackBerry, iOS, Windows 7, Palm, Web-based app

matchmobileMatch mobile was launched in 2007 as a mobile web feature. They’re available on a wide variety of platforms, as well as an HTML5 site to provide access to iOS devices. Free features allow members to wink, create and view profiles, and add users to their “Favorites.” In September of 2012, they created their Stir events mobile site for premium users. Other Premium features include reading and writing emails, and the “Who’s Viewed Me” feature. Users can sign up on Facebook and Android users can say “No Thanks” as well as view an enhanced photo gallery.

8. eHarmony -? Android, BlackBerry, iOS,? and iPad

eharmonyipad 150x150The eHarmony iPhone app was launched in August, 2010, but what makes them stand out on the list is their stunning eHarmony HD iPad app. In May of 2012, eHarmony added retina support for their iPad app. An average of 471, 338 mobile sessions take place among their apps every day, a significant growth since 2011.? Free service included the ability to sign up and complete their relationship questionnaire, as well as receive daily matches. Premium members can view their matches’ photos, send and receive email, and see when a match last logged on. In October, they will be launching a new enhanced look and feel for their mobile apps.

9. MeetMe – Android and iOS (Social Discovery App)

mobile logo icon tm reasonably smallMeetMe is a leading social network and social discovery app for meeting new people. Although not entirely a dating app, it’s the #1 top grossing Android app with over 40 million members worldwide and one-million daily active users in the U.S. MeetMe reports that 60% of their traffic comes from mobile with an even distribution of men and women. The app is free to use with features including “Locals” to find singles close by and “Ask Me.” Premium services include the ability to purchase credits to supercharge the social discovery experience, including featuring a photo in a spotlight bar. Users can sign up on Facebook. The app is now available in Spanish and Portuguese.

10. Tagged – Android, BlackBerry, iOS, Windows mobile (Social Discovery App)

tagged2 reasonably smallTagged is a social network and social discovery app to meet new people, make new friends and even find love. Their mobile app has been downloaded over six million times with over 300 million profiles to browse. Free membership allows for unlimited messaging, chatting, winking, and advanced people browsing, both worldwide and locally.Premium members can buy gold, send gifts and play in-app games. Users can login on Facebook and play an online game or share their interests. Tagged was listed in the Forbes “Top-100 Up-and-Coming Companies” in 2011.

Honorable mentions – Social Discovery honorable mentions this year go to Singles Around Me and Are You Interested. Singles Around Me differentiates itself from other mobile apps because they are geo-location centric and use maps in addition to distance. They’ve had over 1 million downloads and we give them a thumbs up for addressing privacy issues. With their “Approximate Location” singles can opt to find out where other members are in a 3-6 mile radius of their location, hide their location entirely, or show their exact location.? Are You Interested rebranded their mobile dating app to a social discovery app in August of 2012. They have over 6 million mobile app users and are focusing on friendship and dating based on users with similar interests

Is your favorite mobile dating app on the list? If not, feel free to add it to the comments.

CyberDatingExpert.com is a leading online dating advice site created by mobile dating and online dating expert Julie Spira. Spira was an early adopter of the Internet and has been an expert in the dating and social networking field from dial-up to mobile. She’s the host of Mobile Dating BootCamp and and creates irresistible online dating profiles for singles on the dating scene.? Spira reports on the latest trends in the online dating, mobile dating and the social media industry.

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Dating in a Mobile World [video]

What do you get when you match up 8 single daters and 8 mobile dating apps?

Hi, this is Julie Spira and I’ve created Mobile Dating Bootcamp, a social dating experience to help singles find love from the convenience of their mobile phones.

With over 14 million singles using mobile dating apps, we decided to put mobile to the test. Let’s see what the daters had to say.

For more videos, visit MobileDatingBootCamp.com and like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert


Online Dating in a Klout World – Tawkify Speaks Out

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Most singles who I coach on finding love online aren’t aware of Klout, social media reputation, or the marriage of social media and technology.

Perhaps they see their percentages of a Match on OkCupid with their Quiver matches, where a 90+ match is worth responding to.

Often they’re matched up on Chemistry.com with their Builder/Negotiator, Explorer/Director, created by biological anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher.

Most singles just want to find love, with any algorithm they can find.

So what happens when you marry a new dating site, Tawkify, created by Cyber-Dating Expert’s friend and Elle columnist E. Jean Carroll, with social influence site Klout? Talkify is the first dating site to partner with Klout? to use the Klout scores as a measurement of allure and as a prediction of falling in love. Curious to hear more?

E. Jean tells Klout, “In a series of blind experiments (the thirty couples we matched were not told we were using their Klout Scores), we?ve found that Klout Scores will predict the brilliance or dullness of match?-and how quickly people will click.”

I have to admit, I do check my Klout score daily and it’s been steady at 61 for a while, where I’m labeled a “Broadcaster.” I now qualify for Tawkify’s “Red Carpet Vip Service.” Does that mean I need to meet someone else who is social media savvy with a 60+ score? Not really as the best relationships I’ve been in are with men who don’t tweet. ?I’m excited to see how the two will work together and would be curious to see if a Klout personality type of “Broadcaster” will match nicely with a “Thought Leader” or “Celebrity” with an “Observer,” or even “Pundit” with a “Specialist.”

