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  1. Two of Us
    July 26, 2012

    I think the difference here is the man wanted to just put out a line to as many women as he can and see if any caught. The woman’s use of the wink was specialized to the one guy who looked at her profile but didn’t make contact. I think the intentions behind the wink are the difference in this case. Thanks for the article!

    • Julie Spira
      July 26, 2012

      Thanks for chiming in. Yes, online dating is a numbers game, but it can be overwhelming as well. Dating too many people or having too many conversations at once can often backfire. Narrow down your list of what you’re looking for and focus on the traits that you’re looking for in a date or a mate.

  2. Ms. Cheevious
    July 26, 2012

    I’m not dating online anymore, but I have done a TON of it – on MANY sites. I hated when men winked at me. I see it as lazy or lacking any confidence. It makes me ask “are you friggin’ interested or NOT?” If I perused your profile and didn’t write, well, feel free to write and ask why… Yes – there is a double standard. Women can wink and it’s an attractive thing to most guys – almost seen as demure – men do it and women are so overprotective of themselves and their online presence it’s either seen as smarmy / slimy or simply the above (lazy/lacking confidence)… that’s all. LOL

    • Julie Spira
      July 26, 2012

      Thanks for your comment and for sharing your experience with online dating. Sure it’s fine to look at the winks, but most women don’t take them seriously. As an advocate of digital dating, I still think there are some good chivalrous traits that will capture a woman’s heart.

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