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Tyra Banks on Online Dating

Tyra Banks featured a segment on her show about online dating, hook ups, and sexting.

She started The Tyra Show by stating that 60% of women say the Internet has changed their sex lives. She asked the audience to stand up if they had ever sex texted. Very few were willing to admit they had indulged in the habit. Tyra said she had an audience full of liars.

On the program Tyra said, “Personally I am not against online dating. There are a million steps you need to take before meeting that person, in person.”

Tyra doesn’t recommend meeting someone online if you are a teenager. “Please do not do that. It’s not safe,” she said. I have to agree. Most online dating sites require you to be 18 years or older to sign up.

Tyra’s panel consisted of four women in favor of sexting, and four who were vehemently against it for safety and self-esteem reasons.

One panelist said she likes to sex-text her boyfriend before he goes to sleep at night. Another panelist says it helps her relationship with her boyfriend while she is away at college.

I subscribe to the safety first theory. Just last week I was a guest on WPIX in New York with Tamsen Fadal and the subject was, cyber-dating safety. I provided some ways to date online, safely, which included:

  • Don’t give out your last name
  • Don’t give out your home address
  • Don’t talk about  money
  • If you’re uncomfortable, leave

Keep in mind,  your online communication often becomes public record and can be indexed by Google and the search engines. Think twice before pressing the send button, turning on your webcam, or uploading that risky video. If your relationship doesn’t end well, you don’t want your sexting history out there for the world to see.

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Julie Spira is known worldwide as the Cyber-Dating Expert. She is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com

CyberDating Tips for Spring Fever

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It’s the first week of Spring and if love isn’t in the air yet, I’ll give you a cyber-nudge with some dating advice to help along.

Whether you are interested in a spring fling or finding a serious relationship, be open to all of the possibilities. With the change of seasons comes a new attitude, both online and offline.  Outdoor cafes are filled with patrons again. Convertible tops are down, and it’s time to tune up your flirting techniques and jump back on the cyber-dating saddle.

With this in mind, here are a few Cyber-Dating Tips for those with Spring Fever and those who might benefit from the contagious effect the season brings.

Cyber-Dating Tip #1 – Dress for Success. Appearance counts online and offline. After all, isn’t it your goal to turn that online romance into an offline relationship? Spend an afternoon spring-cleaning session in your very own closet. Recycle a dress or pant suit in your closet and make it your first date outfit.

Cyber-Dating Tip #2 – Sensual Scent. Try a fresh new perfume or cologne to wear on your first online date. Hopefully your date won’t be allergic and will find your sexy scent appealing enough to graduate to a second date.

Cyber-Dating Tip #3 – Turn on your webcam. Many online dating sites now offer webcam or video chat as part of their features. Go ahead and put on your lipstick and comb your hair. Remember to smile. It’s show time. By using video chat, your potential honey will know it’s the real you and not your younger sister. This will prevent that disappointing look one receives when the photos of their cyber-dates don’t match up in real life.

Cyber-Dating Tip #4 – Renew and Refresh. If you’ve let your online dating account expire, go ahead and renew your membership. Refresh your profile with new photos and a new catchy screen name. Need a little help? Check out IRRESISTIBLE profiles, and we’ll help you in your quest to find love online.

Cyber-Dating Tip #5 – It’s a numbers game. We know that online dating can be a lot of work and is time consuming. So is finding your dream job and working out at the gym. Allocate an hour a day every day to your online dating site. Respond to, or write to at least 5 online profiles every day for one week and see what happens. Check out who’s viewed your profile or added you to their favorites or hot lists and send them an email. Initiate the conversation and you may find someone who will be so flattered to hear from you.

If you are lucky in love and meet the one online, let us know. We may feature you in the Cyber Love Story of the Week.

Julie Spira is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com