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Valentine?s Day Dating Dos and Don?ts

candyhearts 150x150Now that it?s February, Valentine?s Day is just around the corner. I?ve always said that Valentine?s Day for a woman is like the Super Bowl for men, so pick up some red candy hearts, grab your lipstick, and read our 10 tips to prepare for the Super Bowl of Love, Valentine?s Day.

1. Do discuss Valentine?s Day with the person you are dating. If one of you loves the holiday and the other can?t bear it, come up with a compromise. Valentine?s is on a Tuesday this year. Pick a night for a romantic dinner in between the Super Bowl and Valentine?s and avoid the high-priced dining reservations.

2. Don?t wait until the week before to ask her to spend the Valentine?s with you. If you are dating someone special and you know for sure you?d like her to be your Valentine, ask her out at least two weeks in advance.

3. Do make a dinner reservation for February 14th, even if you?re dateless on February 1st. Go ahead and reserve a table and be open to the possibilities. You can always cancel the reservation when it gets closer to Valentine?s Day, if you haven?t already developed a new crush during crunch time.

4. Don?t ask her out for Valentine?s Day in an email or a text message. This is the time for you to either pick up the phone and call or better yet, ask her in person if your relationship is going well.

5. Do try in-room dining this year. Light some candles, cook up a simple meal in the kitchen together and look forward to a steamy dessert.

6. Don?t go overboard with flowers. It?s the thought that counts. Stop by your local grocery story and pick up one long stemmed rose. It has the same impact as the full dozen and is 1/12th the price.

7. Do accept invitations for Valentine?s dances and parties the weekend before February 14th if you?re single. You won?t feel alone with so many other singles in a fun and flirty setting. Wear pink or red for the occasion and say yes if someone asks you to be his or her Valentine. You may not fall in love with your Valentine, but you might just find a new loyal friend.

8. Don?t make gift giving too much pressure. You may still be paying off your credit card bill from the holidays. A card, a hug, and some lingerie and massage oils will make a memorable evening and won?t break the bank.

10. Do wake up in the morning and wish your loved one a Happy Valentine?s Day in a voicemail, email, or text message to let them know that you?re looking forward to spending the evening together. If you?re friends on Facebook and have posted your status as ?In a Relationship,? take it a step further and wish them a Happy Valentine?s Day on their wall.

9. Don?t be blue if you can?t be with your sweetheart on Valentine?s Day. Schedule a SKYPE date, wear red, put on your lipstick, and flirt the night away with your long distance love.

Do you look forward to or dread Valentine?s Day? We?d like to hear your comments.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice, sign up for the Weekly Flirt and Like us at Facebook. Follow Julie on Twitter @JulieSpira

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Match.com Study Shows Single Parents Date More than Singles who are Childless

singleparents 150x150For those of you who are dating and are wondering if being a single parent will affect your love life, there?s good news for you. Match.com released their biggest singles study ever and the findings showed that not only do single parents go out on more dates than singles without kids, but more single parents (21%) are actively dating as compared to those without kids (16%).

The ?Single in America? study led by Dr. Helen Fisher, biological anthropologist and chief scientific advisor for Match.com? and Chemistry.com? focused on key myths about singles. Dr. Fisher stated, ?I am fascinated to learn that men are just as eager to marry and have children, and more eager to compromise in a relationship.

Some of the key myths in the study included:

Myth: Young singles today are promiscuous.
Fact: More people in the 21-34 age group say they have never had sex. To be precise, 24% of men and 23% of women ages 21-34 are virgins.

Myth: I love you implies a serious commitment.
Fact: 31% of singles believe that ?I love you? means ?I want you in my life? and 30% believe it means ?I care about you.? Only 14% think it means ?I want to spend the rest of my life with you? and 19% that ?I want to have a committed relationship with you.?

Myth: Unemployed means unlucky in love.
Fact: 50% of singles would be open to dating someone unemployed if they found the person interesting.