So how does Tawkify work? You fill out a profile, answer ten questions and on Monday night your phone rings with a match. I’m hoping if there’s no match, that they won’t deduct the credit from your account. Prices range from $8 for one match to $1499 for the miracle worker.(with a special New York Times offer of $250.

Another brand that I admire who has partnered with Klout is fashion site Gilt, where you get discounts based upon your Klout score. ?We’ll be excited to share a Klout love story any day in our Cyber Love Story of the Week.

At the end of the digital day, online dating has finally moved to what I call social dating, and it’s here to stay.

Question: Would you value your date’s Klout score? Would you take a digital peek before deciding to go on a date?

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and social media strategist. She’s the CEO and Editor-in-Chief at CyberDatingExpert.com. As an early adopter of online dating, Julie created her first profile in 1994. Today, she writes irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene and is an expert in mobile dating. ?For more dating advice, Like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.


Julie Spira, Online Dating Expert to Speak on Valentine’s Love Panel

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How digital is your love life??Come to the Digital LA – Love Goes Digital panel on February 13, 2012, ?where we’ll be talking about online and social dating.

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January 31, 2012 — Los Angeles, CA — Julie Spira, bestselling author of ?The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online? and a frequent media guest on the subject of online and social dating will be a featured panelist on the first-ever “Love Goes Digital” panel, hosted by Digital LA on February 13, 2012.

Julie will discuss social dating trends, how she helps singles by creating their online dating profiles, and about how she successfully used social media strategies to help her online dating book become a bestseller.

?For our pre-Valentine?s Day Digital LA ? Loves Goes Digital panel, we want to celebrate by getting LA?s experts in online dating and love together, to share tips, trends, and success stories in building dating/love related blogs and businesses,? said Kevin Winston, Digital LA founder. ?It?s the first time we know of that local dating and love experts have been gathered on a panel in Los Angeles.?

The event will be held at Hotel Shangri-La in Santa Monica, CA.

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Online Dating Minute – Social Dating and All That Jazzed

The secret to a successful online dating site is a combination of social dating, mobile dating, matching, and a critical mass of members. Jazzed, created by eHarmony appears to be successful at combining all four.

The social dating site announced their official launch today with over 500,000 members and more than 250,000 mobile downloads of their iOS and Android apps.

In an exclusive video interview for the Online Dating Minute, I spoke with Grant Hosford, Senior Director at Jazzed, who shared a behind the scenes look at the dating site, including what inspired eHarmony to create a social dating site, as well as describing some of their features.

In addition, you can connect with Jazzed_Kate, their official Twitter account with over 16,000 followers who provides dating advice and customer service.

Are you ready to start adding your social networking sites such as Facebook, Twitter, and Netflix on your profiles? Are you interested in joining a site to expand your social network and meet more friends? ?Your comments and thoughts are welcome.

Julie Spira is known worldwide as the leading online dating expert. She provides dating and relationship advice on CyberDatingExpert.com, where singles and couples share their online dating stories. Connect with Julie on Twitter @JulieSpira and at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert

Mobile Phone Etiquette for National Cell Phone Courtesy Month

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According to the International Telecommunications Union, there are an estimated 5.3 billion mobile subscribers worldwide and the number is growing. In addition, 6.1 trillion SMS messages were sent in 2010. It?s no wonder with these numbers that cell phone etiquette, or in reality netiquette is on the decline.

So how does this enormous mobile phone usage affect matters of the heart?

In a recent survey on the relationship between cell phones and dating, social dating community Zoosk found out their members were extremely frustrated as they constantly competed with cell phones on a date. In short, daters are regularly breaking the rules of netiquette in a variety of ways with glancing at their cell phones during a date leading the list.

Alex Mehr, co-founder and co-CEO of Zoosk said, ?”We are surprised to hear that flagrantly reckless cell phone behavior has driven one third of singles to actually get up and excuse themselves from a date altogether. It’s our hope that singles follow proper cell phone etiquette to ensure that a mobile faux pas doesn’t ‘cell’ their date short.”

I?m personally not surprised in the least by their findings, as I?ve gone on record as saying, ?Your mobile phone isn?t an accessory.” I believe that unless you?re expecting a call from the President of the United States or a kidney transplant, your should leave it in your purse or pocket while on a date.

So without further digital adieu, here are some of the results of Zoosk survey.

  • 1/3 of singles say they left a date early, because the other person was too absorbed with their cell phone
  • 86% of singles say, constantly glancing at a cell phone is the? most offensive mobile-related? behavior, worse than sending a text
  • 51% of singles think taking a call on a date is offensive
  • 25% of female Zooskers have dumped their guy in a text message, as compared to 15% of the men
  • Only 25% of singles didn’t mind when their date was distracted by their cell phone
  • 73% of singles do like hearing their date’s voice on their voicemail

At the end of the digital day, leave a voicemail message for your sweetheart and make sure they remain higher on the totem pole than your mobile device.

Do you have any mobile dating pet peeves? Comments and thoughts are welcome

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and coach and creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. She’s the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com, like her at facebook.com/cyberdatingexpert and follow her on twitter @JulieSpira

 

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