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Why Would the World’s Worst Dating Profile Still Attract Men?

Screen Shot 2014 01 08 at 6.59.49 PM 150x150It’s a story that’s gone viral on the Internet. A woman in Los Angeles created a fake OkCupid online dating profile to see if men would write back to her, no matter how horrible she was. She did and they did.

As a radio show guest on WLW in Cincinnati, I spoke with Eddie and Tracy about Alli Reed’s experiment. (You’ll need to fast forward 45 minutes to our segment).

For starters, I’m against experiments which entail misrepresentation of people, especially when it includes matters of the heart.

To add to it, anything that would harm another, put down people and be downright rude is at the bottom of the totem pole, even if it ever gets to the dating totem pole.

Still, one has to ask, why would such a horrific profile named AaronCarterFan attract slews of men? Did they even know who Aaron Carter was? Why were these men writing to this angry woman who fakes pregnancies for money, is actively looking just to hook up, and is filled with typos and more?

Let’s start with the fact that both men and women are visual. Alli posted, with permission, a photo of a friend instead of herself. Her friend was a model. Sure, it’s ‘Catfishing’ at its best. Guys like hot chicks who have a sultry face. They don’t even need to read the profile. While not gender specific, I have to point out that women also like handsome men and bad boys.

Second, she appeared to be easy in the bedroom, yet difficult to score with, meaning she was a challenge. Guys love the chase and love a challenge. Guys knew that there was an “auction” going on and the highest bidder of the hundreds of emails that she was receiving would win the prize, or would it? Her experiment yielded 150 emails in 24 hours. That’s a pretty active response.

After responding to these men to keep the experiment alive, Alli posted the details of her experiment on Cracked.com, where she shared the four lessons learned.

In her blog, she says, “So I made the OkCupid profile of the Worst Woman on Earth, hoping to prove that there exists an online dating profile so loathsome that no man would message it. I did not accomplish my goal.”

She engaged in over 500 emails and made National TV, which could help her writing career.

Does this mean that nice guys and good girls finish last? I don’t think so. At the end of the digital day, I’ll defer to the Fleetwood Mac song which says “Players on love you when they’re playing.” I’ll take the nice guy any day.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She was an early adopter of the Internet and creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene. For online dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter.

 

Julie Spira to Appear on WLW Radio

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Cyber-Dating Expert Julie Spira will appear on AM700 WLW in Cincinnati today at 5:45pm, eastern time to talk about online dating and the recent news story about BeautifulPeople.com.

Spira, is a frequent guest on WLW on the subject of Internet dating. She will provide her dating advice and opinions on the 5000 singles who were ousted from Beautiful People, an exclusive online dating site earlier this month. Those single who appeared to have had a noticeable weight gain over the holidays, were sent away by the site’s voting members.

To listen to the show with hosts Eddie Fingers and Tracy Jones, visit WLW at 700WLW.com

Julie Spira is known worldwide as The Cyber-Dating Expert?. She is the author of the online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com