Myth: Hook-ups never turn into relationships.
Fact: 36% of singles are open to a casual hook-up in the near future; and 54% of singles have had a one-night stand. 35% of singles have had a one-night stand that turned into a long term partnership.

Dr. Fisher appeared on Good Morning America where she stated, ?The single most interesting thing in the study is that 35% of men and women who had initially met someone they found not attractive, eventually later fell passionately in love with them.?

So how does this news affect online daters? Dr. Fisher said that singles are more willing to date outside their faith and ethnicity and the age gap between couples has widened. My advice for singles looking for love online, widen your search parameters on your online dating profile and be more open to the possibilities. Accept that second date and see if the relationship can develop.

Are you a single parent? Are you finding dating challenging or are you making the time and effort to have a love life? Comments are welcome.

For more details of the study, visit http://blog.match.com/singles-study/

For Lovers and Lovers in Waiting Live Chat

I’m super-excited to have been selected by GenConnect to host their live Valentine’s chat this week, “For Lovers and Lovers in Waiting.”

Click on the link below on Thursday, February 3rd at 3:30pm, EST/ 12:30pm/PST for a live Q & A, where I’ll answer all of your relationship questions leading up to Valentine’s Day. I know how stressful Valentine’s can be. I see all the red candy hearts in the grocery store. Regardless of your relationship stage, take a moment and join our live chat. The best part is, one person will win an Irresistible online dating profile, valued at $495.

Our hashtag on twitter is #gCLove so you can follow the conversation.

Live Chat With Cyber Dating Expert Julie Spira

Valentine’s Etiquette – Dos and Don’ts for Your Valentine

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Christmas was barely over when the stores turned their holiday red into holiday hearts in preparation for Valentine?s Day.

As we?re a few weeks away from the day that women dream about every year and that some men purposely book business trips to avoid the pressure of the season, it?s time to take a look at the dos and don?ts for Valentine?s Day for every type of love stage.

1.???? Do make a dinner reservation for February 14th. Even if you don?t have a date in mind, go ahead and reserve a table on OpenTable.com. Many restaurants book up in January. You can always cancel the reservation if you find yourself dateless on the days leading up to Valentine?s.

2.???? Don?t ask her out for Valentine?s Day in an email or a text message. This is the time for you to either pick up the phone and call or better yet, ask her in person if your date is going well.

3.???? Do discuss Valentine?s Day with the person you are dating. If one of you loves the holiday and the other can?t bear it, come up with a compromise. Valentine?s is on a Monday this year. Pick a different night for a romantic dinner and make it a special date night on one of the days leading up to the 14th.

4.???? Don?t go overboard with flowers. It?s the thought that counts. Stop by your local grocery story and pick up one long stemmed rose. It has the same impact as the full dozen and is 1/12th the price.

5.???? Don?t wait until the week before to ask her to spend the Valentine?s with you. If you are dating someone special and you know for sure you?d like her to be your Valentine, ask her out at least two weeks in advance.

6.???? Do try in-room dining this year. Light some candles, cook up a simple meal in the kitchen together and look forward to a steamy dessert.

7.???? Don?t make gift giving too much pressure. You may still be paying your credit card bill from the holidays. A card, a hug, and some lingerie and massage oils will make a memorable evening.

8.???? Do accept invitations for Valentine?s dances and parties the weekend before February 14th. You won?t feel alone with so many other singles in a fun and flirty setting. Wear red for the occasion and say yes if someone asks you to be his or her Valentine.

9.???? Don?t be blue if you can?t be with your sweetheart on Valentine?s Day. Schedule a SKYPE date, wear red, and flirt the night away with your long distance love.

10.?? Do wake up and wish your loved one a Happy Valentine?s Day in a voicemail, email, or text message to let them know that you?re looking forward to spending the evening together.

Do you look forward or dread Valentine?s Day? We?d like to hear your comments.

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